In political chambers throughout the country, including in our national Capitol, political leaders give annual addresses to talk about how we are doing and what challenges we need to face in the year ahead. Thinking about the highlights offered in the State of the Union tonight, there are similar categories that you could use to evaluate your union. How would you rate your marriage, domes
After a little Valentine’s Day swooning with I love you to the moon and back cards, a dozen long stemmed roses wrapped in red tissue paper and a fancy dinner, is your man expecting some kind of bedroom reward? You betcha. How much money does a guy have to spend to get lucky on Valentine’s Day anyway? I’ve got some data from a 2013 survey with thousands of respondents that will tell you exactly how much men are spending on the ladies in hopes that a little romancing will have a big bedroom payoff.
The 7 Step Cookie Jar Method To Have An Epic Dating Life & Great Communication I’m always talking about dating, sex, love and relationships with all kinds of people that I meet from all walks of life, and I pay attention to what they say. A man I know, who I kind-of met online, and kind-of met in a coffee shop, have become great friends and you can guess what our favorite topics is… relationships.
“You’ve got to accentuate the positive.” (Song by Harold Arlen & Johnny Mercer, 1944) A positive attitude (or even a less negative attitude) has the potential to change lives. This old song lyric came to mind while reading The Roller-Coaster Years – Raising Your Child Through the Maddening Yet Magical Middle School Years (Gianetti & Sagarese). This is a fascinating book for parents of 10-15-year-olds, and for parents who want a gl
When a couple goes through a divorce process, many times there is the assumption by various divorce professionals involved with them that they are seeking a divorce. While on some level that may be true, it is frequently far from being their main goal. Quite often the true agenda is hidden, disguised, or not clearly stated. In my experience these agendas represent 80% of the divorce process, while the actual tasks are no more than 20% of work.
Too many people go through their lives without saying how they feel, what they want and what they really think. They do so to keep the peace, to please or gain approval or because they’re worried they’ll lose the one they love if they don’t remain silent. Have you lost your voice?
We often tell our kids what not to do, when our goal actually is for them to do it differently, or better. Our parents probably did the same with us. We're so used to the negative language. * Don't leave your clothes on the floor. * Don't leave the milk on the counter. * Don't be late coming home from the party.
Adults love to give kids warnings when a rule is broken and would love to believe warnings are a highly compassionate method of parenting, a reflection of our loving and kind humanity. But guess what? Warnings may be the farthest thing from true compassion. Though almost always well-intentioned, warnings will routinely backfire. Here are the main reasons why:
Question: I have been married for nineteen years and I was wondering if you know what I should do. The problem is that my husband always ignores me when he’s watching TV - no matter what is on - even during commercials. What can I do to stop that? I feel so useless and unwanted. ...Marie
There are no secrets to being a ‘good’ parent. There are no truly “new” ideas out there. It’s all about a few basic principles: respect, responsibility, truth, flexibility, resilience, courage. Show it in words and actions so your kids know exactly how it looks and sounds. Those are the building blocks. Do them with greater and greater frequency and watch things change.
This was a difficult blog post for me to write because it caused me to remember some of those embarrassing moments in which I have put my own foot into my mouth and felt like the woman in this photo. Whether or not you have ADHD, I am sure we can all look back over a time when we wished we had not blurted something out while at a meeting or social engagement. But for individuals with ADHD, this problem can create a lot of anxiety and stress around business and social functions. In addition, the inability to read social cues
Living with a mate who doesn’t express emotions can be one of the most difficult challenges of your life. No matter how much you try to speak to your mate, it’s like you’re speaking to a wall. As one mate said, “Living with my unemotional husband is like living in two different worlds.” Another said, “It’s worse than living in a prison or taking care of another child.” If you wonder why you live with someone who does not fulfill your emotional needs or you work so hard to make the relationship work with little to show for it, he