What makes for a happy, fulfilled relationship? While this is a complex question that doesn’t lend itself to a quick answer, there are aspects of successful and lasting relationships that have been studied by experts and many approaches to pick from. The good news is that if you are in a relatively happy relationship, there are some simple things you can do – positive behaviors – that can make your relationship better.
As we inch closer to Valentine's Day, and continue on our 30 Days Of Love journey, today we're extolling the virtues of communication.
Does this sound familiar when your child comes home from school? How was your day? Fine. How was school? Good. How was the test? Okay. Anything else to tell me? Nope. Not much going on there! These are sure-fire conversation killers. And whatever question you do ask, don't ask it as soon you walk in the door. When asked about that, a group of middle school girls responded that after six or more hours in school, the last thing they want to talk about is what happened there. They need time to decompress, too.
From my experience when working with people. One of reoccurring themes that I find myself reiterating or speaking to clients about is the importance of communication. In my opinion, communication is essential. It is the only way that we are able to let others know how we are feeling, what we think, and more importantly what we think or feel about others and their actions. Often times, I feel that people who are engaged in relationships (weather it be a friendship, romantic relationships, or family relationship) think if a person is close to them...
"In most ways, kids are pretty much the same as they've always been. Nuts. But in most ways, the world around them is incomprehensibly different. And also nuts... It is an adolescent world different from the one you recall... When your son tells you that you "don't understand," trust him. You don't. Neither do I. He lives in a culture foreign to both of us." - Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy! by Michael J. Bradley, Ed.D
Becoming more self-aware and empathetic will lead to more effective communication within your relationships. And better communication makes for happier relationships — doesn't that sound nice?
If the Olympic games offered nagging as a competitive sport, my mother would take the gold, silver and bronze. I never wanted to be like my mother, and I consciously chose to be as un-nag-like as possible in all my relationships. And when I got married, I let a lot of things happen that I didn't necessarily want to happen, simply because I was too afraid to speak up. I have learned the hard way that marriage is all about communication and without it, well, it's just a matter of time before someone asks for a divorce...if they can get up the nerve to actually ask for one.
Sometimes bad body language or our actions can be just as detrimental as outright complaining. Discover the sneaky ways you're actually nagging... and learn how to let go of them with these effective communication tips!
Take out the garbage—it stinks! How many times do I have to ask you to put the toilet seat down? Please clean the glasses in the sink before you use a new one. Yes, even if you're polite about it, the fact remains: You're nagging. Again. And trust us, it's taking a toll on your relationship. That's why we're devoting the next seven to nag-free communication. That's right, it's Nag-Free Week, and we invite all of our attached readers to improve their relationships by nixing the nagging completely and communicating in a healthy way for an entire week (and hopefully beyond).
Your partner is supposed to be there for you to make life's hardships easier, but do you ever feel like he makes it more difficult? If you want your knight in shining armor back, here's some must-read marriage advice: stop trying to make him into someone he's not.
Everyone gets angry from time to time, but to keep your relationships healthy you need to figure out what your anger is telling you, and then communicate it the best way you can. Our personal development coach helps you figure out the steps.
Parenting in the modern age is definitely different than the way you were raised, and you might even think it's technology's fault when things mess up. But instead of looking at how your kids communicate, it might be time to look at what they're communicating.
What absolutely guarantees that you will not get what you want? Effective communication is key to giving and receiving properly, so take this expert's tips and find yourself in the right corner.