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Avoidance or Awareness: How Do You Live?

Avoidance or Awareness: How Do You Live?

“Avoidance works but Awareness works better and is in the direction of Evolution.” Marilyn Ferguson

Dr. Lynda Klau Years ago I read that sentence in an inspirational book by Marilyn Ferguson called “The Aquarian Conspiracy.” There are some lines that you hear once and never forget. This is one of them. Ferguson was right. Avoidance does work. You can push down, cut off, go far away, blame, not see—to varying degrees—feelings and thoughts inside you.

Are You Selfish? 6 Ways To Tell [EXPERT]
Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the most selfish of them all?

Are You Selfish? 6 Ways To Tell

When it comes to relationships, is it all about you?

Healthy, happy relationships are based on caring, cooperation, and commitment. Your partner and relationship must be a top priority for you. Selfishness, or being overly concerned with just your needs, wants, and feelings prevents you from holding up your end of a mutually satisfying relationship.

Pregnant? 6 Ways To Prepare Your Kids For Your New Baby [EXPERT]
Isn't she precious?

Pregnant? 6 Ways To Prepare Your Kids For Your New Baby

Try these simple steps to prevent sibling rivalry among your children.

Older siblings often have trouble accepting the arrival of a new baby because your new little bundle knocks the little prince or princess off of his or her throne. Here are some handy tips to help your older child overcome the jolt of losing her position as your littlest darling.

Creating Family Acceptance

Creating Family Acceptance

Guidelines for Growing Up within Your Family

Lately, I’ve gotten so many anguished questions from people who are being criticized and rejected by family for making relationship choices the families don’t like, usually for cultural or religious reasons, that I changed my mind about what I was going to write this month.

5 Tips To Graduate and Be Happy

5 Tips To Graduate and Be Happy

Part Of The 'How Happy Is' Series.

Graduating is about change and moving on, and in the same breath it can be frightening, as well as exciting. Being frightened and excited often have the same physical symptoms, heart racing, shortness of breath, sweaty palms etc. The only thing that is really different is your choice of attitude.

5 Ways For Women To Be  Happier As You Grow Older

5 Ways For Women To Be Happier As You Grow Older

5 Steps You Must Take For Happiness To Grow

The CHANGING Woman  Maturation is the growth and development of each person on life’s journey. The process is different for each person, yet there are some universal commonalities. We grow, experience life,learn and change. Here we focus on two stages of “Everywoman’s” life as she grows into the more mature stages as we know them in our times. “With each stroke of the Brush, an original New Shade of Color is Invented”

Are You A Control Freak? [EXPERT]
Out of control? Don't panic.

Are You A Control Freak?

3 reasons why it's best to relinquish control.

I am a control freak! Okay, there, I said it. To be honest with you, I stopped trying to be a perfectionist a long time ago, but I still have not been able to shake the need to control my environment. I am getting better. Really, I am. But the reality of it is that I still have a hard time letting things unfold naturally. I try to push things forward before they are ready to blossom all by themselves. Yes, this is one of my biggest flaws. And yet, one of my biggest assets.

Why You Shouldn't Lose Weight For Your Wedding [EXPERT]
Forget about your imperfections and let your natural beauty radiate.

Why You Shouldn't Lose Weight For Your Wedding

Arm muscle and thigh size have no role in your future happiness.

Everyone wants to see that we're ready to tackle the most important relationship of our lives despite our muffin top waists, glasses, frizzy hair and comfort-wear shoes for our aching feet. After all, that is exactly how our grooms wanted us when the "should we get married" conversation ended in a "yes."

Embracing A New Relationship With An Old Flame [EXPERT]
Often times, change is for the better!

Embracing A New Relationship With An Old Flame

Do changes in your relationship signify that something wonderful is lost?

So let's say you are in a long-term relationship with the guy or girl of your dreams. Or, let's say you are trying to rekindle an old relationship or you're in a situation with someone whom you have a lot of history with, but you keep sensing some things just aren't the same. In many ways it may seem that a lot of stuff from the past no longer exists in your relationship and you wonder if you can ever go back.

Sudden Changes In Life: 5 Lessons From Passover

Sudden Changes In Life: 5 Lessons From Passover

Our world can change suddenly, like it did on Passover or Good Friday - how do you find a future?

Many things can drastically and suddenly change our lives. With the economy, we all know people who were doing well (or at least okay) who lost their job and as a result their whole world changed. Another person's life may be changed when their spouse is injured in a car accident or diagnosed with cancer. And for another person, the change may be the result of relocating to a new town for the promise of a great new life.