Graduating is about change and moving on, and in the same breath it can be frightening, as well as exciting. Being frightened and excited often have the same physical symptoms, heart racing, shortness of breath, sweaty palms etc. The only thing that is really different is your choice of attitude.
The CHANGING Woman Maturation is the growth and development of each person on life’s journey. The process is different for each person, yet there are some universal commonalities. We grow, experience life,learn and change. Here we focus on two stages of “Everywoman’s” life as she grows into the more mature stages as we know them in our times. “With each stroke of the Brush, an original New Shade of Color is Invented”
I am a control freak! Okay, there, I said it. To be honest with you, I stopped trying to be a perfectionist a long time ago, but I still have not been able to shake the need to control my environment. I am getting better. Really, I am. But the reality of it is that I still have a hard time letting things unfold naturally. I try to push things forward before they are ready to blossom all by themselves. Yes, this is one of my biggest flaws. And yet, one of my biggest assets.
Everyone wants to see that we're ready to tackle the most important relationship of our lives despite our muffin top waists, glasses, frizzy hair and comfort-wear shoes for our aching feet. After all, that is exactly how our grooms wanted us when the "should we get married" conversation ended in a "yes."
So let's say you are in a long-term relationship with the guy or girl of your dreams. Or, let's say you are trying to rekindle an old relationship or you're in a situation with someone whom you have a lot of history with, but you keep sensing some things just aren't the same. In many ways it may seem that a lot of stuff from the past no longer exists in your relationship and you wonder if you can ever go back.
Many things can drastically and suddenly change our lives. With the economy, we all know people who were doing well (or at least okay) who lost their job and as a result their whole world changed. Another person's life may be changed when their spouse is injured in a car accident or diagnosed with cancer. And for another person, the change may be the result of relocating to a new town for the promise of a great new life.
Wise parents understand the importance of giving their children both roots and wings. Children must learn to stand on their own two feet, to trust their own judgment, to pick up the pieces when they make mistakes and to chart the life course that makes sense to them. However, experience in my own life and my practice along with recent research says that living alone can actually cause depression.
As a therapist one of the first things I say to people in a first session is that they can talk however they want with me including swearing (just not at me, please). The words that I want them to get rid of are not those dirty words that their mothers told them never to say. Mine are words and phrases that cut a person down or give messages that hold them back. Language is more powerful than we often give it credit for.
Part of finding more dates is getting right with yourself. If you're too busy listening to the conversations in your head, then chances are that opportunities are passing you by right and left. If you are stuck on past failed attempts, how can you be successful at talking to the person right in front of you? When you engage in these destructive behaviors, your relationships continue to suffer.
By Mary Schwager, Consumer Watchdog for GalTime.com If your man pops the question this Valentine’s Day, or if you’re one of the 2 million people who will get hitched this year, listen up-- some of the traditonal aspects of marriage are starting to change.
A client asked me today, "How do romantic relationships change us?" The idea behind this question is intriguing and may shed light into the darker places of relationships. This question underscores our unspoken fears of loss of control and the need to conform to someone else's ideas about happiness. As a therapist, I tend to see the couples "in trouble" so I may have my own a somewhat stilted view of things.
My first awareness of the impact that habits have on our enjoyment, success and experience in life came when I read the best selling book, The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People. I have to admit, I read that book with a combination of hope and doubt about my own ability to rise to such a disciplined way of life. BORING was my biggest fear, right ahead of having to see that I was not destined for the kind of success that the author spoke of.
I hear about it week after week, month after month. From men and women. No, it is not affairs. Here's what it is: "When we are home together, life is great. But when we are with friends, family, workmates, bosses (take your pick—all are mentioned by various clients of all ages), he/she does things that make me want to hide under a table, or better yet, run." The examples are endless...
Change is hard for emotionally healthy and mature adults in divorced situations. Moving from what was a normal daily life to a new normal always takes adjustment and compromise for the whole family. It also takes time and effort and a willingness to adapt. Is "nesting" a better solution for all involved?
Here is my question of the week: Are you ready? First I want you to think about an area of your life that is important to you AND an area you really want to make a change in. 1.When something is important to us, that is an indication that it is something we love! 2.When something is important to us, that's where our highest values live.
There’s a lot of debate about whether the 1st of the year is a perfect and natural trigger to implement life changing resolutions or if it’s only an excuse for a temporary behavioral change and ultimately a set-up for failure. Here’s my take: