At some point, you'll find yourself coming up with excuses for your dry spell, if only to shut up those around you.
Your decision to remain celibate is based on your own, personal, selfish desire to meet the man of your dreams and avoid getting hurt. You want the rewards of a relationship without the collateral damage, and you are using your body – instead of your brain – as a bargaining tool.
The reality is that I get tired of lying to guys. It’s also entirely possible that it can be blamed on the fact that I have become lazy, lethargic, and (quite frankly) impatient. The whole idea of waiting around for men to come to me—being coy, conniving, a challenge—has flown out the window to be replaced by a grown woman with a teenage boy’s libido.
Yesterday's episode of The Revolution on ABC was all about "jumpstarting your sex life." When the conversation turned to how 15 to 20 percent of people are in no sex or low sex relationships, and the knee-jerk reaction was "That's saaaad," Tim Gunn interjected and admitted that he's been celibate — and is NO SEX, absolutely none! — for 29 YEARS.
A number of Episcopalians have been unhappy with the denomination's recent liberal changes, things like a shift toward pro-choice views and acceptance of gay marriage, even ordaining openly homosexual bishops. In response, the Catholic Church is opening up a nationwide diocese to ex-Episcopalians who would like to join Catholicism as a group; a priest and congregation, so church leaders and members who are already comfortable with one another will have a chance to stick together. They will be expected to abide by the Catholic Church's governance, support their conservative views and acknowledge the pope. But since priests in the Episcopal Church have never had to practice celibacy, and many are already married with children, the Catholic Church is granting an exemption to their long-practiced celibacy code... but is it fair? And should it even be allowed in the faith?
College campuses may be notorious for promiscuity, but don't forget that most students are actually there to, uh, study. According to a survey released by software company Kno, Inc., one in four college students would give up sex for a year in exchange for electronic textbooks.
As a 16-year-old, seduced by checkered Vans and studded belts, I found my match in this scene. Tim was older, 21, and a True Love Waits virgin. True Love Waits is a contract that you have with, like, "God" and the community or something. It is a vow that you will not have sex until you're married. The church-going kids would bring the contracts to school and teachers would pass them out during class, encouraging us to sign. Afterward, the names of kids who signed would run in the town's newspaper. Which also printed the names of everyone who'd been arrested that day and for what.
Tim Gunn reveals in his new book that he has been celibate for "decades." Though he claims that celibacy has not kept him from a "perfectly satisfied and happy" life, Jennifer Wright of TheGloss.com argues that a lack of sex, regardless of whether or not you feel it, means a lack of fulfillment.
Kate Gosselin has not had sex in over a year, which initially seems a bit sad until you think about it this way: Kate Gosselin had sex with Jon Gosselin just over a year ago. Yuck! Either way you spin it, each options perfectly explains the frustration and anger behind her eyes, the stiffness in her shuffle: No sex in fifteen months, and no sex with a decent penis in God knows how long.
Just a few short years ago, I was your basic art school student, following all the latest trends in indie rock, guzzling PBR, shooting movies, but... not having sex. No, I wasn't a late bloomer and I didn't have trouble relating to women my own age. I was celibate.
Recently Bristol and mom Sarah Palin made a headline-grabbing appearance on Oprah where one of the bigger headlines came out of Bristol's vow to abstain from sex and remain celibate until marriage. Whether you see this as a sincere vow of a teen mom humbled by the grown-up situation she's put herself in, or a as a publicity stunt aimed at boosting her and her ambitious mother's conservative image, celibacy is a movement that is gaining attention in both the teen and adult worlds as a lifestyle choice.
Almost every dry-speller we spoke to said that celibacy -- voluntary or not -- was a valuable growth experience, helping some feel more confident while others relished the surplus of "me time." And surely that's worth more than, say, sleeping with one of these dudes. We discovered three main types of dry spells and spoke with survivors for insight.
In what appears to be a counterintuitive bid to come across as a little less crazy, Nadya Suleman (a.k.a. Octo-Mom) has told the British tabloid The Sun that she has been celibate for the past eight years and that she plans to remain celibate for 18 more. Suleman, mother to 14 kids in seven years (including last month's world famous octuplets), has come under fire from the press, the public and her own mother in recent weeks for words and actions that many see as proof that she lacks critical thinking skills and/or sanity. Will this latest assertion clear her name?