Have you gone through a devastating breakup recently? Are you on the cusp of a new relationship and wondering how to move on from your old one? Is a rebound relationship the way to get over being burned by love? If so, help is on the way.
Defensive Facebooking. That’s what I called it after my ex and I broke up, and I’d have my friends post pictures our fabulous night in which I was looking fabulous, at a fabulous bar, surrounded by fabulous men. Then I’d cross my fingers that he’d see it and hope to get 187 million likes. In my mind I was getting revenge, but staying classy. Not a break up crazy at all. It’s not something I’m particularly proud of.
Breaking up with someone after years of dating can be one of the most painful experiences a person endures. With long-term relationships there is always thought to the future. Maybe this is the one. When that relationship ends, it feels like the entire world comes crashing down. Everything you once believed is now false. And on top of that, you have to start all over with someone else. That is, if the experience didn't scare you off from dating forever.
In many relationships, one person becomes needy while the other feels guilty for not meeting their needs. An expert explains the cause of this shift, and why it leads to breakup and divorce.
Regardless of how you feel, the bottom line is that the relationship is over and you need to come to terms with moving on. But how do you do that? Our expert breaks it down into a step-by-step process.
Immediately after a break up, when you’re heartbroken, you don’t really know what to do. You have all these emotions inside and it’s hard to say if it’s about love or hate at this point. Take the time after a break up to focus your energy on something positive.
Sure, we could chalk up the impending divorce of Kordell and Porsha Stewart as another casualty of the reality show curse, but in truth, their short-lived marriage provides something powerful we can all learn from. Whether you appear on a reality show or not, when it comes to creating a successful marriage, you must design and define your relationship — something Kordell and Porsha appear to have missed.
Ask anyone who's been through divorce what it's like and they'll likely recount a loss of sleep, irritability, forgetfulness, tears, inability to function and sadness — sometimes all at once, sometimes sequentially, and that's on top of the never-ending list of chores and tasks triggered by the legal process, maybe finding somewhere new to live and maybe finding a new job. You can probably add a few of your own. So how do you get through it?
Welcome to Splitville! It hurts like hell, doesn't it? There is nothing that stirs your equilibrium like a love lost. Your body just goes numb; this is the lowest low you have ever felt in your entire life. Everything is so gloomy, and you can't see pass today. If you do it's all scary stuff ... a life void of meaning and happiness.