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We Stopped Having Sex For God

When we became more dedicated to our faith, we learned we had to give up sex before marriage.

I'm a guy who really enjoyed his (soon to be) wife. But I felt like I was supposed to stop having sex with this woman. My prayers went something like this: "Really God? That's what you want me to do? But we're getting married in just a couple months. What's the big deal about it? Isn't getting married enough? Why do we need to stop having sex?" I never got up the courage to pray about moving out. I was afraid of what the answer might be.

Links We Love: Christian Sex And Holy Sex Toys

Links We Love: Christian Sex And Holy Sex Toys

Are Christian sex toys hot or too holy? And other links we love.

Every week, Traditional Love rounds up the best love and relationships news with a traditional slant. This week, there was a lot of sexy activity happening among the holies. Check it out, plus 7 other links (and a video) we love this week.

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Christian Sex Toys: Spicy Or Sacrilegious?

The offerings of Christian sex toy shops might surprise you.

The Huffington Post recently published a short piece on Book 22, an online sex aid shop for married Christians. The store's name Song of Solomon, the Bible's famously erotic twenty-second book. We weren't sure what to expect before logging on — essence of frankincese and myrrh massage oils? Dildos shaped like the staff of a shepherd? The possibilities are endless, even borderline sacrilegious. The Best Sex Toys for Couples

Church Depicts Mary & Joseph Bored In Bed

Church Depicts Mary & Joseph Bored In Bed

Is this advertisement blasphemous, genius, or a little of both?

A church in Auckland, New Zealand has found a novel way of drumming up little publicity: advertisements in poor taste. St. Matthews In The City church decided to depict Mary and Joseph in bed in order to start a conversation or two. Some find it blasphemous... some find it hilarious... either way, the church knew what it was doing.

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How I Became A Divorced Virgin

A five-year marriage with no sex: the true story of a divorced virgin.

How I became a divorced virgin: "I was twenty-nine, single again after a five-year marriage, and a virgin. When I met my now ex-husband Mike, I had just turned 21. We met at small Catholic liberal arts college, and even though I no longer believed in Jesus, the Saints, the Bible, God, really any of that. I was a virgin then, and I was a virgin when we divorced."

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Religion, Faith And Spirituality In Relationships

Religion and relationships: interfaith dating, sex and spirituality, dating and more.

Religion, faith and spiritualiy are essential components of a relationship—or are they? Religion is a fraught topic in today's society, and YourTango wants to help answer your questions about interfaith relationships, conversion, sex and religion, dating someone of a different faith, spirituality and religion within marriage and other questions. Check out our stories below to learn more about the intersection of love, sex and religion.

Is Divorce a Sin?

Is Divorce a Sin?

The relationship between divorce and Christianity is fraught with tension, faith, and war.

Many Christians are dealing with the conflict between religion and divorce in the same way Henry VIII did, by redefining how they interact approach their faith. "When I sat down and thought about my divorce and my faith," says Dr. Linda Seger, who holds her doctorate in theology from The Graduate Theological Union, "I thought, if it's true that a divorced person can't get remarried, and find happiness after the misery of a marriage, then a bad marriage is the only unforgiveable sin. I could murder someone, serve my time, be forgiven, and start life again and, possibly, find happiness. But this would mean that I couldn't marry someone, divorce him, and then find happiness through love and marriage."

Now There's Erotica for the Evangelical Set

From The Globe and Mail By Siri Agrell Richard Davies was reading The New York Times books section when he spotted a full-page advertisement for sex guides. A spokesman for Victoria-based online book retailer Abe Books, Mr. Davies wondered what kind of guides his customers were ordering, and ran a search of the company's database. "I knew there was demand for collectible erotica, things like The Pop-Up Kama Sutra," he said. "But we put together our bestselling list and, lo and behold, a Christian guide was No. 1." Of the top 10 sex guides ordered by Abe Books users, five have religious or spiritual themes, ranging from Christian how-tos to "Taoist methods for male sexual revitalization." Tango’s Take