By Jessica Smith for CupidsPulse.com Parenthood, that is, bringing a child into this world with your own DNA, is a miracle. Sure, it’s an extraordinary undertaking and a definite blessing, but it can also be one giant pain in the butt.
YourTango invites you to join us on Tuesday, September 11 for two hours as we share the questions and answers and enjoy insightful discussion about methods to make sure that your relationship stands the test of time — and tiny fingers.
Couples without kids are probably so much happier than couples with kids. After all, couples without kids have fewer financial constraints, fewer responsibilities and more time to themselves. Plus, waking up to change diapers in the middle of the night must make coupled parents totally miserable, right?
Spanking is one of those hot button parenting topics and most people have a strong belief on one side or the other. When considering discipline methods, I always talk to parents about 1) what are you teaching your child 2) are you modeling the behavior you want your child to emulate and 3) what is the long term impact/consequence of the discipline method you are employing.
YourTango surveyed 101 mental health professionals to find out all the dirt about couples who have children. From what they fight about more than anything else to how they rekindle the romance after the baby is born, this survey reveals all the juicy details you've always wanted to know — but have been afraid to ask — about love after kids.
Imagine trying to communicate with someone who speaks a totally different language. Perhaps, a foster parent who is raising a foster child, a stepparent learning how to raise a stepchild. What are our choices? Do we continue to say the same thing over and over, hoping that the other person will understand our language? Do we learn to speak their language?
As a parent, you want what is best for your children. You want them to be smarter, better looking and more well-rounded than you are. You want them to be liked by their peers and to succeed in school. As such, you worry. And, with worrying comes anxiety which can turn into depression. Here are five ways to help you stop worrying so much:
7 Ways To Parent Better Teamwork What responsibilities do you and your spouse take on as parents? It’s important to find your style of parenting with teamwork. How do you help each other? Do you have to ask or is it just expected? It’s important to communicate with one another what your strengths are as parents because it will be easier to divide up tasks.
When our first-born child, Stella was only 2 hours old, I said to my husband, "You better have a darn good relationship with her for her entire life. You may be the only connection we have to her in her teen years." He just looked at me like I was crazy. In his defense, I probably was a little crazy. I had just gone through labor. That said, I clarified my statement to him the next day and still stand by statement today. This is how that conversation went:
This back-to-school time is a special one for me. Our oldest child is starting Kindergarten. While I have spent years talking to parents about how to help them get their children ready for school, this year, I am living it right along with millions of other parents. I find myself feeling excited, sad, scared, worried, eager, and confused. Can you relate to any of that? I am pretty sure our daughter feels all those emotions as well. So, the questions becomes, how do we deal with all this transition?
Today is a day of blessings and thankfulness. I get to spend Mother's Day with my very own mother and my fabulous kids, as well as my hubby. As I observe my little family and notice all that I am thankful for, I can't help but think about the many people who walk into my office and lack their own mother to celebrate with.
I have the wonderful opportunity of having many educators in my life. Several of my dearest friends are educators. Many of my colleagues work in the school setting. I knew at an early age that education would be important in my own life and pursued an education undergraduate degree. Although, I have never been a “teacher” in a classroom filled with kids, I have been an educator to many through the trainings that I do. My favorite topic to train educators on is “Strategies for Educating Traumatized Children.”
Today was a bit of a tough day at work. I sat with a family who has weathered one of the worst storms that a person could ever imagine…childhood sexual abuse. Children, under the age of 5, traded for sex and video taped for porn. Now, a decade later, these children have to deal with their inner demons. No, they are no longer living with the people who did this to them. No, they have no contact at all with anyone from that part of their life. Yes, they are physically safe. Yes, their heart and their minds are changed forever.
WARNING: I will be ranting today! I have some major energy in the above topic. So, if you are easily offended or sensitive, please stop reading now and return for a later blog! That said, let’s chat about tolerance versus acceptance. I see the word “tolerance” everywhere…teach kids tolerance, we need to tolerate others, human resources departments that have tolerance policies…ugh! This drives me crazy. The reality is that tolerance is much different and less positive than acceptance!
Anger is a powerful, strong emotion, so we need powerful, strong strategies to help release that anger. As adults, we need to have our anger strategies figured out before we attempt to figure that out with our own children. Then, we must remember that our children's emotions are their emotions, not ours.