The best advice I can offer you is to treat your husband the way you treat your kids when you want them to do something. Be mindful that behavior modification doesn't occur overnight, and that you'll need to tweak it to each husband individually.
By Dr. James G. Wellborn, for GalTime.com Like so many parental expectations and requirements, getting your kid in the habit of doing chores will help prepare them for the real world (if you can ever get them to move out). Here are some of the most important benefits kids derive from assigned chores. Responsibility (or “I’m not your maid!”)
What’s with the quality time that everyone tries to accomplish with their families? Do you run yourselves ragged trying to cram a week’s worth of quality time into your evenings and weekends. As a result, you feel even more pressure and guilt because all this quality time has left no time for housework and the more mundane aspects of family life.
We hate to break it to you, but equality in marriage doesn't always seem to work. A study out of Norway suggests that the divorce rate for couples who share the housework is 50 percent higher than in marriages where the wife does all the chores herself. Say what?
After our daughter was born, I realized I needed to give up some control in order to quit nagging my husband. I could no longer micro-manage trash day, toilet scrubbing and the proper placement of towels after a shower. I needed to begin to trust that even without my seemingly gentle reminders, things would get done.
Gretchen Rubin, author of the brand new book The Happiness Project, has a suggestion for people who want to make their dating lives happier: Quit nagging!
Good news, moms! The new school year is underway! The time that parents celebrate and kids dread. There are so many new things happening this time of year that many kids feel a bit overwhelmed. New teachers, new schools, new friends…it's a lot! But in my house, that's not all that's new! With each new school year comes a new level of responsibility for my kids. "I'm one of the big kids, now!"
Ladies, when you've finished cooking dinner, washing the dishes, folding the laundry and sweeping the floors, what kind of reward do you receive from your husband? A kiss? A foot massage? A week-long getaway with your girlfriends? Wait, you don't receive any of those things? That's what we thought. But, despite the fact that women do the housework with no promise of praise upon completion, an Australian news host has proposed an incentive program to encourage men to chip in around the house.
Almost every cohabiting couple fights about household chores. When faced with a dirty sink, most of us will resort to one of two things: nagging our guy until he gives in, or doing it ourselves even though it's definitely not our turn. Unless you're naturally generous, the latter usually leads to resentment, which is why Kelly Oxford, a writer for GQ magazine, suggests that women offer men sexual favors in exchange for doing the chores.
Do you think you're doing your spouse a great act of love when you do the laundry or take out the trash? I would challenge you to rethink that. Responsibilities of life are different than really loving your spouse. So what is love really? Read on to find out.
In the beginning, when you are in love, it's easy to be insular and believe that you and your partner have everything figured out, that nothing can ever shake you, that you will never fight and nothing so stupid as socks on the floor could ever make you raise your voice at that adorable face. I don't mean to be condescending about this. It's a great time. Every couple has it and it is my sincere wish that it last as long as possible. But it doesn't. At some point, in every marriage, you find yourself sobbing into your pillow over toothpaste caps and if you don't you are a Stepford Wife.
