Who Should Pick up the Tab on the First Date?
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Who Should Pick up the Tab on the First Date?

Okay, guys, I realize you may be getting a bit confused by now, with the “old” feminism and the “new” feminism. In the old school way of thinking, the man always paid the tab, whether it was the first date or the tenth date, right? Then came feminism. In that way of thinking, it might have offended a woman if you did things like open the door for her, let alone pay the tab.

Can Swinging Save Your Marriage?
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Can Swinging Save Your Marriage?

Lila here~ I just read a brief synopsis of some research done by sociologist Curtis Bergstrand. He’s recently written a book called Swinging in America: Love, Sex and Marriage in the 21st Century. In the book, he explores whether the institution of marriage is broken. In a word: yes.In Bergstrand’s exploration of what’s wrong with marriage (and by that, he means traditional monogamous, til-death-do-we part marriage) led him to wonder what, if anything, could save this age-old institution. And that’s where swinging enters the picture.

How to Survive a Breakup: The Shetox
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How to Survive a Breakup: The Shetox

Last week I blogged about those “easy” break ups, the ones you could literally do over the phone. That got me thinking about the other kind of breakups, the ones that aren’t so easy. These are the ones that really hurt. Maybe you have been together for a long time, and just know it isn’t right for you any longer. Or, maybe it’s the kind of breakup that was not your idea; it was hers. Some say this kind are the worst. I think they both suck, but at times both are necessary. Having been through quite of few of them over the years and coached many a client through them, I have learned a few things on the subject. Below is a survival guide to getting through breakups as quickly and painlessly as possible.

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Celine Dion Delivers Twin Boys!

Among all of the sordid stories we cover about celebrities and their drug-fueled romps with hookers (ahem, Charlie Sheen,) it's always nice to come across an uplifting tale like the one of Celine Dion and her brand new twin baby boys! After having their 9-year-old son together, named Rene-Charles, the 42-year-old French Canadian singer and her husband Rene Angelil tried five, heart-breaking more times to get pregnant without success. (Celine also suffered a miscarriage in 2009.) So, this week's arrival of the two boys, whose names haven't released, was a momentous occasion for the Dion-Angelil family!

Relationship Quiz
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Relationship Quiz

When you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, things change. You settle into each other, getting more comfortable with each passing year. But how can you tell if you’re comfortable, or just comfortably numb? Is your comfort within the normal range for long term relationships, or are you ignoring warning signs that could signal the end is near?

Neil Patrick Harris And David Burtka's Twins Born
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Neil Patrick Harris And David Burtka's Twins Born

Looks like the stork was busy in Hollywood this week. Neil Patrick Harris and his partner David Burtka became the proud papas of twins! Although the couple never confirmed the identity of their stork, sources say the babies were born using a surrogate. And the lucky pair got the perfect combo in our opinion—a boy, Gideon Scott and a girl, Harper Grace. (Cute names too, huh?)

The Problem With Faking an Orgasm
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The Problem With Faking an Orgasm

Lila here~ I just read about another sex survey recently conducted by Indiana University. In the study, 85% of men reported that their partner had climaxed the last time they had sex. However, only 64% of women surveyed said they had reached orgasm the last time they had sex. That’s a pretty big gap between the men’s perception and the women’s reality if you ask me.

Does She Have Too Much Baggage?
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Does She Have Too Much Baggage?

Pinkee here~ Let’s imagine you start dating a new woman, and based on things you are finding out, you start to ask yourself the age-old question: Does she have too much baggage? In my opinion, the answer is: it depends.

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Is David Burtka A Deadbeat Dad?

Neil Patrick Harris may be eagerly counting down the days until he becomes a first time dad, but, for his partner David Burtka, the anticipation of the arrival of their twins, who will be born to a surrogate mother, may be of the déjà vu variety. According to Star Magazine, David is already a dad to 10-year-old twins, Flynn and Javin, who live with their other dad and David's ex, film producer Lane Janger. The couple had the twins via a surrogate mother in 2000, but broke-up in 2004, and, now, claims the magazine, David rarely ever sees the kids, even though they all live in LA.

Emails May Prove David Beckham's A Cheater
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Emails May Prove David Beckham's A Cheater

Looks like David Beckham didn't learn anything from fellow athlete, Tiger Woods' whole cheating scandal. Like the disgraced golfer, Beckham's blackberry could land him in a whole lot of trouble. As you've probably heard by now (unless your blackberry is on a hiatus), Becks has been accused of cheating on his wife, Victoria Beckham with a woman named Shery Shabani. But unlike Tiger's fame-seeking, money-hungry gals, it doesn't look like Shabani's the one spreading these cheating "rumors." In this case, the culprit happens to be Shabani's ex-husband, Kamyar Shabani. (Note to famous men looking for some side action: Married women don't make the best mistresses).

Is Your Partner A Compulsive Liar?  (Part II)
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Is Your Partner A Compulsive Liar? (Part II)

So, you’re in a relationship with a compulsive liar. Damn. I hate when that happens. What to do? First of all, I would evaluate how deeply you are in. Is this someone you just started seeing? Or, is this someone you feel strongly committed to, whom you may even have one or more children with?

Is Your Partner A Compulsive Liar?  (Part I)
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Is Your Partner A Compulsive Liar? (Part I)

Although this may be somewhat of an unusual topic, unfortunately it is not as uncommon as you might think. I myself have gotten entangled with two guys in the past who were pathological liars, and have spoken with others who have as well. How could this have happened to someone as intelligent and aware as I, you might be asking yourself?

Should You Stay or Should You Go?
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Should You Stay or Should You Go?

This blog is for men and women who have been in a relationship for a long time—say ten years or more. It’s gotten stale, or worse, and you’re trying to decide what to do. Here’s the thing: your relationship didn’t get bad overnight. It’s been a long time coming, and there have been signs along every step of the way. But inertia is a very powerful force. Most people would rather be moderately miserable than do the work needed to be outrageously happy.

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Balthazar Getty: Cheating Made My Marriage Better

Balthazar Getty, the 35-year-old TV actor and heir to the Getty fortune, made headlines in 2008 when he was caught cheating on his wife with a topless Sienna Miller, with whom he was photographed kissing aboard a yacht in Italy. Now, nearly a year after their affair ended, Sienna is back in the arms of her old love Jude Law, and Balthazar has somehow pulled off a miracle and reconciled with his estranged wife. The two's relationship is so strong, he claims, that they even gave an interview about it in the latest issue of Harper's Bazaar.

Are You Getting Enough “Quality Time”?
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Are You Getting Enough “Quality Time”?

Pinkee here~ I know “quality time” is a cliche that people make a lot of jokes about, but I’ve recently rediscovered how important it is to a relationship. I noticed I was getting more critical of my partner for what seemed like the little stuff.