Let me ask you a couple questions. How many stressed out, unhappy, and directionless adults do you know? Now answer the same question but replace adults with kids 12 and younger. It’s a much smaller list isn’t it? I’ll bet a lot of the kids on your list are related to the adults from the first question. Coincidence? I think not.
Too many adults today talk TO their kids and not WITH their kids. Adults are constantly “telling” kdis what to do and how to think. From the time that babies are able to move around their home, they are barraged with negative reinforcement. “No, No baby. Don’t touch that. Don’t eat that. Don’t pull Fido’s ears.” Sound familiar? Infants and toddlers need constant supervision. Until they can communicate with us grown ups, we have few other options to keep them safe.
When it comes to parenting, Secret #8 – Be Consistent, is one of the most important. Whether you realize it or not, the simple strategy of being consistent fills multiple needs for your child’s development. There are some things that EVERY child should get consistently no matter what. Every child should know that he/she is loved unconditionally every second of every day. As a parent, there is NOTHING more important than that. Being loved is the most secure feeling that anyone – child or adult – can have.
Don’t teach your kids what to think… teach them how to think. The process of thinking is actually the process of asking questions. Questions do two things: 1, they stimulate responses. 2, they guide the focus of whoever is involved in those questions. So, if you’re not getting good answers (or any answers at all), ask different and better questions. How many times have your kids asked you a question from their homework? How many times have your kids asked you what to do in a particular situation? How many times have you told them the answer?
Every child is unique in his or her own way even if they look just like you. Just because you enjoy baseball, dancing, music or reading, doesn’t mean your kids will enjoy the same things. Just because you have a skill or affinity for something doesn’t mean that they will. Just because you are in the same gene pool doesn’t mean you swim in it using the same stroke.
Few things empower people (especially kids) more than giving them ownership of the decisions that effect their lives and circumstances. When they decide for themselves, they have both emotional and intellectual “skin in the game.” So, let’s talk about Parenting Secret #5 to Empower Kids: Decisions Have Consequences. Let your kids make choices for themselves and then let them live with results – be they positive or negative. Kids must understand how the decisions they make affect their lives.
Want a little Einstein around the house? The role of genetics in intelligence—i.e., the extent to which our smarts are inherited—has long been an academic war zone. What can raise your child's chances? There's no single best recipe, but studies prove that keeping TV out of the nursery, shelling out for music lessons, breastfeeding, having a big library, and withholding cookies are just a few ways to boost your child's chances of success.
Singles Warehouse the US Singles Dating and UK Singles Dating Site asks the question - when should you tell your date that you have kids? When should you tell your date you have kids? In a word yes! If you have kids, then at the very first opportunity you should let your online dating world know, preferably before your first date.
When I was a sophomore in college, I started seeing a counselor re: my daddy issues. Up until that first appointment, I had been making it a point to only get involved with guys who made it easy for me to control the situation — so that they wouldn't up and leave me the way my dad left my mom and I when they got divorced. I thought, "If my own father can hurt me, you will, too."
All right, Teen Mom, enough from you already.
Forget about candy-colored bra and panty sets from Target; there's ickier underwear for little girls afoot. It's lingerie, to be exact, although the French line Jours Aprés Lunes calls it "loungerie," because it is for lounging around instead of, uh, looking sexy prior to getting it on. Why, praytell, would girls ages four through 12 want to wear lingerie?
The web is ablaze over a French Vogue shoot that made 10-year-old model Thylane Blondeau look like an adult—face painted in thick make-up and feet clad in high heels as she sprawls out on a leopard-spotted couch. Should a child be donning this sexy look?
Tired of nagging, fighting, and blaming your children to get their chores done? You want to have your children clean their room, help around the house, and pick-up after themselves without fighting. Children need support and reminders, yet you are tired of reminding them and nagging. So what's a parent to do? Create a chore chart!
Stop tantrums and meltdowns with these 5 creative tips. If you are a parent then you have faced the challenge of helping your child find ways to manage those big feelings that at times seem to over take them. Those feelings of frustration, anger, or sadness that appear to storm out of nowhere and take over your child. Often parents are bewildered by the behaviors attached to these feelings such as tantrums, yelling, crying, refusal, inflexibility, shutting down, or hitting.