My mother chose my husband. Thirty years later, I chose my daughter's husband. No, these were not arranged marriages. They were simply the influences of a mother upon her daughter's choice for a mate.
You are who are you are right now because of everything you've experienced to this point. Take it, embrace it and build your life based on who you are with no regrets. Define yourself according to you not someone else. Here's how to start.
A good friend of mine told me a while back that if I couldn’t articulate in my mind what it was I wanted for my life I would never get it. She was right. It’s not that I don’t know what I want for my life even though most of us can articulate what we don’t want a lot easier than what we do want. Once we say it, think it, or write it down, it’s tangible…it’s out there, and we can no longer ignore it. It’s not a matter of being self-centered. It’s saying I will no longer settle for what comes my way. I want to choose.
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Life is too short and too precious to waste time being unhappy, resentful or dissatisfied. You are the only one responsible for your own perceptions of the reality that you live in and you are the only one who can change it! Every moment offers a choice of what we think, say and do. We never know when our last day of living may be, so it is important to live life to its fullest and make the most of what we have at this time. But how can we do this when we feel “stuck”?
Did you ever play that silly party game called 'Would You Rather'? It worked like this: You would be offered two completely awful choices - equally ludicrous, usually gross, and often involving sex - and you had to choose which option you would rather take. A very mild example is: Would you rather live the rest of your life with no electricity or with no plumbing?
When you live a life of reaction instead of response, you seldom choose your actions. Do you feel: at the mercy of whatever life throws your way like you're fulfilling other's agendas that your own needs are seldom met you are constantly setting aside your dreams and goals as if you are a background extra instead of in the leading role
When you get down to brass tacks (okay, throwing in some Military terms as well), I really see life as only having two options. You can make it a spectator sport or you can live it on the field making the big plays. I've never had the patience to sit and watch others for very long. If it is a chance to witness mastery, like Olympic or World Level athletes, I'll invest the time. For the most part, I would rather be engaged and in action instead of being the quiet observer.
In yesterday's blog posted on my website, I shared with you the story of reaching one of the most critical and difficult points in the journey of caregiving for my late husband. Click on over there today to read Part 2 on how choosing became the key to finding freedom and love again. A simple, but profound approach that can shift your life right now.
We all have them. You get up and the skies are gloomy or you stub your toe or your hair just won’t go right…for real. Though any one or all three of those shouldn’t set the tone for the rest of your day, it’s a pretty common occurrence. 3. Set a boundary. You get to choose the impact an event or circumstance has on you. When something great happens, allow the ripple effect to flow through your day. This is the kind of energy that feeds you.
Dr. Adam Sheck, "The Passion Doctor" shares the CHOICE acronym to create a more loving, passionate relationship.
Although Frank seemed to be the man of Ali's dreams, the bachelorette still has two handsome, eager, adoring and completely different men in front of her: Chris L., the kind-hearted, down-to-earth landscaper from Cape Cod, and Roberto, the sexy, Spanish-speaking former baseball player (with the body to match!). You might look at it as a decision between sugar and spice. So, when it comes to men, which is the better pick? We've sized up the men below. When it comes to men and dating, is it better to opt for sweet and kind or spice and sexy?
