When our first-born child, Stella was only 2 hours old, I said to my husband, "You better have a darn good relationship with her for her entire life. You may be the only connection we have to her in her teen years." He just looked at me like I was crazy. In his defense, I probably was a little crazy. I had just gone through labor. That said, I clarified my statement to him the next day and still stand by statement today. This is how that conversation went:
This back-to-school time is a special one for me. Our oldest child is starting Kindergarten. While I have spent years talking to parents about how to help them get their children ready for school, this year, I am living it right along with millions of other parents. I find myself feeling excited, sad, scared, worried, eager, and confused. Can you relate to any of that? I am pretty sure our daughter feels all those emotions as well. So, the questions becomes, how do we deal with all this transition?
Today is a day of blessings and thankfulness. I get to spend Mother's Day with my very own mother and my fabulous kids, as well as my hubby. As I observe my little family and notice all that I am thankful for, I can't help but think about the many people who walk into my office and lack their own mother to celebrate with.
I have the wonderful opportunity of having many educators in my life. Several of my dearest friends are educators. Many of my colleagues work in the school setting. I knew at an early age that education would be important in my own life and pursued an education undergraduate degree. Although, I have never been a “teacher” in a classroom filled with kids, I have been an educator to many through the trainings that I do. My favorite topic to train educators on is “Strategies for Educating Traumatized Children.”
Today was a bit of a tough day at work. I sat with a family who has weathered one of the worst storms that a person could ever imagine…childhood sexual abuse. Children, under the age of 5, traded for sex and video taped for porn. Now, a decade later, these children have to deal with their inner demons. No, they are no longer living with the people who did this to them. No, they have no contact at all with anyone from that part of their life. Yes, they are physically safe. Yes, their heart and their minds are changed forever.
WARNING: I will be ranting today! I have some major energy in the above topic. So, if you are easily offended or sensitive, please stop reading now and return for a later blog! That said, let’s chat about tolerance versus acceptance. I see the word “tolerance” everywhere…teach kids tolerance, we need to tolerate others, human resources departments that have tolerance policies…ugh! This drives me crazy. The reality is that tolerance is much different and less positive than acceptance!
Anger is a powerful, strong emotion, so we need powerful, strong strategies to help release that anger. As adults, we need to have our anger strategies figured out before we attempt to figure that out with our own children. Then, we must remember that our children's emotions are their emotions, not ours.
One of the best feelings in the world is when a child’s eyes light up in recognition and they run at you, throwing their little arms around you for a big hug and cuddle. I remember promising myself when I was about ten years old and dealing with my father’s death that I would never lose that innocence, and wonder and joy for life.
When choosing a nanny for their children, indeed the nanny has to fit into the family dynamics and lifestyle, but more importantly, the nanny must be qualified to do the job well. When interviewing a nanny for your family, here are my top five things you should rate your nanny on.
I believe that one of the most important investments we can make as parents is in the quality of food we feed our children. Every bite they take influences their development and their future health and wellness. And with that said, probably one of the biggest and most common challenges that parents face is getting their kids, and sometimes spouses, to eat their vegetables. Children's taste buds are more sensitized, especially with bitter foods and because some of the healthiest vegetables are bitter, here lies the challenge. If you're frustrated because your visions of your family digging into a heaping pile of steamed broccoli or asking for more spinach salad at the dinner table aren't a reality, consider that there are as many ways to encourage your kids and spouse to eat their peas as there are vegetables.
On July 20, I woke up to a flurry of texts asking me if I was okay. As a New Yorker staying in Boulder, Colorado in July visiting my sister and her family, I was asleep at 8 a.m. mountain time, while back east my friends and family already knew what had happened less than eight hours before in Aurora. I dragged myself from my bed to turn on the news and watched in horror, as we all did, the tragic events that occurred at that Dark Knight showing in Aurora.
We generally do not associate murder and mayhem with movies. Nor should we have to. But, I am always searching for teachable moments — even in life's most unexpected moments, no matter how wondrous or gruesome. It is my life's work and passion to identify them. And so, I suggest the following to parents:
©JudyHWright http://www.judyhwright.com We all have weaknesses that are hard to accept. Parents, teachers and caring adults see areas that need improvement in children and want to help them build confidence. The trick is to build confidence and acceptance without criticism and breaking the spirit. As I have mentioned in previous articles and books, “Soar with Your Strengths.”
A northern Indiana man has pleaded guilty to several charges after driving three blocks with four children strapped to his car's hood while he was intoxicated.