We have all read the headline "Women Would Rather Sleep than Have Sex." For many women, this statement proves truer than they would like. It's not that women do not enjoy having sex, or that they get more excitement from these other things. The problem is that there are distractions getting in the way of having a satisfying and fulfilling sex life. It's true that the secret to sexual satisfaction lies in that region between the left ear and the right ear (the brain).
When it comes to thinking and talking about sex, not much has changed over the years. Many of us still think of sex as full-on intercourse. Unfortunately, this way of thinking supports the notion that sex is all about performance when, in reality, there's so much more to sex. An area in which this misguided notion is especially prevalent is in the advertisements for erectile dysfunction drugs—the message in these advertisements is clearly about being ready for sex, rather than about improving your relationship. And that's where their messages fall flat, and where—in some cases—they even become harmful. We need to question the use and meaning of the phrase "erectile dysfunction." In many cases, what one is experiencing is not even true dysfunction. If the penis is functioning properly, even in a flaccid state, and there are no other organic issues present, then it's pretty safe to conclude that there's something else going on.
My work is about helping couples who are committed and really love each other recover their passion. There are many reasons for this, and of course each couple is different. There is no cookie cutter solution that fits everyone. One of the challenges that I have noticed for many couples encounter that over time, however, is that they have lost some of their spontaneity, some of their imagination and they become a little more reserved and guarded with each other. They stop (or perhaps have never started) sharing their sexual fantasies with each other.
Sexually charged images aren't limited to adult films and websites—they're everywhere! From a snapshot of a young ingénue's hoo-ha as she gets out of a limo to the latest celebrity sex tape, we are surrounded by forms of pornography. And, on the Internet most of it is not only easily accessible, it's free.
Ladies, it is time to learn how to give your man a hand in bed. If your lover is like many men, he would love to have sex every day or even multiple times a day. Unfortunately, many women can't keep up with their lovers' sex drives. The stress of work and family drain women of their ability to get turned on and be spontaneously in the mood for sex, especially intercourse.
There are countless articles and websites filled with information on how to overcome sexual issues. There are techniques, tips and advice to be found from all manner of sources. So what is it about sex that we struggle with so much? And why does it always seem as if everyone else is having better sex?
As a dating and relationship coach whose company is called Dating With Dignity, you might guess I try to convince my clients that sex before commitment is a no-no. Not true! Instead, I believe that dating with dignity, simply means that regret does not factor into the experience. As a result, the Ahhhhh moment will last well into tomorrow and beyond, whether or not she continues to see her man. So then, let's look at three things a woman can do to ensure that her choice to have sex is always made from a place that is free from regret, fear and false expectations: 1. Know your relationship goal. Understand where you are in the cycle of dating and relationship development. Prior to getting into the dating game, it is critical that both men and women get clear on exactly where they hope to land once they have achieved their goal.
Are you a man who can take directions from a woman? This sex tip is all about direction, and despite my widespread reputation for being directionally challenged, you can trust me on this one. I am going to guide you through an erotic touch experience with your lover, and this might just be the one that really lights her fire! Let's begin with you... Self-preparation: Be clean, nourished and hydrated. Clip nails and hangnails, and use hand lotion. She will notice. Don your silky boxers, sarong or use that birthday suit. Your self-preparation shows honor and is the first step into your role as a respectful giver.
A chief aspect of a healthy sex life is a taboo topic for women, and routine for men: masturbation. Perhaps if female genitalia were as exposed as male bits masturbation would not be such an esoteric concept to some women. Most women cringe at the word masturbation and its euphemisms like "polishing the peanut”, "finger painting", and "clam bake for one." I like to keep it classy and describe this intimate, personal act as solo love.
What if you could have twice as much sex with one small change? Researchers say you can. Technology may be robbing you of a toe-curling sex life. You haven't noticed the silent alarm, but chances are you're getting robbed each and every night. Two of the biggest reasons for not being intimate with your partner are lack of time and lack of energy. If we don't use technology carefully, we can lose too much of both, leaving little time and energy for romance. How's that, you say? Let me count the ways. TV and Romance Don't Mix There must be something unsexy about watching Jay Leno or the evening news in bed, because couples who have TVs in the bedroom report half as much sex as those who do not have TVs there, according to a 2006 Italian study. (Over-50s had an even greater reduction in sexual frequency with a TV present.) Violent films and reality shows were top passion-busters.