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5 Ways Divorce Benefits Your Kids [EXPERTS]
Divorce doesn't have to be all bad news.

5 Ways Divorce Benefits Your Kids [EXPERTS]

Your divorce may have a positive impact on your children after all.

Contrary to popular belief, divorce isn't always negative for kids — sometimes it's excellent for kids. Here are five ways that your children can benefit from your divorce.

Babies Before Marriage: Did Brad & Angelina Do It Right? [EXPERT]
What ever happened to marriage before babies?

Babies Before Marriage: Did Brad & Angelina Do It Right? [EXPERT]

Has traditional marriage become obsolete?

Who didn't sing that annoying little elementary school song as a kid? " First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage!" It seems that celebrity couple Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt did not follow the path laid out in that teasing grade-school tune or what has been considered the traditional "rule" for a couple: you fall in love, get married and then have babies.

Marriage and Children - Reasons and Consequences to Consider

Marriage and Children - Reasons and Consequences to Consider

Learn about the good vs. bad reasons and consequences for getting married and having children.

"Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation." - Oscar Wilde Hello. I want you to think for a moment about why you want marriage and children and why you think it's important. Meditate on it for a while, and you will realize that you don't really know why. And neither do most people. If you ask most people, they will simply say "because it's an important part of life" but they cannot explain WHY.

Not in Front of the Children!

Not in Front of the Children!

Honor both your children and your marriage when conflicts arise with these communication rules.

They say that marriage gets more difficult once you have children. It can be tougher to find the time and energy for connection and romance. It can also be a challenge when you and your spouse have a disagreement and you don't make time to be alone and resolve it . You might have uncomfortable or even traumatic memories of your own childhood listening to the adults in your house argue and fight. The yelling and anger may have sent you racing to your room where you hid underneath a blanket or turned up the volume on your stereo to drown out the raised voices.

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Why You Should Fight With Your Spouse

Not fighting is almost as bad as lying.

Six simple steps to keeping your marriage truthful and harmonious. Because when you hold things in, eventually they tumble back out. "You start to resent your partner, and you start to resent yourself," said Dr. Kudak. "If you’re not happy with yourself and your partner, you're not going to be happy in your relationship. And your marriage can deteriorate when that happens."

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Divorce Hurts Childrens' Math Scores And Friendships

A new study finds divorce impacts kids' math scores and interpersonal skills.

Every year, millions of children grieve over their parents' divorce, but new research says that the experience can compromise their math scores and friendships as well.

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Passion Versus Comfort After Children: I Chose Comfort

I traded passion for comfort in my marriage and I am liking it just fine.

You know that passion you have at the beginning of a relationship? When every moment is about getting closer to each other and nothing is more important than seeing that person naked? How nothing else matters, not food or shelter or work? Yeah, that intensity is kind of hard to maintain.

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Want To Be A Happy Parent? Stop Trying So Hard

To alleviate the stress of parenting, leave your children alone once in awhile, says an economist.

Economist Bryan Caplan, author of Selfish Reasons to Have Kids, offers a suggestion for parents that sounds at once obvious and dangerous in today's hyper-parented society: want to be a happier parent? Back off from parenting. Helicopter parenting, that is. Rather than feeling as if you need to hover about your child at all waking moments, if you feel your own sanity starting to slip: put on a DVD, call the babysitter, and spend some time on your personal needs

Losing Friends Over NOT Having Kids?

Losing Friends Over NOT Having Kids?

We'd heard from “childless by choice couples” that we’d lose friends over this lifestyle decision.

We heard it might happen. . . some were certain it would. As we walked down the aisle to become Husband and Wife – bound together in a true soul partnership, we heard from other “childless by choice couples” that we’d lose friends over this lifestyle decision. We thought, “Okay, maybe those peripheral friends, those ones we see only a couple times a year at best.”

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Study: Young, Childless Couples Are Happiest

A UK study finds that the key to happiness is marriage, youth, and childlessness.

The latest research on happiness isn't so jolly: Great Britain's Understanding Society finds that happiness in marriage declines with age. Older couples are less content than their younger counterparts, while young, childless couples are the happiest of them all.

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Does Parenthood Mean You're Grounded?

Dating does more for a marital relationship--and the kids--than you can imagine.

My niece and her husband just had their first baby, so I sent them a restaurant gift card, with a note: "Use this. Soon. Just you two." I know what I'm talking about.