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Today's job market has many couples well aware of the strain unemployment can put on a relationship. Constant stress can cause fights, break up an otherwise healthy relationship, and really put "for better or worse" to the test. Often, coping with this anxiety and pressure can be just as taxing for the employed spouse as it is for the one who is out of work. But this doesn't have to be the case. Instead of letting unemployment destroy your relationship, allow it to strengthen your bond as a couple. We show you how to cope:
After job-hunting for the past year or so, I've concluded that nothing resembles the search for love more than the pursuit of a career. Both enable an obsession with checking your phone and email. Both make you think twice about what's posted on your Facebook profile. Both are an exciting, yet scary transition that we're likely to face multiple times throughout our lives. Naturally, sending out cover letters and going on interviews has reaffirmed a number of valuable dating lessons, including:
Recently, during a weekly therapy session, my doc and I were doing our thing, talkin' 'bout boys, my frustration with the ones I have met, and my recent relapse into dreaming about my ex; I was telling her that sometimes, despite being a relatively solitary person who enjoys time alone, I get overwhelmed with loneliness. I miss something I don't have anymore, that feeling of deep companionship.
No one ever said managing a career was easy. Throw a relationship into the mix and you've got career suicide, right? Wrong. While we'd all love to forgo a day of work in exchange for a fun-filled day with our significant other, having a strong relationship doesn't mean your occupational goals have to suffer. It's quite the opposite! Extensive research on the subject of relationships and careers shows that people in successful relationships not only make more money, they're healthier, live longer, and get more promotions than singles do. So how can you juggle your relationship and your career? We've got the five tips that’ll keep your work and love life harmonious—and YOU sane!
When I lost my job, the last thing I needed was a blank social calendar and empty bed. There's only so much disappointment one girl can take. This modern-day Dorothy wanted to click her heels and have the perfect profession and pillow pal land right into her lap. Was that too much to ask? Maybe not. Nicole Williams says you can snag both with the same advice. In her newest book, Girl on Top, Williams suggests the tactics used to land a man can also be applied effectively in the office. Can classic dating rules help you climb the career ladder? After all, the game's the same, right?
When you're the stay-at-home mother of an infant, you spend almost no time alone, and thinking goes out the window, unless you count anxious fretting over when to start solid foods and how to persuade the baby to go down for a nap. It's unclear to me now why I imagined this wouldn't be a difficult adjustment.
Once upon a time, I thought time had run out on my chance to get love right. While all my friends were marrying, settling down, and starting families, I was once again staring at the smoldering remains of yet another failed relationship with yet another Mr. Wrong. The perpetual bachelorette in my social circle, I had a job my friends envied, owned my own condo, took amazing vacations, and always had fabulous plans on the weekends. I was even saving money for retirement like a smart, savvy woman should. On paper, my life looked amazing. In reality, I felt like a complete and total failure.
I want to earn more money than my husband to have a better sex life. Fact: I want to be a successful businesswoman. I never want to feel like I have to rely on a man to pay for my clothes, travel, entertainment, food, housing... anything. Which is not say I don't enjoy receiving gifts, but when it comes to my relationships, I've made a conscious decision to strive to be the breadwinner.
Unvarnished.com, a user generated work review site that's still in beta, is kind of like the sleazy little sister to Linkedin.com. The site aims to help out employers with written reviews by co-workers of a person's actual performance on the job. Could this ruin a person's career and love life?
Changing your last name for marriage is a big decision, here are 10 pros and cons to help you decide. Many of us spent our childhood years doodling our names with the "Mrs." pronoun into the margins of our diaries. We experimented with our crushes' names, imagined ourselves with famous names (Mrs. DiCaprio, anybody?), or dreamed up names that were completely random altogether. Now that we're a little more seasoned and—hopefully—more in tune with our sense of individuality, we figure that changing our last name for marriage isn't newlywed protocol.
Women aren't the only ones who struggle with "having it all." Men are faced with the touch choice between growing their personal fulfillment in a career or settling down with Ms. Right. An accomplished author chose work over love, delaying romance in order to pursue his dream career. He writes: "I'm 45 now. I've written for the New Yorker, the New York Times magazine, GQ, and lots of others. But I'm not married." Read the rest of his story.
At the behest of his wife, my husband has been pursuing a different employer as his current position, while solid and benefit laden, offers no room for advancement and little job satisfaction. It is one of those jobs that his father's generation would have envied. In fact, his father is pretty incensed that he would like to leave. Problem is, my hubby hates it and he'll be there a million years before he ever gets a promotion because no one leaves. It's a graveyard and he knows it.
Major gender role changes are afoot, according to a new study from the Pew Research Center. Men are increasingly marrying women who earn more money or education than them. The numbers say it all: In 1970, 4% of wives earned more than their husbands; in 2007, 22% did. Good job ladies! Let's examine what has caused this shift in gender dynamics.