CHANGE

Lately I’ve been thinking about all the things I wanted to be when I grew up. This brings to mind one particular not so pleasant memory. I was nine and our third grade class was asked to share what we wanted to be when we grew up. I can still picture my hand waving madly as I waited for Mrs. Shackman to pick me. And when she did I stood up and announced so proudly that I want to be a singer, actress, writer and mother. But Mrs. Shackman shook her head, told me to sit down and adamantly declared, “silly, you are going to get married and have babies”.

I learned something this week that completely rocked my world: when you apply eyeliner, you should start from the inside of your lid, not the outside. Did you know that? I’m 52 years old, and for my entire life I’ve been doing it wrong. No wonder it was always a struggle! I was never able to create that smooth line I saw on other women. Over the years I spent hundreds of dollars on varying brands and tried using Q-tips and other devices; but despite my constant efforts, it never worked. I was always starting from the outside.

What is Your Mt. Everest? Author: Julie November 7, 2007 Category: Living Life as a Journey Hello Everyone: I find it so interesting to talk to people who are about to take on a new challenge. Think about a time when you embarked on a new venture that required you to step out of your comfort zone. Maybe it was going back to school and getting a degree, maybe it was leaving your employer to start a business of your own, or maybe it was developing new relationships and expanding your social world.

Today’s article is different than others I have written, because I want to tell you about a very personal experience that changed me forever. First of all, it’s important that you understand that my field of study, as well as my practice in life, is about helping others change. It is difficult work, and what I have noticed is that most people really don’t change. If they do, they are inspired from an inner source or a fear of losing what they value most. I guess that what makes my story even more meaningful to me is the way it has forever changed my life.

You probably are familiar with the old traditional Chakra system philosophy. But may not be aware that the Chakra system can be used as an instruction manual for your relationships. It can give you a strategy about how you can communicate with your inner guidance and be able to manifest your dreams and ideas into your realationships and create a complete alignment in your life Now.

"Writing is re-writing" ~ Robert L. Kelley What if we treated our lives as a story and approached them as the author of that story?  Most writers understand writing is a process and some very common ways of approaching it.  It is rare that a writer creates a final draft their first time sitting down with their story.  It is a process of writing, experimenting, noticing what works and what doesn't and then rewriting.

Are you excessive or abundant? Are you excessive or abundant? As humans we have to have two healthy relationships with non-human tools; Money and time. If we are in a poor relationship with either form our lives suffer. Money is a necessary tool we all need to make our lives work. Money does not bring happiness but it does bring freedom and security. When we are low on money we are low on security. When we lack security we get into intense feelings of fear. These fears impact identity, relationships, marriages, and our children.

A personal experience with a young son reminds us to embrace growth and change. My husband and I took our son for his first official haircut when he was 15 months old. The trauma of the event was not significant, but the energy exchange during the event was decidedly intense. My son went from sitting on my lap and enjoying the process while my husband entertained him to the opposite end of the spectrum, screaming and struggling to be let down. As you can imagine, it was an emotional roller coaster for all three of us.

Are you yearning for someone to love? Or are you in love and want to be sure it will last and grow deeper and richer with time? These are wonderful goals—and so few people achieve them! You can be one of these lucky ones if you don’t fall into the hidden traps that make loving so difficult. For that you need to bring your understanding and practice of love to an entirely new level.

When my husband requested a trial separation, his reasoning was that we weren't a good match anymore. He felt that we shouldn't have to compromise in order to find happiness, and that love should be easy. I briefly considered the fact that I might be married to a delusional maniac, then rejected the thought and explained to him that marriage was all about compromise. People change over time and, as a result, relationships must shift in order to accommodate that change. I know I'm not the only one who feels this way. According to the results of YourTango's Power of Attraction survey, 33 percent of people feel that "getting [their] partner to change" is a good way to reignite attraction. But should you even be together if you need your partner to change in order to be happy?

When life throws you a curveball do you have the tools in place to thrive through the change?  Have you recently taken on a challenge to grow yourself or your business?  Either way, you don't want to miss this post on my website blog, The Footprints We Leave.  I share my secret formula for successfully navigating major change - whether it was something you invited in or a circumstance that landed in your lap.

When we face our fears of dating and rejection, we open ourselves up to unlimited possibilities. Do you find yourself repeating the same mantra about men day in and day out? It leaves your mouth in various forms, but you’ve got only one point: to release yourself from any responsibility and keep you safe and snug-as-a-bug-in-a-rug without the worry of that pesky intimacy thing. "There are no good men out there. I’m better off without a man. I don’t want any man who isn’t willing to accept me exactly as I am. All the men my age are old fuddy-duddies or want the young girls...." Blah, blah, blah.

Where do you stand on Valentine's Day? Are you rolling your eyes at the Hallmark-esque commercials and feeling queasy at all the pink and red splashed everywhere?Chances are pretty good – thanks to all the advertising and silliness – that you’re keenly aware Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. I used to call Valentine's Day “Singles Awareness Day.” Now that I'm married I couldn't care less about it.

Patterns are your automatic, default ways of being. They’re how you naturally react to circumstances in your life. Patterns are everywhere. Life is full of them. Maybe your pattern for dealing with stress is to grab your credit card and log onto Amazon. Or run to the refrigerator, or vent to your best friend.

Continuing from yesterday, it's important to make yourself memorable when you are dating. There are tons of women out there; you want to be the one he wants to know. When you follow this advice and get your story out in the right way, the guys who are good matches will take notice. They are getting to know you (sometimes) in one conversation…so make it count!

...we can't make other people change - but we can work on improving our skill for influence