I think there are a few difficult conversations that women normally initiate. Men, for the most part, will sit back and wait for a woman to bring these topics up. They're all for anything that does not disrupt that status quo. So, I thought we'd break down some of the more ...uncomfortable conversation that we all tend to have and the various situations in which we have them.
When you give a parting gift, it's absolutely critical that everyone is on-board with the idea that you will not be seeing each other again in this capacity; otherwise it's either courtship with a sequential problem or more of a prostitution scenario. If the sex was good, you may deserve a keepsake (I do not condone robbing someone after you just had it off with them, aight?). And if it was crummy (c'mon, it was still sex), you deserve a parting gift.
Well, good work procrastinating. You may have missed your chance for getting some summer loving. But maybe not. Labor Day hasn't happened, you can still have a fantastic summer fling but it is not going to be easy. Follow these steps and you can cram an entire summer into the long weekend. It is not for the faint of heart, though.
Achim Schützwohl and his research team of Brunel University in London rounded up groups of American, Italian and German men and women for a little game of "who would you (hypothetically) screw" and found out men are much more likely to have a one nighter with someone they found unattractive.
I had to read their post a few times for it to fully sink in, and I suggest you do too if you suspect you’re in an intimacy lite situation. My intimacy lite story is probably a pretty typical one and it goes like this: I meet a boy. We have amazing chemistry, brain hormones go wild, love-at-first sight ensues, and is then harshly interrupted by reality.
It's time for the links: this time around sticky divorces, what happens when a wife is hording cash, rules for hustling on Craigslist, dating a short woman, what he thinks during first time sex, Em & Lo's casual sex list, women can also be promiscuous, how to buy someone a drink, forgetting Valentine's Day by 14 weeks, great sex life church may need a new home, bad first kisses, getting out of a second date and what 500 pornos could teach you.
Casual Encounters is exactly as it sounds; a place to find a casual encounter. While garnering more traffic than match.com, eharmony and Yahoo! personals, the smutty section of craigslist anonymous sex gained some bad publicity as of late due to two murders that happened pretty close to one another. One man responded to a Casual Encounters sex ad and another woman was looking for a masseuse. While all the loyal Casual Encounters users know of the risks, most interviewed were pretty blase about the murders. "In a city of eight million-plus, this sort of thing was bound to happen statistically," one man shrugged. Anyway, the Times published a story about a cast of characters who each utilize the site for their own, er, interesting habits. While one envisions hot one nighters, CE isn't entirely hot and sexy.
A crash course for women looking for casual sex as advice culled from three men in the column Wise Guy by Em and Lo. All men had a variation of booty call red flags such as, don't get too drunk, don't act psycho, try to appear STD-free and hope that the guy has no better options. Basically, women should try to train themselves to see the sex as just that, not anything more.
How does someone end up not having sex for 15 years? By accident, swears writer Kit Naylor on Salon.com. We've all had dry spells, but man, 15 years is one hell of a dry spell! Naylor is a middleaged woman, a self-described recluse with two cats and no kids. She calls herself "a spinster long past my sell-by date." Spinster! We think that's a sexist way to refer to herself, but nevertheless, we admire how she got that way: she wants to be in love to make love. It seems that by eschewing casual sex and being committed to personal integrity, she's condemning herself to accidental celibacy.
Anyone born in the last fifty years has been met with increasingly sexy advertising and entertainment. At the same time, premarital, extramarital and so-called "casual" sex are also on the rise. But, as recent film Zack & Miri Make A Porno questions, is sex ever just "f*cking" or does it always have meaning, despite what our sexually liberal culture might lead us to believe?
One-night stands: for or against? The Daily Bedpost posed this question earlier this week, and readers responded in favor of the casual liaison. Em and Lo, in turn, laid out ten basic rules of the one-night stand. After all, knowing you'll never see him again does not give you (or him) permission to be rude. Some of our favorites (with a bit of interpretation)...
If you're an internet user (hey there you!), you've probably seen ads for Adult FriendFinder—they're those banners promising that there are live women in your zip code waiting to have sex with YOU! Now, maybe you've wondered if these women really exist. Turns out they do. In his investigation for Radar, writer Teddy Wayne signed up for AFF with three distinct personalities: a straight man, bisexual woman and gay guy. Most of the his findings are what you'd expect on a casual sex site: profiles include lots of photos of erect cocks, his female profile received more far responses than his male one, and there seems to be way more men than women on the site (despite the fact that AFF says half of its members are women).
I just broke up with my boyfriend of three years, but he's still hoping we'll end up together. Neither of us is dating anyone new, so we still have "ex-sex" occasionally. He insists he can handle it emotionally, but is it wrong to continue when I have no intention of getting back together with him?