Do you ever have an argument or discussion with your partner and think, ‘I have no idea what to say right now’ or ‘I’m so mad that I can’t even hear you’? This post is meant to help guide you through a difficult conversation and manage feelings between you and your loved ones. I will use the word “partner” because communication between couples can be particularly difficult, but it could apply to a family member, a colleague, or a friend. Step 1: Put yourself on hold, temporarily
Yes, it is irritating when you feel like you've sent the message loud and clear that you like or want something in your relationship, and your partner doesn't hear or follow through. Sometimes, our men (and women too) act clueless. For various reasons, they completely miss what you've said, or don't respond in a way you'd like. If a healthy and happy relationship is what you want, try these four ways to help your partner get a clue:
Despite all the opposition Miley and Liam are getting from the press, this engagement is a great call. Yes, it's true that they are very young. Yes, they are celebrities, and yes, the odds are seriously against this union. This is especially true if we were to listen to public opinion, a bevy of relationship experts, over-protective parents or the ridiculously inaccurate divorce rate statistics.
Relationships get better when couples learn how to speak their own language - a language that works for them as a couple. Unfortunately, gaps in communication can lead to unresolved conflict, discontentment, resentment and, gone unbridged, may be the cause that ultimately ends the relationship - though a particular issue may be named as the culprit.
Recently here at YourTango, relationships expert Julianne Cantarella gave her advice about what to do when a guy prefers texting to calling you on the phone. Along with pointing out that if you're anti-texting you should address it early on in the relationship, she also stated the following: "Texting can create a false sense of intimacy allowing you to believe that you're in an exclusive relationship when you really aren't."
Last week I suggested that revitalizing your relationship involves looking at what you're doing, and how you're doing it. Today's list addresses both dimensions of your relationship, with two essential communication tips (#10) and a practice of connecting with yourself that I recommend everyone try at least once (#9). But this should top the list: create loving connection by being the first to reach out with affectionate touch, a compliment or expressions of endearment.
The quality of your love life is directly tied to the messages you send. These messages stem from your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions. If your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions are not congruent, you’ll send mixed messages. Sending mixed instead of clear messages guarantees a love relationship that is not sustainable — one fraught with frustration, disappointment and a superficial connection. A mixed message can look like this:
It happens for just about everyone. At some point while growing up or as an adult, the vow is made, "I'll never be like my mother!" This could be a rejection of her habits, values, opinions, or lifestyle choices. This also possibly includes the way that you perceive how she mis-handled her marriage or love relationship.
There has been much debate over the film, "The Hunger Games." Sadly, it isn't the debate fans bargained for. What started as a family-friendly, must-see film has turned into a nightmare for the actors and actresses portraying various diverse characters.
To be wrongly accused is a horrible feeling-- especially when the one accusing you is your love. It's uncomfortable when you've made a mistake, haven't fessed up yet and are walking around dreading that fateful moment when you'll have to come clean about what you did. On the other hand, it's almost unbearable to be blind-sided by allegations from your partner that have completely no grounding in the facts that are clear to you.
I know that this question alone raises many eyebrows; especially since my memoir, which is still in production, recounts the many experiences that have led me to this point in my life as N. Meridian, the writer who shrouds herself behind words. However, because of my past, because of my daughter, I feel the need to protect her while hiding in plain sight.
In "Love Games, Part 1," I mentioned the various things a woman should consider in place of pouting to tear her man away from his video game. For instance, get dolled up and venture out. I should mention that sometimes a man really needs his space. Allowing him to have his man-time will only make him miss you afterwards...in most cases. But if your man always needs alone time, or you’re suffering from ‘I need you to more spend time with me or else,’ then consider the following.
There is nothing like mind games to put him in his place and remind him of the sex goddess you once were. Sometimes, women need to venture out and leave their man to his wiles. Am I talking about literally going out on a night on the town with the girls? Maybe. Why not? But if you don’t feel like a girl’s night out, make plans of your own. Sometimes, we spend so much time wrapped up in our families, especially our men, that we often neglect ourselves and our own interests.