Do you have to like or love someone to be considerate, kind and courteous? The answer to that question is simply- No. You can be respectful without agreeing with, or even liking another person. One reason this is such a vital life skill for our children, is for the rest of their lives they will need to interact with, work with and deal with people they may feel are unpleasant. At a young age we begin to establish our own boundaries.
Weehawken, N.J., June 27, 2011 – Psychotherapist and relationship coach David S. Wilde has released a CD, "Peeling the Onion and Mending Your Marriage", a "how-to" guide for couples, providing practical tools, techniques and guided meditations to help spouses escape endless bickering. David is a former NY trial lawyer who switched to the more amicable career of helping couples.
I know that this question alone raises many eyebrows; especially since my memoir, which is still in production, recounts the many experiences that have led me to this point in my life as N. Meridian, the writer who shrouds herself behind words. However, because of my past, because of my daughter, I feel the need to protect her while hiding in plain sight.
Can a heterosexual man and woman truly just be friends? If you are in a heterosexual relationship with someone who has a close friend of the opposite sex you might be grappling with this gnawing question. Of course you want your mate to have friends and people in his or her life to count on and be close to in addition to you. At the same time, nobody wants to be taken for a fool. You might feel like you have to stay on alert-- What if your partner's friend has ulterior motives?
In a relationship, it is not unusual for couples to have conflicts that result in heated arguments. There is nothing wrong with this. Arguments, if observed at a positive angle, can actually be healthy for the relationship. But, just like everything else, too much of something is not good and can easily lead to relationships breaking up.
Do you find that you have a pattern of trying to hide your negative feelings from a man who isn't treating you the way you wish he would? When we women love a man and feel that his feelings for us are not as strong as ours are, we feel A LOT of intense, scary feelings, most of which are negative. We are bitter, sad, scared, anxious and even angry. We also feel like we have to hold these feelings inside. We feel we have to stuff them down, keep them under wraps, so that our man doesn’t get turned off by our draining emotions.
For more half-baked unified theories, visit http://ununifiedtheories.blogspot.com/ Okay everyone. It’s time to start conceptualizing crying differently. First, keep in mind that although I’m talking about “crying,” different people handle stress in different ways. I often cry when life seems just a little too hard to deal with, but others go on a swearing binge, get angry, or withdraw.
No relationship is perfect. We all know this. We're not perfect and therefore our relationships will never be perfect either. That's okay. That's normal. But success in relationships — romantic and otherwise — have a lot to do with proper communication. In fact, most relationship problems are caused by poor communication.
Since meeting and marrying Marc, some assume that because of my deep intuitive gifts that somehow I have an edge when it comes to keeping our lines of communication open and operational. Wrong. Not only did Marc come into my life in my fourth decade on the planet, I also brought into this life time a host of past patterns and attitudes that are present for my growth and development as a soul. Remember, I still have the yammering and stammering of my Goblin.
Last week, I wrote an article entitled, “Are You Committing These 12 Fatal Relationship Errors?” [EXPERT]. As a counselor educator, I am frequently telling other counselors that “stop doing” plans never work. We can tell people to stop doing something but without developing an alternative behavior, it will be difficult to make it work. People need to know what they are supposed to do instead when they find themselves wanting to engage in the forbidden behavior.
A recent study looked at the survival rates of patients who had undergone coronary artery bypass surgery. The results of this study were eye opening. It was discovered that people in happy marriages were 3.2 times more likely to survive 15 years after the surgery than their not so happily married counterparts. It was found that a happy marriage provided more emotional support and also a greater likelihood of adapting and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. A happy, satisfying marriage can be the biggest factor in our overall wellbeing and survival. Here are some of the b
Valentine’s Day—the ultimate day of romance, fairy tales, and absolutely ideal intimacy. This year, how about something else—how about honoring your relationship and your sexuality by doing a reality check on an issue that complicates, confuses, and frustrates a lot of people? Porn. His porn.
Often in our relationships we struggle with communication. There are truly a vast amount of issues, troubles, and concerns in regards to communicating with our partners. In this short article, I am going to touch on just five of those. Instead of saying, "We just don't communicate anymore," we need to become aware what walls are standing in the midst of our communication. What is stopping us from talking to or hearing our partner? We mustn't play the blame game either. When we take a real look at the walls - the blocks - in our communication we might be surprised.
We all make mistakes in our relationship from time to time. They can range in severity from forgetting to take out the trash to lying about using the nearly maxed out credit card or from spacing out your anniversary to having an online affair. When you're in a love relationship or marriage, both of you will periodically say or do the “wrong” thing.
We believe it's possible to come out of the other side better and stronger as a couple, however, dramatic changes need to happen in order for the relationship to survive. This is not something that can change quickly or without effort. There’s a shift that must take place for both parties to rectify and move on — together.
Before it gets to busy - before we get in the autumn swing of costumes, turkey and Nativity scenes, we need to intentionally think about how to stay connected to our spouses as life gets crazy. Here are four ways to stay connected with your spouse so your marriage doesn't take a back seat during this busy season.