Married & Gay: Talking with Your Children Pt. 4

Advice on speaking with your kids when divorcing because of your sexual orientation.

Speaking with your kids about an impending divorce is scary enough; adding to that the news that your sexual orientation is changing and the stress involved doubles. If there is no burning need to tell your children about your coming out, take the time to come to your own place of self-acceptance before discussing it with them. It’s important that when you decide to share your new orientation with them, you are not speaking from a place of shame and guilt. If shame comes through in your communication, you’re sending a message to them that it is wrong or embarrassing.

Kid In A Candy Store...It's Ok, You're On Track! [EXPERT]

You’re not alone if you feel like a kid in a candy store after coming out of the closet!

Whether you have a sweet tooth or not, there’s a delicious stimulation of the senses that occurs when you live your truth. Hard as it may seem to believe or understand, living as your “true self” is like a delicious taste of Godiva chocolate. Intense flavor, rich sensual stimulation, deep seeded satisfaction...and yes I am still talking about the chocolate. However, coming out and into your truth has a similar effect, even though at times you may ask yourself “Where’s the sweetness in this journey?”

Married & Gay: Talking With Your Husband Pt. 3

Gay and Married? Work on the business of ending one phase of your life to begin another.

Unless you have made a conscious decision to stay in your marriage and reaffirm your relationship with your husband (and some do), you will need to work on the business of ending one phase of your life in order to start another. Before I get into that, I want to stress that the process of your self-acceptance and readiness to leave your marriage should be done in your own time. Don’t feel rushed to make hasty decisions—by your spouse, a new love, or anyone else. Take the time YOU need to figure out what it is you want.

Is He Gay? [EXPERT]

Some signs are obvious, others not so much. Either way, getting to the truth is a win/win...really!

From the onset, I want to make one thing perfectly clear, “Knowing for sure, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that your husband is gay is next to impossible until it’s a reality!” Take me for example, and many of the “married but gay” clients that I work with, until we grow the balls to say, “Frankly my dear I’m gay,” it was pretty hard for most people to see it.

Questioning your Sexuality at Midlife -Pt 1

Questioning your sexuality while married or in a long-term relationship?

Alone, scared and confused. These words could be used to describe a lost child, but in this case, they’re not. They are the very real and daily feelings of a woman at midlife who is questioning her sexuality. For those of you who’ve been there, this may take you back to a place you’d rather not visit. For many others, it represents the beginning of a totally new and ultimately joyful journey—one of living the life you were meant to and being open and honest about yourself, maybe for the first time.

Parenting Lessons From Kirk Cameron's Anti-Gay Comment [EXPERT]

The teen idol reacts to homosexuality and what he would say if one of his own kids came out.

Hearing Kirk Cameron on CNN's Piers Morgan's show discussing his beliefs that homosexuality is "unnatural" "detrimental" and "ultimately destructive" is disappointing to say the least. Watching your teen idol fall from grace is never easy.

'White Collar' Hottie Matt Bomer Comes Out Of The Closet

After much speculation, the 34-year-old actor revealed that he's gay at a recent event.

After dancing around speculation about his romantic life for years, actor Matt Bomer, star of the USA Network's hit TV show White Collar, has come out of the closet and publicly revealed that he's a gay man!

Frankly My Dear I'm Gay - Part 4

Who do you really want to be when the dust settles after your spouse comes out of the closet?

Thus far in this series, we’ve addressed the why, what, and how questions that you may find yourself asking after a spouse declares, “Frankly My Dear I’m Gay!” Each of these questions presents unique nuances and a multitude of answers.

Frankly My Dear I'm Gay - Part 3

Slapped in the face by “Honey I’m Gay,” leads to “How the hell do I do this break-up?!”

How? It’s one of the deepest most thought provoking words that we utilize to communicate. When it's used to begin analyzing the “gay bomb revelation” it can make us feel really small and incompetent. How could I not have known he was gay? How did I let myself get sucked into her gay charade? How will I ever face my friends as the idiot who married a “gay?”

Frankly My Dear I'm Gay - Part 2

When the "I'm Gay bomb" implodes your beliefs in happily ever after, it's time to say, "What's next?

In Part 1 of this series, we addressed the question of “Why?” "Why did my “heterosexual” partner marry me when he/she knew they were gay/lesbian?" This question has been asked numerous times throughout history as many a man and woman have come out to their beloveds. The answers to this question are as varied and unique as the individuals who taken this road less traveled.

Frankly My Dear I'm Gay - Part 1

Discover why asking "why" doesn't solve anything when your partner tells you "I'm Gay."

There are more individuals “coming out of the closet” to live their sexual truths than ever before in history (well at least it appears that way!). Why? The most obvious reason is that homosexuality is becoming more accepted.