Recently here at YourTango, relationships expert Julianne Cantarella gave her advice about what to do when a guy prefers texting to calling you on the phone. Along with pointing out that if you're anti-texting you should address it early on in the relationship, she also stated the following: "Texting can create a false sense of intimacy allowing you to believe that you're in an exclusive relationship when you really aren't."
I think it is appropriate that my first column should deal with the most fundamental truth about men, and that is this: Men are simple. I know some of you may be thinking that I’ve completely sold out my brethren in an effort to pander to my female readers and gain their trust. But that is just not true. Because “simple” is not bad, or inferior, or lacking value and substance. “Simple” means simply…not complex.
Most women are natural born communicators. In other words, we love to talk! We share everything with our close friends and at times, we are reliant on the feedback we receive. This is especially true when it comes to relationships. If your boyfriend surprises you with a lunch date after you've had a difficult meeting, who is the first person to know about it-besides Facebook and Instagram, of course? Your closest friends! On the flip, if he is in a crappy mood, doesn't load the dishwasher or seems distant, who do you reach out to...your closest
The quality of your love life is directly tied to the messages you send. These messages stem from your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions. If your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions are not congruent, you’ll send mixed messages. Sending mixed instead of clear messages guarantees a love relationship that is not sustainable — one fraught with frustration, disappointment and a superficial connection. A mixed message can look like this:
One of the topics I cover in depth in my workshops is the vast differences between men and women. I’m always amazed at the shock and disbelief my female students express when they realize how much simpler men are compared to women. Men really are one trick ponies in a sense, operating on one or two tracks at any given time. This is quite different compared to women who are buzzzzzzing on 16 different tracks, emotions and buttons all at the same time.
Dr. Romance writes: There are a few simple communication techniques that work like magic in relationships, whether with committed partners, friends, co-workers or relatives. One of the most effective is reassurance, which is simple to do , and calms both of you down, which allows your discussion move on without struggles. When a discussion begins to get difficult, if you learn to stay calm and reassure the other person you’ll find it works very effectively.
For The Conscious Woman With a Conservative Background I have checked these off my list (although always working on it!) and now I'm here to help you do the same. Wake up with more excitement for the day to come. Experience more motivation to take better care of yourself. More passion, purpose and direction in life.
These are tough economic times. Whether we have been hard hit by the economic recession through the loss of our job, concerned or depressed by the loss of our savings for retirement or in real estate, or worried about the future ... we are stressed. It is crucial to understand the different ways we deal with stress as men and women and to learn how to best meet each other's emotional needs.
As a therapist one of the first things I say to people in a first session is that they can talk however they want with me including swearing (just not at me, please). The words that I want them to get rid of are not those dirty words that their mothers told them never to say. Mine are words and phrases that cut a person down or give messages that hold them back. Language is more powerful than we often give it credit for.
Since one in five relationships now begins online, most of us have either posted or at least viewed various profiles. Some are straightforward, lengthy, playful, sparse or even downright misleading. Some are sexy, trashy and all together mind blogging. But scantily clad pictures and interesting backgrounds aside, it's the words that ultimately grab our attention and tell us whether he's a maybe, a no-go or a potential keeper.
Ah, love! What rapturous, torturous words have been set down to try and capture the essence of love. Those clever Greeks, who invented the Olympics, also invented many names for love—Cupid, Eros, Venus, Aphrodite—and each name represented an aspect of love. The ancient Greeks had several words for several categories of love—they did not attempt to squeeze all of it into four little letters! Eros was erotic, or sexual love; Philos was brotherly love; Agape was altruistic, spiritual love. The Latin poet Ovid spoke of amor ludens, or playful love—love as a game.
I think it's so annoying when girls won't eat a big meal in front of their date, or just have to wear a full face of makeup whenever a guy they like is around. We're humans, not dolls with no organs, and last time I checked, men feel pretty comfortable burping and the rest around us.
Steve came to see me when the physical discomfort of carrying around extra weight was worse than the pleasure of overeating all of his favorite high-fat, high-calorie foods. My promise of no dieting or deprivation was especially appealing to him because he had never had to deal with losing weight earlier in life and was at a loss on managing it alone. He was in a busy, high-stress career and had never taken the time to shop for food or cook.