What if you could have twice as much sex with one small change? Researchers say you can. Technology may be robbing you of a toe-curling sex life. You haven't noticed the silent alarm, but chances are you're getting robbed each and every night. Two of the biggest reasons for not being intimate with your partner are lack of time and lack of energy. If we don't use technology carefully, we can lose too much of both, leaving little time and energy for romance. How's that, you say? Let me count the ways. TV and Romance Don't Mix There must be something unsexy about watching Jay Leno or the evening news in bed, because couples who have TVs in the bedroom report half as much sex as those who do not have TVs there, according to a 2006 Italian study. (Over-50s had an even greater reduction in sexual frequency with a TV present.) Violent films and reality shows were top passion-busters.
There is a very common myth about infidelity, supported by Hollywood hype, that says that people are unfaithful because of sex. She's younger, he's more buff, they have hotter sex in exotic positions. In real life, affairs are NOT love stories and they are very, very rarely about sex. Infidelity experts agree that the majority of affairs start in an attempt to have emotional needs met. Experts Agree: Cheating Is Not About Sex
Two years ago, I married the coolest man on the planet. I often say that he's my rock and he rocks my world. Unfortunately, my husband travels regularly for work. Every week, Sunday through Thursday, he jets to a client's location, which leaves me alone in our bedroom four nights a week. And when my husband does come home on Thursday nights, he's typically tired, worn out and not exactly primed for sex. What's a girl in her late 30s—her sexual prime—to do? Improvise. If you, like me, feel challenged because you and your partner's sexual urges aren't syncing up, read on. I've developed a system that seems to be working for us. I hope it'll work for you, too.
Let's talk about sex and marriage—they do go together, don't they? Not if you ask many of my clients. In fact, it seems like the number of marriages with little or no sex is increasing. Sexless marriage is not a new phenomenon. In a 2005 Family Circle national survey, 21 percent of married women said their sex lives were boring and routine, 21 percent reported having no sex life at all, and almost 50 percent said they had no desire to have sex with their partner.
I am a sex life coach. Where dating coaches tell you what to do before you enter the bedroom, I strengthen my clients' skills and connection once they're already in bed. Today I'm going to give you a series of basic techniques designed to give your beloved woman the very best in erotic, physical pleasure.
Everyone who's anyone knows that having lots of great sex makes you feel better. Having a healthy, regular sex life is good for the body, mind and the spirit. Recent studies by Harvard University and iVillage have brought this to the public's attention again, but we've known about the positive benefits of sex for decades. And yet, somehow there are lots of people ignoring the advice. In August I wrote about some practical ways you can take responsibility for your own pleasure, but the reality is that most people probably already know what they need to do, and they're still not doing it.
Sex is a wonderful gift to be enjoyed and shared by both of you. Good sex promotes physical and mental health and the vitality of the relationship. Sex releases endorphins, which elevate mood and lower stress and pain levels. So after having sex, each partner associates feeling good with the other.
Who's in charge in your bedroom? You? Or Him? If the answer is him, then you're missing out on being fully present in your sexual relationship, which is not only vital to your relationship but vital to your own health and sense of self. My next question is then: As a woman, why aren't you initiating sex? If you're not sure what the answer is then I urge you to take a closer look for the sake of your own sexual identity.
In survey after survey, men rate "premature ejaculation" as one of their top two sexual concerns (the other being "penis size"). When a man is troubled by premature ejaculation, a couple's sex life can be extremely disappointing for both parties, and often leads to couples ceasing having sex altogether and sometimes even to the end of the relationship entirely.