February 13th is the day to Break Up With Your Ex. And given Jeff Foxworthy's immense popularity in past decades, we thought we'd break it down with 10 signs you really need to sever your digital and social media ties to your ex.
BREAK UP WITH YOUR EX
Sure, it's time-consuming and awkward to unfriend your ex on Facebook, remove him from your chat list, or to tell him to stop contacting you. But if those things are keeping you from recovering, what's a half-hour of deleting and a couple weeks of awkwardness compared to months of perpetuated angst? Is electronically blocking someone so much worse than finding out via his Facebook newsfeed that he has a new girlfriend? To find out why cutting digital ties is necessary to heal and move on, we turned to the YourTango Experts. Here, then, are eight reasons you need to break up with your ex.
If you want to bring new long lasting love into your life you have to make room for it. This means letting go of that relationship you know is not working. If you are fanning a dying flame by playing that special music, ogling online, and revisiting the fantasy just because it's BTN (better than nothing), you are robbing yourself of a new, exciting opportunity.
Breakups are hard. There's no question about that. And we'd hazard a guess that they're harder when both you and your former inamorata are famous. There's no getting away from memories of him or her when you're both splashed on the cover of In Touch, or when his album hits number one from a song calling you a cheater, or when she rebounds in St. Tropez with the costar she left you for. As Neil Sedaka once sang, breakin' up is hard to do, no matter who you are. But there is such a thing as over-mourning, and these ten celebs are guilty of that.
Over 1,000 of you took our breakup poll, and the results astounded us. People are much more attached to their exes than we though, and ex-obsession affects every LoveStage, not just singles and those who have recently broken up. Here are the results of the survey. If any of this sounds familiar, visit www.BreakUpWithYourEx.com and learn how to digitally detach from your ex.
In episode three of YourTango's Love Life Makeover video series, relationship guru Dr. Diana Kirschner helps Love Life Makeover winner, Nadette, uncover and release pent-up emotions about her ex-fiance. Identifying and releasing anger and self-sabotaging beliefs are important steps to letting go of past heartbreak. Getting negative beliefs and feelings out in the open helps us make space for new love to enter our lives. Dr. Diana helps Nadette work through the disappointment, sadness and anger from her broken-off engagement.
YourTango tries to always be there for you when it comes to love. We help you set up your online dating profile. We show you how to work a room. We give you tips on how to rock a first date, and then we weigh in when it comes time for your 51st date. Is he the one? We try to help you figure that out and, when you finally say "I do," we give advice on how to make it last. Because dude. Love is hard. But what happens when things don't work out? What happens when love is lost? Well, YourTango has your back then, too. In fact, we're so well-versed in the loss of love that we thought it might be helpful to create a breakup cheat sheet. For your edification, 10 resources for breaking up and moving on.
Back in the day, breakups were easier: you took an ex's picture off the mantel, packed his stuff in a box, burned his letters, and tried to move on. Today, however, Facebook updates, Tweets, and Foursquare check-ins provide a constant stream of information about people, making a clean break almost impossible. Recognizing the value of being liberated from an old flame, we've declared February 13 as the first annual "Break Up With Your Ex" day.
If there's one thing that redeems the whole terrible process of breaking up with someone, it's the potentially fun recovery period afterward. Don't get us wrong: Breakups are a sad, sorry business, and even the cleanest ones entail some kind of annoying consequence or follow-up, like adjusting to an empty bed or having to return that awesome space heater he left at your apartment. The key to making the most of your breakup is engaging in life-affirming activities: little things that will empower you start over and set out into the great unknown (singlehood - eek!) with courage and resilience. Resist binge-drinking, rebound guys or ex sex, and consider these fun post-breakup activities instead: