It's important to be open and honest with your partner, but how do you do that without stirring up unnecessary drama in your relationship? Our expert explains how to get your message across and avoid conflict.
Sometimes, it helps to have a third party's perspective on your relationship — especially when your fling is far flung. Counseling can help you work through trust issues and establish a stronger bond with your partner while you are living separately.
As an expert, my job is to ask the tough questions that, in the excitement of a new romance, the couple may not have considered. Here are several questions every couple should consider before moving in together or making joint financial commitments.
When we fall in love, everything seems so simple. We want to be with someone and that someone wants to be with you too. But unfortunately, the rest of life isn't as simple as all that. We're entangled in other committments whether it be our jobs, our kids and other family matters. So at what point do you owe it to a new partner to give full disclosure of your past? And at what point should you expect the same in return?
As I rule, I try to resist the pressure to write articles with holiday themes. It just feels a bit cliché and there are so many of them running rampant out there in cyberspace. Sometimes I feel the spirit that lies within our holidays gets lost within the onslaught of messages.
Don't you think it's kind of funny how we expect ourselves and our partners to just magically “know” where our sexual sweet spots are? Especially because chances are, no one has ever taught us about our own "pleasure anatomy," much less how to communicate, stimulate, and bring pleasure to others.
We all know we should spend more quality time talking to our partners, but knowing how to have heart-to-heart talks in the busy-ness of everyday life is easier said than done. Couples therapy experts recommend spending a bit of time together every day to check in with each other. This is more realistic and sustainable when combined with an activity you’re already be doing every day, such as having breakfast or dinner together, or when you settle down and get comfy at night.
I help my clients see beneath the "fog of war" and get down to what's real — that's where the solution can be found. When two people constantly dig in and fortify their positions, the conflict only blinds both partners and prolongs the battle. That is, until one partner steps up. Only in that moment can healing begin.
Want to know how to suck the life out of a woman? Stop communicating with her. Stop returning her phone calls, or her text messages. Or answering the phone. Just stop talking to her. But don’t tell her why. And then watch her shrivel into someone you don’t recognize. If there’s one thing I’ve learned as I get older, it’s that communication is the key to almost everything.
You finally moved in together: a huge step! You've been dating for a while and you think this person might be the one. But how will you be prepared for the issues that arise when you move in with your partner?
When your partner is angry or controlling, what do you do? According to our expert, this is the healthiest thing you can do in a tumultuous relationship.
Dr. Romance writes: It seems logical that like would attract like, but in my private practice as a marriage counselor and psychotherapist, I often see people drawn to their opposite ‑‑ because it's new and exciting. However, what’s exciting in the newness of romance often becomes unbearable in the constant contact of a long time relationship. If you and your partner don’t have a certain degree of similarity, your relationship will be too stressful to last.
A friend of mine recently said to me, somewhat in awe, "I'm just discovering that energy is everything!" Right, it is, but what does this mean, exactly? Our energy is the frequency, or vibration, that automatically emanates from our being, and is a result of our intention. Each of us is always radiating energy.
It’s just amazing at how good we are at the stories we tell ourselves. Making up stories happens so fast that we don’t even realize what champions we have become at story-telling! And then those stories dictate our thoughts, our perceptions and ultimately our lives. We have a story or opinion on everything, it seems.
It may seem obvious to some, but not all, that the best relationships are ones born out of trust and vulnerability. Each partner approaches one another as an equal. The relationship does not drain its participants; instead it nourishes. Differences between partners are complementary. These differences are advantageous and desirable and do not create a hindrance to the relationship; instead they contribute to its growth.