This is a blog post by a member of the YourTango community and does not represent the opinions of YourTango.com or its employees. Once upon a time, a beautiful girl named Marissa met a wonderful beefcake named Michael. After hours of walking through a park and engaging in long romantic talks, they fell deeply in love. And they lived happily ever after. NOT! After six months, Michael moved into her apartment. Exactly one year after that he dumped her, for another woman. Marissa was devastated. How could he do this?
When a marriage or a relationship ends, it can be a very difficult time in our lives. Whatever the reason for the split, the breakup of any relationship can turn your whole world into complete disorder. It may cause painful and traumatic feelings. There are things you can do to get through this difficult time. Finding a support team is most important and coming up with a serious game plan to resume your life is second. As difficult as it may be, you will eventually have to go back to work. The purpose of life is a life of purpose.
“You come across as an ice queen, you know.” He said it to Jeanie so matter of factly it snapped her head back. “What?” She whimpered back. She had just listed the faults of her latest ex and the horrible breakup to her newest friendly bartender and expected him to rush to her defense.
DO put it in perspective If you're dumped, it hurts. But count your lucky stars. You don't have a relationship if the other person's not really interested. DO understand that there were problems already It's never easy to find out that your relationship—whether long or short—is over. Once bonded, even if the relationship is terrible, both men and women have trouble breaking away. So if you're dumped, the other person really wanted out.
Whether your summer breakup still stings, your fall heartbreak feels fresh, or your holiday heartache has yet to happen, one thing’s for sure. The holiday season is here and dealing with a broken heart can be especially tough during these “feel good” months. After all, there are holiday gatherings to attend, mistletoe to stand under (GASP – alone!), and happy couples cozying up to one another wherever you turn.
Contrary to popular thought, the holidays aren’t nearly as cozy a time for couples as we’re led to believe: a recent study showed a spike in Facebook users changing their status to “single” in December more than any other time of year. So, what's a girl to do if you find yourself solo this time of year? Here are three easy ways to celebrate on your own terms:
John doesn't know what to believe anymore. He has actually become used to his girlfriend's threats to break up with him. It seems like every time they have an argument or she gets irritated with him, she declares that she's going to end their relationship and that she's “done.” This is upsetting for John to hear and the first 4 or 5 times she threatened to break up with him, he did everything he could to calm her down and make everything okay between them again.
Has your relationships taken a sudden turn for the worse? Do you argue about every little thing? So now you're ready to escape this thing you once called a relationship. I will admit there is no easy way to end a relationship, especially if it involves children. Moving on and letting go is a task that shouldn't be taken lightly. There is a healing process that needs to take place so the emotional baggage doesn't follow you on to the next relationship. Here are my steps on how to escape a relationship gone bad.
Some of the most difficult choices we are faced with have to do with those we love. There is a great power in choice, but sometimes it is incredibly difficult to know if we are making the right decision when it is a matter of pursuing or ending a relationship with someone who has our heart. You may be making excellent choices in nearly all areas of your life, but are you choosing well in love? How do you really know when it is time to call it quits?
There is no doubt about it, break ups are painful for all parties involved. Whether you plan to rip it off like a band-aid or plant the seed and treat it like a process, ending a relationship is no easy task. Often, the challenges facing the person initiating a break up are grossly underestimated. Friends and family are likely to be more supportive when their loved ones get "dumped," showing less empathy and concern when they cut the ties.