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WANTED: Previously Married and Attractive Males

WANTED: Previously Married and Attractive Males

Divorced men may seem attractive, but how do you secure a marriage when it's the second time around?

While in the U.K., women who are looking to get married are more inclined to lean towards divorced men, the opposite is true for the U.S. Second marriages tend to fail faster than first marriages. In this article, Mary Jo Rapini reveals some tips to help make sure a remarriage works out when a first marriage did not.

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Would you recognize a commitment-phobe?

8 Tell-Tale Signs Of A Commitment-Phobe

Hunting for husband material? These signs suggest hunting elsewhere.

Amy is dealing with a man who suffers from commitment-phobia and a deep fear of intimacy. His own negative self-beliefs about commitment, love and relationships will guarantee that this relationship won't last.

What to Say and How to Say It: A Conflict Model That Works!

What to Say and How to Say It: A Conflict Model That Works!

Here is a two-step process for successfully resolving conflict between two people

As I have mentioned before in this series (The Eight Simple Rules to Managing Conflict), the biggest key to effectively resolving conflict is preparation. When we have time to prepare we do much better in resolving conflict than when it is thrust upon us and all we can do is react. When I mediate conflicts, I include a preparation and coaching phase with both parties individually before I ever bring them together. This added phase is critical to a successful mediation, resulting in both parties being prepared, goal-focused, and ready for resolution.

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Are you ready for the next level?

Casual to Committed: How to Turn Your Relationship Around [EXPERT

Plus: 6 steps to avoid a relationship rut!

Understandably, sex has always been an emotionally charged subject for women. After all, there are so many religious, cultural, emotional and personal issues attached to it. And, it is often said that women are the gatekeepers to sex, while guys are the gatekeepers to commitment. As a result, many women have a love-hate of relationship with sex.

Is He Emotionally Unavailable Or Is He Just Not That Into You?

Is He Emotionally Unavailable Or Is He Just Not That Into You?

Being In Love With An EUM Isn't Easy But There Are Ways To Beat Him At His Own Game

Through my coaching practice, I have been seeing and helping so many women dealing with what they think as emotional unavailability in a man. In fact I just wrote an ebook dealing with this very pertinent issue: how to date emotionally unavailable guys and come out on top. I have been pleasantly surprised by the response so far. So many women come out of the woodwork and share with me their heartbreaking stories of dealing with guys who can't or won't commit or move the relationship to the next level. Or guys who can't even label the relationship! Sounds familiar to you? Read on....

Fight or Flight? 2 Ways To Handle Relationship Conflicts

Fight or Flight? 2 Ways To Handle Relationship Conflicts

Don't run away every time an argument starts.

The fight or flight response is a natural response to danger. Our bodies are created to fight or flee when danger is upon us, such as being attacked by a mountain lion. When faced with this kind of danger, the stress hormones pour into our body, causing some blood to leave our brains and organs and go into our arms and legs. This is vital to us if we are actually being attacked by a mountain lion or a mugger. The problem is that this same response occurs when we become afraid in other situations, such as conflict with a partner.

Always Ask for What You Need!

Always Ask for What You Need!

You wouldn't be in a conflict if an underlying need wasn't being met. Ask for what you need!

I had a love-hate relationship with my old boss. The love part was my incredible respect for this former Olympic gold medalist turned CEO of one of the leading professional development companies in the world. He was one of those people who could make an audience laugh, cry, and get inspired—all at the same time. People always came up to me after one of Terry’s amazing speeches to say how lucky I was to work for this man. I’d smile and say, “I sure am”, knowing I was lying through my teeth.

The Martial Art Of Listening

The Martial Art Of Listening

We already have the ability to diffuse an argument. It's the ability to listen and understand.

“I need a volunteer…Greg?” Wow, that was more like telling than asking, I thought. “Sure Ron, I’d be glad to volunteer.” Ron asked me to stand in front of the group as he approached. I knew he picked me for a reason but wasn’t quite sure why…that is until his hands hit my chest with such force that I stumbled back a couple of steps. “What are you doing?” I yelled, trying to regain my composure.

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Same-sex marriage leads to what?

The Shocking Effect Of Marriage On Same-Sex Couples

Despite the joy surrounding the legalization of gay marriage, one sobering statistic remains.

On November 6, 2012, Maine became the first state in the country to approve gay by voter referendum. Most same-sex couples celebrated the news. But, presented with the possibility of getting married, other gay couples began reacting in an unexpected way.

In Sickness and in Health?  That Depends.

In Sickness and in Health? That Depends.

One would think wedding vows are unambiguous.  Straightforward.  No subtext, no exceptions.  Love is love. Right?“ "Not so,” say some men.  “If you get really sick or disabled, I’m outta here.” A study published in the journal Cancer reported that, of the 515 married patients with serious cancer or multiple sclerosis followed over 5 years, the divorce rate was about the same as among the general population, 11.6%.  The difference was that women were 6 times more likely to be the ones bei