We've all been there – you've gone on a couple of dates, had a great time, then suddenly, as quickly as it started…silence. Nothing but crickets. So why did it happen? Why did he just vanish from your life? Well, the truth is, it's because he wasn’t the guy for you. You may have felt it, but it wasn’t there for him.
I’ve gotten a lot of questions about dating protocol regarding whether we should go ahead and call him, or wait it out and see if he comes around. It got me thinking about this topic and what’s really going on with this whole "should I call him?", "how long should I wait before it’s ok to call him?", etc. Why do we put so much of our energy into trying to figure out this simple decision? Because it has such implications. Or does it? Does it really matter if we call him or not?
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Has this ever happened to you? You meet a new guy for coffee and have a great first date. The week goes by. He texts once or twice, but does not ask about the weekend. Then, he finally calls you, on Friday, to talk about the weekend. "Are you free tonight?" he asks. Well, you purposely left the weekend open hoping he would call. So you say, "Yes". You go out and have another great date. Then, you don't hear from him all week, except for some texting. This time, you can't take it. You want to know what is going to happen for the weekend. You can't stand this waiting game.
Worry not, non-athletic individuals of the world. Sure, we don't excel in sport, but that doesn't mean we aren't good at other games. Take dating, for example.
If dating had hard and fast rules, there would be no single people. The world would be a relatively happy place where everyone was in love and beamed happiness as they held hands in the park and merrily frolicked along. ...Right?
The 2009 movie, He’s Just Not That Into You followed a variety of characters as they attempted to decode how men were feeling. There were single women, attached women, and married women all pondering the same questions, and they were all attempted to figure out the hidden meaning behind every word and action of the men around them.
You haven't just been slow-faded. You've been Houdini-ed. But hey, at least you're not letting it get you down, right Crazy Eyes? And you're definitely not about to text them again just to make sure they got your last few calls and text messages since, you know, your phone has been acting kind of weird all week? After all, you're keeping the following in mind…
Last December, I facilitated a session which defined sex, sexuality and intimacy during SlutTalk, a fringe event under SlutWalk Singapore. It was the inspiration for an earlier piece on publichouse.sg with the same title here. After my session, I thought I was off-work, resumed my civilian status, and was easing into my seat. An undergraduate lady sitting next to me began small talk by first remarking that I look nothing like my namecard/ website/ media pictures.
"Typical man." Ever heard a friend say that? Or be the one to say it? We're taught that for the most part, men just don't care as much as we do. We're taught that they are not as sensitive as we are, that they don't pay attention as much as we do or read into things like we do. Unfortunately, we're guilty of a lot of the same stuff.
Where have all the gentlemen gone? In this video from Fox News iMag, resident "bartender" Tobi Dragotta explores the oft-vexing question of why some men prefer to communicate via short, impersonal bits of text rather than hear someone's voice. How do you get a man to put in some effort and call you?
How many times have you waited too long for a man to call and ask you out again after you had an amazing time together? He seemed truly interested, but then you never hear from him again. Why does this happen for so many women? And what does it mean about men? Here are the different reasons men do this.
