CHECK-OFF LISTS

Panty Parade / Off Go the Panties   Renewal. Refresh. Revive. Revving up those engines. I don’t know about you, but making an actual list helps me keep my goals and actually achieve something rather than simply get through the daily grind of whatever gets thrown my way. With a list I can plan for things I really want to do OR accomplish OR try on for size.

Lately, a lot of women who are single have been making lists of what they want and don't want in a man and a relationship. But do those actually work, or are they turning away possible love matches because of these extensive lists?

Everyone has those idyllic images of a perfect mate, whether it's a movie star or a combination of traits of people we have admired in our lives. The fact is that being in a good relationship starts with more than just the physical exterior. It starts with finding someone who's in harmony with the inner you.

Lists: we all have them. Many relationship experts and dating websites advise people to make lists so they might understand exactly what they are looking for in a mate. The goal, perhaps, is to add a bit of logic to an otherwise illogical process of falling for someone, and a little logic never hurt anyone, right?

It is extremely important it is to choose the right person to marry. It will save you years of loneliness, it will save you thousands in lawyers' fees spent on divorce, it will bring you to financial independence together and it will feel so nice to have a strong, caring and loving man next to you. No doubt, by now, you already have a picture of the man you want. You described everything: his generosity, his high intellect, his handsome appearance and his muscles...But handsome? Like Prince Charming from Shrek? Hmmm, might you have to cross this one out.

Most everyone looking for love has a check off list. You may be aware of yours, you may have even written it down. It looks something like… good looking, active, intelligent, confident, smart, good sense of humor, successful, likes the outdoors, likes to travel, and so on and so forth. And for those of you that think you don’t have a check off list, think again. You do. If it’s not in the forefront of your mind, it is most definitely back in your subconscious.