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I didn't know what love meant until I found her.
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I Lost My Mother To Breast Cancer But Ended Up Finding Myself

After my mother passed away after battling breast cancer for the second time, I felt like a part of me was missing. Overcome with wanderlust and a need to understand her and where she came from, I decided to take a trip. I thought that if I could get to know her through her roots, I'd find the part of me that collapsed when she died.

Breast Cancer: It Happened To My Mom
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Breast Cancer: It Happened To My Mom

I first found out my mom had breast cancer when I was 18. I was pursuing a Diploma in Mass Communications at Ngee Ann Polytechnic, and in my second of three year studies. My dad was actually the one who told me that doctors suspected my mom to have breast cancer. She was scheduled to go for a biopsy - where cells from her breast would be extracted for cancer.

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Losing a breast forces you to learn the meaning of emotional vulnerability.
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What No One Ever Tells You About Mastectomies & Intimacy

Ever wonder why we’re all so crazy about breasts? Because they're so damned desirable, that's why. This is a reality that every women who's undergone a mastectomy deals with each day. The idea of reconstruction is like a big security blanket that makes us feel that whatever it is we're about to go through, we'll be fine and dandy in no time. But, as a woman who's lost a breast to cancer and had reconstruction, I can tell you first hand: the reality is more complicated than that.

Can Angelina Jolie Feel Feminine After Her Surgery?
The ideal image of femininity doesn't mean you are not feminine.
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Can Angelina Jolie Feel Feminine After Her Surgery?

Angelina Jolie has been a big news item in the past few days. And rightfully so. To have both breasts removed, and next, her ovaries, is not the usual way we hear of women doing things to prevent cancer. But before I talk about what it means as a woman, let me say that her case is fairly unusual "because more than 99% of women do not have BRCA1 -- or BRCA2, for that matter." So hopefully, women will not begin to think this is something they should do to prevent breast cancer. Without the presence of BRCA1, the best prevention for all disease is to eat well (and I mean EXTREMELY well), exercise regularly, avoid stress, and be happy. Now I want to talk about the self-image and emotional perspective of what Angelina Jolie has brought to the forefront of thinking. Can a woman who has had her breasts removed still feel like a woman?

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Preventive mastectomies have increased by about 50% in recent years.
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Was Angelina Jolie's Preventive Double Mastectomy Too Drastic?

To gain insight into Angelina Jolie's brave yet extreme choice to get a preventive mastectomy, we sat down with YourTango Expert Dr. Shoshana Bennett — a clinical psychologist, an author and a breast cancer patient who opened up about the physical, emotional and sexual effects of cancer and mastectomies.

The Day Cancer Came in the Mail
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The Day Cancer Came in the Mail

  I love getting mail, the real kind you don’t have to print out.  The kind you have to get out of your chair for.  So I was excited to see my friend’s return address in the pile, and it wasn’t just because the envelope didn’t hold a bill.

In Sickness and in Health?  That Depends.
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In Sickness and in Health? That Depends.

One would think wedding vows are unambiguous.  Straightforward.  No subtext, no exceptions.  Love is love. Right?“ "Not so,” say some men.  “If you get really sick or disabled, I’m outta here.” A study published in the journal Cancer reported that, of the 515 married patients with serious cancer or multiple sclerosis followed over 5 years, the divorce rate was about the same as among the general population, 11.6%.  The difference was that women were 6 times more likely to be the ones bei