Its always the case, life happens and all of sudden we are transitioning from something...again. Here are 5 things to remember as you move through transitions: 1) You are not alone in this transition process. Ask yourself: Who are those in your support network? (Family, Friends, etc.) What can you do to put yourself 'out there'? (Activity groups, Sports/Fitness, Classes) 2) Envision what you want to become from what you learned. Reflect on:
By Leslie Rouder, LCSW,CHt It has long been known that circus elephants have historically been trained to stay tethered to a post by attaching heavy chains to their legs when they are very young so that when they yank or pull at these chains, they are unable to break free. Within a short amount of time, they give up trying, having learned that it is useless. From that moment on, they no longer need a heavy chain to hold them because anytime they feel any resistance, no matter how heavy or light the chain, they give up trying, having incorporated the
Some say flirting is harmless: some of those same people would argue that engulfing a male body part in one's mouth isn’t sex (we won’t mention names, given the trend to repent), while others insist that the mere thought of indiscretion is cheating. Given our culture’s penchant for bending the English language (and morals) to suit our purposes, wouldn’t it be nice if we had a few less erroneous benchmarks for foul play? Here are a few to consider:
A friend of mine recently said to me that when we have feelings of guilt it is because there is an element of knowing that you did something right, or something that you had to do for yourself but for some reason you feel bad about. And, it got me thinking, I repeated it, “There is an element of good in the reasons we feel guilt.” In all of my articles about holding onto your power and all this emphasis and work I do around self empowerment, I hadn’t in writing, yet acknowledged the one thing that underlies the reason we lose so much of our power.
Does anyone doubt the importance of being resilient and adaptable in today's quickly changing world? Or, of being able to deal effectively with the many personal challenges that face us almost every day? Resilience and adaptability mean feeling capable of navigating change gracefully. They mean being skillful at rebounding from frustration, disappointment and defeats, without indulging the familiar cycles of negative self-talk and downward spiraling moods.
Have you ever heard the sound of the shofar? Its sounds is one that you would remember, whether the short blasts or the longer sustained blast that goes on over many seconds. This ram’s horn sounds one hundred notes a day during Rosh Hashanah, the celebration of the Jewish New Year.
You don’t know your partner as well as you think. And if you do, you shouldn’t. Introducing one partner to another, even if they have been together exclusively for years, is one of the best parts of being a seasoned couples therapist. People are always changing. If you believe you know who your partner was yesterday, maybe you are missing out on who is in front of you today — and today’s version is likely to be a lot more interesting than the version you think you know.
Hope Springs, starring Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones, portrays couples therapy as a way to mend a broken marriage. If you have seen or heard about the movie, you may be wondering whether couples therapy could work to improve the love relationship in your life.
Uncertainty. It's like a black hole that can swallow you alive. It's probably one of the most prominent challenges that I help my coaching clients deal with on a regular basis. It causes more worry, anxiety, and self-doubt than any other concern I have come across. It creates frustration and paralysis. It can take someone from bold and confident to neurotic and scared. I've seen it over and over and while the circumstances are always unique, the symptoms are the same:
You know you are in a good relationship if you both bring out the best in each other. Do you remember in the film 'As Good as It Gets' when Jack Nicholson’s character tells Helen Hunt’s character why he thinks they should be together? He says to her, “You make me want to be a better man.” Well, that’s what I’m talking about here!
No person can actually cure another person's addiction; they have to recognize they have lost power over their own behavior and recognize the need to change. There are some experts who will recommend you either make them quit or you leave. This may work temporarily, but if the motivation to change is not internally motivated, there will be no lasting change.
Dr. Lynda Klau Years ago I read that sentence in an inspirational book by Marilyn Ferguson called “The Aquarian Conspiracy.” There are some lines that you hear once and never forget. This is one of them. Ferguson was right. Avoidance does work. You can push down, cut off, go far away, blame, not see—to varying degrees—feelings and thoughts inside you.
Two weeks ago, I wrote an article entitled, 5 Love Lessons Men Can Learn From Christian Grey. It received many comments, mainly from men angry I didn’t address what women can do to improve relationships. I had always intended to write an article for women and here it is.
Healthy, happy relationships are based on caring, cooperation, and commitment. Your partner and relationship must be a top priority for you. Selfishness, or being overly concerned with just your needs, wants, and feelings prevents you from holding up your end of a mutually satisfying relationship.
Older siblings often have trouble accepting the arrival of a new baby because your new little bundle knocks the little prince or princess off of his or her throne. Here are some handy tips to help your older child overcome the jolt of losing her position as your littlest darling.
Lately, I’ve gotten so many anguished questions from people who are being criticized and rejected by family for making relationship choices the families don’t like, usually for cultural or religious reasons, that I changed my mind about what I was going to write this month.