How to uncover and share your sexual fantasies with your partner.
My work is about helping couples who are committed and really love each other recover their passion. There are many reasons for this, and of course each couple is different. There is no cookie cutter solution that fits everyone.
One of the challenges that I have noticed for many couples encounter that over time, however, is that they have lost some of their spontaneity, some of their imagination and they become a little more reserved and guarded with each other. They stop (or perhaps have never started) sharing their sexual fantasies with each other. They have many reasons for this, which I will address later in this article.
Sharing, exploring and acting out your fantasies is a really important part of keeping the passion alive in a long-term relationship. Once the newness of a relationship wears off, once the novelty has passed, we begin to move out of that "honeymoon" stage.
Watching porn doesn't mean he's dissatisfied with his sex life.
Sexually charged images aren't limited to adult films and websites—they're everywhere! From a snapshot of a young ingénue's hoo-ha as she gets out of a limo to the latest celebrity sex tape, we are surrounded by forms of pornography. And, on the Internet most of it is not only easily accessible, it's free.
It's no wonder, then, that there are hundreds of sites dedicated to ending porn addiction. But does this mean that if your partner looks at porn that he has a problem? Does it mean that he doesn't love you or is being unfaithful? Is there room for porn in your relationship?
Sex experts tell us how to get the job done pleasing a man with just our hands.
Ladies, it is time to learn how to give your man a hand in bed.
If your lover is like many men, he would love to have sex every day or even multiple times a day. Unfortunately, many women can't keep up with their lovers' sex drives. The stress of work and family drain women of their ability to get turned on and be spontaneously in the mood for sex, especially intercourse.
To turn on your wife, you need to make her trust you.
There are countless articles and websites filled with information on how to overcome sexual issues. There are techniques, tips and advice to be found from all manner of sources. So what is it about sex that we struggle with so much? And why does it always seem as if everyone else is having better sex?
The truth is, they're probably not. They're likely grappling with the same sexual issues you are. Those who are truly experiencing better sex are typically further along in years, or further along in their relationship. So take heart. Relax. There's plenty of time to get there. But sexual satisfaction won't happen by chance. There's work to be done.
How to have regret-free sex in a new relationship.
As a dating and relationship coach whose company is called Dating With Dignity, you might guess I try to convince my clients that sex before commitment is a no-no. Not true! Instead, I believe that dating with dignity, simply means that regret does not factor into the experience. As a result, the Ahhhhh moment will last well into tomorrow and beyond, whether or not she continues to see her man.
So then, let's look at three things a woman can do to ensure that her choice to have sex is always made from a place that is free from regret, fear and false expectations:
1. Know your relationship goal.
Understand where you are in the cycle of dating and relationship development. Prior to getting into the dating game, it is critical that both men and women get clear on exactly where they hope to land once they have achieved their goal.
How to connect to a woman's subtle erotic energies to bring her pleasure.
Are you a man who can take directions from a woman? This sex tip is all about direction, and despite my widespread reputation for being directionally challenged, you can trust me on this one. I am going to guide you through an erotic touch experience with your lover, and this might just be the one that really lights her fire! Let's begin with you...
Self-preparation: Be clean, nourished and hydrated. Clip nails and hangnails, and use hand lotion. She will notice. Don your silky boxers, sarong or use that birthday suit. Your self-preparation shows honor and is the first step into your role as a respectful giver.
For women, masturbation is the first step to a great sex life.
A chief aspect of a healthy sex life is a taboo topic for women, and routine for men: masturbation.
Perhaps if female genitalia were as exposed as male bits masturbation would not be such an esoteric concept to some women.
Most women cringe at the word masturbation and its euphemisms like "polishing the peanut”, "finger painting", and "clam bake for one." I like to keep it classy and describe this intimate, personal act as solo love.
Three simple ways to combat technology addiction for better sex.
What if you could have twice as much sex with one small change? Researchers say you can. Technology may be robbing you of a toe-curling sex life. You haven't noticed the silent alarm, but chances are you're getting robbed each and every night.
Two of the biggest reasons for not being intimate with your partner are lack of time and lack of energy. If we don't use technology carefully, we can lose too much of both, leaving little time and energy for romance. How's that, you say? Let me count the ways.
TV and Romance Don't Mix
There must be something unsexy about watching Jay Leno or the evening news in bed, because couples who have TVs in the bedroom report half as much sex as those who do not have TVs there, according to a 2006 Italian study. (Over-50s had an even greater reduction in sexual frequency with a TV present.) Violent films and reality shows were top passion-busters.
Three types of sex to keep passion alive in a long-term, monogamous sex life.
YourTango Expert's 31-Day Sex Challenge is such a great idea because a good sex life is crucial to keeping love and passionate monogamy growing in a relationship. In fact, it's like the glue that holds it all together.
Sex releases the hormones that make us feel good (testosterone for men and oxytocin for women). Now, we all know that sex is almost always on a man's mind and he generally is "in the mood" anytime, anywhere, any way. But for a woman to build her desire and fully enjoy the sexual experience, she first needs to feel special and cherished by her partner. She yearns to be wanted and responds best when a man pursues her with devout intensity (regardless of the relationship stage or length).
How to keep your relationship sexy, healthy and affair-free as you grow older.
There is a very common myth about infidelity, supported by Hollywood hype, that says that people are unfaithful because of sex. She's younger, he's more buff, they have hotter sex in exotic positions. In real life, affairs are NOT love stories and they are very, very rarely about sex. Infidelity experts agree that the majority of affairs start in an attempt to have emotional needs met. Experts Agree: Cheating Is Not About Sex
