Statistics show that for every child adopted by a woman, two are "be-parented" by a man. My immediate reaction: what does this say about gender norms? Is the stereotypically less-nurturing sex heading in droves to rescue poor orphans? Was Daddy Warbucks that inspiring? Turns out, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, which released the stats, doesn't list the reasons why the figures are disparate. The report guesses that it's from men adopting spouse's children in second marriages, which seems to add up. According to Yahoo, 1.2 million men and 613,000 women had adopted children by 2002
It's been a slow week in old tabloid land. So, we heard that John Mayer may want to get engaged at some point. We also heard that Jake Gyllenhaal may be ready for kids. Yawn. We wonder what Jennifer Aniston and Reese Witherspoon think about these rumors.
The Telegraph recently reported on an interesting family: A set of identical twin women met and married a set of identical twin men. Then one of the couples produced a set of twin boys. We'd draw a diagram if we had the Web capability. One of the twin couples (Note: We could easily use each of their names from this point forward, but is there really any point? It'll just be confusing.) met in 1998 at Twin Day, the annual Twin festival. (The other twins sure got lucky: Their siblings totally hooked them up. Or they're just lazy.)
"Parents who are unhappy, dissatisfied or insecure in love, however, go beyond limits and try to dictate or control how their teens treat their dates, the study found. These parents try to influence their kids to value certain things and act in specific ways. Parents would tell teens to open doors for dates, 'act like a gentleman' (or a lady), or resist letting a date 'walk all over' them. The goal may be to launch their teens on a romantic path happier than their own, Dr. Madsen says. But kids often regard this advice as intrusive, and again, it tended to have the opposite effect. The teens affected weren't particularly content with their dating relationships."
Imagine getting back into the dating scene, ready to find someone special, only to dread dropping the K-bomb? Single parents have built-in baggage, not that children should be seen as such (I know, I have one), but the self-imposed kind that comes with telling a date that you've got someone waiting for you at home. And not the furry kind of someone. I'm sure a good 80% of people react just fine to hearing their date has kids. But the impending doom of broaching the subject is enough to keep single parents from even making it to that point in the relationship. You want people in your life that are going to accept and admire all facets of your life, especially the little ones you've taken the time to create and raise.
Call it a Mr. Mom backlash. For couples eschewing stereotypical division of household duties, sharing responsibility isn't about role reversal; it's about role sharing and thinking like teammates or co-pilots instead of gender-bending pioneers. The New York Times Magazine's cover story this coming Sunday (already available online) profiles several families where designated "mom" and "dad" duties don't exist, at least not as society generally defines them.
According to the ongoing research at the University of Iowa, newlyweds experienced a significant drop in marital satisfaction in the first year of parenthood, says the Times Online. In fact, the decline is far more severe in couples with a new baby than in newlyweds without children.
A gorgeous, muscle-bound boyfriend? So last season! The most-wanted arm candy right now is fat, slobbering and breast-obsessed. Yes, babies have replaced boyfriends as the new "It" accessory in Hollywood. Why diaper duty might be preferable to dating. Even in big-screen romantic comedies, boyfriends have gone from raison d'etre to third wheel. Two of 2007's biggest hits, Knocked Up and Juno, are about single women who get pregnant and decide to have their babies, even though they're not in a romantic relationship with the fathers of their children (or anyone else).
There has been a lot of conjecture about the prudence of waiting to have children. Some people think that young moms are best. That something about the mother's age matters from a biological standpoint. The American Society for Reproductive Medicine has new research that shows that older mothers are just as capable as young mothers when it comes to child raising.
Who says it's not possible to have a life after a newborn? Just because jumping into bed with the lust-driven passion of a new couple may not be possible after the kids are born, it doesn't mean you still can't have a night out at the movies. And hey, why not take the baby? A father relays his thoughts on his life and relationships after a night at the movies.
At first glance, radiant actress Angie Harmon and celebrated athlete Jason Sehorn look like the pinup-perfect couple. She's an actress, he's a jock. Read how they met, how they get along and how they managed being married with children.
The author's generation fought to have careers as well as families. Now, more and more young mothers are opting to raise their kids full time. But what happens when a husband leaves, gets laid off, or dies? Leslie Bennetts makes the case for keeping the day job. "I spent many years establishing a rewarding professional life before having two children — just as my biological clock was winding down—and ever since then I've felt as though I won the lottery. A great career! A wonderful husband! Two beautiful, healthy children! Lucky me! Imagine my surprise, then, to learn that Having It All—the quintessential goal of recent generations of women—has gone out of fashion. Who knew?"
Is there a perfect time to start a family? Don't count on your body and fertility being ready when you are to have kids. Is having it all even possible when racing the biological clock? Jill Johnson explains the science of conception, exploring the ideas of career stability, age and desire for a more settled future.