So, you’re in a relationship with a compulsive liar. Damn. I hate when that happens. What to do? First of all, I would evaluate how deeply you are in. Is this someone you just started seeing? Or, is this someone you feel strongly committed to, whom you may even have one or more children with?
Although this may be somewhat of an unusual topic, unfortunately it is not as uncommon as you might think. I myself have gotten entangled with two guys in the past who were pathological liars, and have spoken with others who have as well. How could this have happened to someone as intelligent and aware as I, you might be asking yourself?
This blog is for men and women who have been in a relationship for a long time—say ten years or more. It’s gotten stale, or worse, and you’re trying to decide what to do. Here’s the thing: your relationship didn’t get bad overnight. It’s been a long time coming, and there have been signs along every step of the way. But inertia is a very powerful force. Most people would rather be moderately miserable than do the work needed to be outrageously happy.
Balthazar Getty, the 35-year-old TV actor and heir to the Getty fortune, made headlines in 2008 when he was caught cheating on his wife with a topless Sienna Miller, with whom he was photographed kissing aboard a yacht in Italy. Now, nearly a year after their affair ended, Sienna is back in the arms of her old love Jude Law, and Balthazar has somehow pulled off a miracle and reconciled with his estranged wife. The two's relationship is so strong, he claims, that they even gave an interview about it in the latest issue of Harper's Bazaar.
You know, it would really be nice if LeAnn Rimes would give us a chance to miss her. Or, at the very least, if she could go work on a new album for a few months, so she could at least have something new to talk about. But no. LeAnn is still harping on about her affair with Eddie Cibrian, as if it happened yesterday and not over a year ago. In addition to her constant Tweeting about her relationship, LeAnn appears on the cover of October’s Shape Magazine and talks about (what else?) her relationship with Eddie Cibrian and, since it’s a fitness magazine, how she and Eddie Cibrian like to work-out. She claims that her cheating on her ex-husband Dean Sheremet left her "depressed," but only after her fans found out about it.
Once upon 2007-ish, fresh off of her sex tape, Kim Kardashian was the most famous of the three Kardashian sisters. Since then, middle child Kim has been eclipsed by her two sisters, both professionally and personally. Not only do Kourtney and Khloe have their own spin-off show that’s exclusively about them, but each has found domestic bliss – Kourtney in the form of a baby with long-time boyfriend Scott Disick, and Khloe in the form of a wedding to Lamar Odom. Sure, Kim Kardashian still has her ample butt, but what good is looking hot in a tight dress when you’re on the brink of your 30th birthday and totally alone? So, according to Life & Style, Kim decided to do something to change her life (and, not to mention, garner way more attention from the press): she decided to get pregnant.
Months ago, we reported that both Amy Adam and Isla Fisher, two red headed actresses that we always get confused, were both pregnant. Well, Amy, who’s engaged to artist Darren Le Gallo, went on to give birth to a little girl named Aviana Olea Le Gallo on May 15th, but we heard absolutely nothing about Isla. Did something happen, we wondered? Did she have a miscarriage? Nope, it turns out that the 34-year-old actress did give birth to her second child at some point this past summer because, according to OK Magazine, she and her comedian husband Sacha Baron Cohen were spotted recently, walking down a London street with a new baby in a stoller and their almost 3-year-old daughter Olive walking in between them. However, the couple has yet to release any details, not even the baby’s gender or name or date of birth. How weird!
It looks like those rumors of a shotgun wedding were true! After photos surfaced of Penelope Cruz looking super-pregnant on the set of Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides, the actress’ Spanish rep confirmed this week that Penelope and her husband Javier Bardem are expecting their first child.
Pinkee here~ Talking about sex toys one more time this week. As promised, we are moving on this week to some of the more “advanced” toys. Anal sex is definitely not for beginners. It takes, in order for it to be pleasurable, a lot of lube, and an open mind. And, it also takes a certain preference. Not all partners are going to want to even try anal sex. However, all is not lost. Anal plugs and “butt beads” are other options which fall short of anal sex but can still be lots of fun.
I’ve been working on my new book and it’s thrown me back into the time I left my partner in 2007. As I re-read what I’ve written so far, it occurred to me that we had a ridiculously long honeymoon phase in our relationship. For most couples, the honeymoon lasts a few months to a few years. For us it lasted sixteen years.
Pinkee here~ As promised, this week we’ll be talking about the next step in sex toys, dildos and vibrators. Let’s start with dildos. Dildos are, very bluntly, fake erect penises. They come in many different shapes, sizes,. and colors. If you were to buy one for your woman, what type should you buy?
If there’s a former child star who is desperately in need of a reality show, it’s Jodie Sweetin. Best known for her portrayal as Stephanie Tanner, the uneviable middle child on the wholesome family show, Full House, Jodie retired as an actress at the age of 13, only to end up an unemployed, meth addict in her early twenties, who got drunk and high every chance she could get. But after a few false starts at sobering up, a tell-all book, some reportedly large breast implants, and two failed marriages, Jodie has cleaned up her life and recently gave birth to her second child, a baby girl named Beatrix Carlin Sweetin Coyle.
Did you guys hear this one? Tony Blair is sticking up for his political pal, Bill Clinton in his new memoir, A Journey, attempting to justify the former President's infidelity. Blair, who calls Clinton "a great guy, a good president, and above all a friend," doesn't just praise Clinton's political prowess but dives into his juicy personal life as well, offering his take on what prompted good old, Bill to have that infamous affair with Miss Monica Lewinsky.
Lila here~ A few weeks ago, my friend Adam blogged about the 3 P’s of relationships from an Imago Relationship Therapy standpoint. The 3 P’s are: Pick, Provoke and Project. First you pick a partner who reflects the positive and negative traits of your caregivers when you were a child. We call this your imago match. Then you provoke those traits to come forth. At first you provoke the positive traits, but after the honeymoon phase of the relationship is over, you provoke the negative traits to come out. Then you (I say you, but we all do it) project those traits onto your partner, whether they actually have them or not. If you’ve ever thought or said, “you’re just like my father (or mother)” then you know what projection is.
Pssst. Are you a publicist looking for a job? Because Tiki Barber, who the New York Post is reporting has hired a third PR company to "polish his image," might be in need of a fourth one. The ex-Giants football player, who earlier this year left his then 8-month-pregnant wife of 11 years for a 23-year-old, blonde, former TV intern, just doesn’t seem to understand why people think he’s a dirt bag. And he is doing everything he can to try to "spin his relationship" with Traci Lynn Johnson into something positive, including hiring multiple publicists to get out the word that he’s not such a bad guy.
Pinkee here~ I have recently had a resurgence of my love of sex toys. (It’s been a long-standing love affair.) I know some of you guys out there have some issues with toys, though. I’d say the two most common ones are either you have never used toys with your partner because you’re afraid she is too conservative, or you’ve never used toys with your partner because you’re afraid she will like them more than she likes your penis.