We're always told to stick it out in an unhappy marriage for our kid's sake, but what if that's actually not what's best for them? Our expert explains how healthy relationships are learned.
CHILDREN AND MARRIAGE
So now the kids are back to school and the sports have begun, the weekends are filled with activities and family time, leaving little time for you and your partner to adult activities, just the both of you. Placing your marriage on the back burner is never a good idea. It’s at that back burner where the pot boils but doesn’t get tended to As divorce mediators have couples come to us to separate. Like Bob and Linda said to each other one night as they found themselves home alone and their teenagers out with their friends for the night, “Who
Annie came to see me in hopes that she could avoid a divorce. The problem was clear and it was her. She is living up to the role of the wicked stepmother in a blended family. The mother of the children died two years before she met their father, Tim. She met Tim while the children, Trip, then seven and Sarah then nine, were visiting their maternal grandparents for the summer at their summer house on Lake Michigan. She and Tim reveled in the private time they had that summer. They developed into a playful, passionate, sexual team.
So many things can go wrong in a relationship if two essential things are lacking: communication and integrity. Improve your relationship before its loo late with these tips!
Without a doubt, having kids can be stressful, expensive, exhausting and it can put a strain on your relationship. You’re suddenly responsible for the care and upbringing of this precious little person (or little people) and that can feel like a heavy weight that only gets heavier as the years go on. A recent study of 1,630 married couples found that those with children reported lower “marital satisfaction” than those who did not have children.
Sure, you adore your kids, but let's face it, they sure make it tough for you to enjoy a spontaneous sexual romp with their dad. So, if you are in the mood for some adult time this Valentines Day, here are five ways to fan the heat without splurging on a sitter or a fancy restaurant.
Sometimes life doesn't turn out as you had expected. But the truth is, when you are dealt a bad hand, you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back in the game. Giving up, feeling sorry for yourself, and crying over the unfairness of it all doesn't cut it. Parents of special needs children know this to be true.
Parents are expert Jugglers. With all the balls to keep in the air - from academics to sports, social events to finding time to sit down together for a meal - its no wonder we get into playing the Blame Game with a spouse or co-parent when something from our schedule *Splats* on the ground. There IS another way. Effectively implementing one single tool is a sure-fire way to save you friction with your fellow co-parent (current or ex), and have you and your family accomplishing more with less stress.
If you are a stepparent or entering a relationship where blending with the kids is important, there are important things to remember, especially during the holiday season. These suggestions may help you build a bridge of peace with the kids.
"Do you want kids?" I asked. "Sure i do" he said. And with that I was hooked. Yes I knew that he was divorced and had two children, but just knowing that he did want kids was to overcome the first hurdle of dating him. However the first 6 months there were a lot more hurdles to overcome which lead to the relationship breaking down. Having dated a divorced guy, I can speak from experience of what not to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, and especially if they have kids.
There’s no one reason couples get divorced, but unfortunately there are multiple effects. Aside from the psychological and emotional stress divorce can inflict on the couple, alone, it can also deliver a huge blow to children in the family. A new study by UK’s Economic and Social Research Council found that children of divorced parents were more likely to develop social and psychological problems as adults than those whose parents stayed married.
I used to think that if something didn’t turn out right (cake batter or laundering a stained blouse, say) the way to apply a fix was to add something. More flour to the batter. An applique over the stain. I’d like to say those solutions worked, but we both know better. So why do we seek to add a BIG COMPLICATION to an already-complicated situation? I’m not talking returning a dog to the pound because he digs under the fence. Or changing your mind about that four grand worth of furniture.
According to a survey of over 100 mental health professionals, 75% agree that couples are the least sexually satisfied when they have a newborn or infant. But, have no fear! Help is on the way. In the same survey, we asked these experts for their opinions about the most effective techniques for getting couples with kids back under the sheets.