"More and more Americans over age 50 are choosing to live with their partner instead of getting married, according to a new study, which found that cohabitation among adults in that age range has more than doubled in the past decade." —"More Americans Over 50 Live Together But Don't Marry" by Megan Gannon, News Editor, LiveScience®
You keep going through the motions, but not feeling it. This is how it sometimes goes when a relationship or marriage is at its end. The whole thing can seem like a bad dream and you just hope that, one day, you'll wake up and it will be over.
Have you noticed that nagging, whining, complaining, sternly directing, yelling, criticizing and freaking out don’t seem to get you what you want from a partner, family member, friend, colleague or child? In a previous article, "Asking for What You Want," I explained how to ask cleanly and directly for what you want, and that being direct has a better success rate. While that’s true, it isn’t infallible. Sometimes, it’s necessary to use a technique I call "gentle persistence."
The most power we have during a conflict is to notice when we’re triggered. Look for physical cues, sensations in your body, your tell-tale signs. As soon as you notice the tightness in your jaw or the heaviness in your chest, walk away. An argument is not what the conversation is about as much as the strong emotional reaction that happens when you’re triggered, and one of the keys to conflict resolution is to try not to engage when you're triggered!
No matter how old you are, chances are you've engaged in one of the latest texting trends: sexting. Sexting is sending a somewhat naughty text to someone, in hopes to rev up their engine, if you will. By following these tips below, you'll be geared up to give good sext in no time.
No matter how old your children are, even if they are adult professionals, it is never too late to connect and build strong relationships. These tips are simple but effective ways to communicate your love and support and to celebrate loving connections.
You can be a better listener in five minutes. Here are five listening skills that you can use right away—starting with your next conversation. The more you use these attentive listening skills, the better your relationships will become, because people will notice. Becoming an assertive communicator is an acquired skill that is easy to do once you know how. The bottom line is everyone likes to be heard. This article is in response to readers and clients asking “what else” we can actively do to be better listeners.
Most arguments begin from a lack of clarity, a miscommunication or a false belief. Couples argue when they feel misunderstood or under-appreciated. These dynamics can lead to disconnection and resentment if they aren't cleared up. To clean up an old argument, or to avoid a new one, here are four ways.
Violence is not limited to the physical realm. Words can be brutal, violent and abusive to a great extent, often without intent. Projecting violence in words is counterproductive and toxic for the sender as much as for the recipient. MB Rosenberg, the thinker behind non-violent communication, nailed down the 6 communication behaviors we'd better avoid:
For years I was a big believer in "keeping secrets" in a relationship. They weren't "secrets" as much as having privacy. Not once did I check his text messages or his email (even though I had his password). Then I found out my fiancé was living a secret life as a gay man.
At a time when fifty percent (or more) of marriages end in divorce, it is no surprise that one of the most frequent questions I am asked is, “Is there anything I can do to keep my marriage/relationship from falling apart?” The good news is, yes, if you and your partner really want your relationship to “go the distance” and avoid being just another sad, divorce statistic, there are three specific, and deceptively simple things you can do right now to start
Do you ever have an argument or discussion with your partner and think, ‘I have no idea what to say right now’ or ‘I’m so mad that I can’t even hear you’? This post is meant to help guide you through a difficult conversation and manage feelings between you and your loved ones. I will use the word “partner” because communication between couples can be particularly difficult, but it could apply to a family member, a colleague, or a friend. Step 1: Put yourself on hold, temporarily
Apologies are much more than a trite or perfunctory exercise, the kind of half-hearted statements we might have offered as children when we were told to apologize for something we’d done. On the contrary, when coupled with genuine self-reflection, an apology can go a long way in repairing trust and re-establishing connection. Stepping forward when we’ve erred or hurt someone is ennobling and promotes reconciliation.