Because for many, love feels like a drug.
What is love? Is it a feeling in our hearts? Or more of a chemical reaction in our brains? When we fall in love do we have an ability to control ourselves or is it more akin to having a drug pumped into our bodies that is in control of us? Perhaps, it is a little of both.
Here's a common scenario: You haven't been dating very long, but you have it BAD. From the way he laughs at all of your jokes, to how his hand fits into yours. Being with him is intoxicating; in fact, all it takes is one look to send your heart racing and make you fumble with your words. He is all you think about. Try as you might, your mind wanders to him thousands of times a day and a day without a conversation feels like torture.
In your heart, you need to talk, to reach out, to touch...
If you've ever been in love, then you know that it can be addicting. But are there scientific reasons why we fall as hard as we do? Human Behavior Researcher Dr. Helen Fisher shares that, "brain circuitry for romantic love follows the same pathway as all of the other addictions do." In that context, it isn't hard to see where she is coming from.
Just what is love and why is it so hard to quit?
We have all been in a relationship where we lost ourselves completely, too blinded by our emotions to see that we're already at the finish line. To our Experts, this experience could almost be considered normal. For a time, we lose our logical minds and our brains are over-taken by feelings of love. Even if this just happens temporarily it's jarring and a tad shocking to your system.
The big question is should we worry about this behavior?
YourTango Experts Senior VP, Melanie Gorman, Clinical Social Worker SaraKay Smullens, Relationship Retreat Guide Mary Ellen Goggin and Clinical Psychologist Dr. Alicia H. Clark reiterate the fact that when your relationship is going smoothly, the horizon seems pretty bright. But when it is bad, this addiction can be hard to quit.
So we ask again, what is love? Watch to learn more about what the Experts have to say.