Being in a relationship involves being committed to another person. It takes two people to give 100 percent of themselves to remain an alliance. In the beginning, if you are on a social media site like Facebook, it is only natural to want to post "In a Relationship" as your relationship status to show all of your 500 friends how happy you both are. But what happens when the relationship ends? What do you do then?
BREAK UP WITH YOUR EX
It's official. It's over. Actually it's been over for quite some time now. Then why are you still stuck with your ex? You may think you're doing your best to move on, but somehow you just can't shimmy away from him/her. Truth be told even if you aren't in physical contact you may be fooling yourself with lots of sneaky subtle behaviors that keep you connected and prevent you from meeting someone new!
"I am going to be in town for a couple of days and I would love to see you." the familiar voice said hopefully. Instantly I am flooded with emotions both good and bad. We had been broken up for a few months and I had been trying to evict him from my mind ever since. Unbidden, thoughts about him and how hot the sex was, how beautiful I felt when I was with him, how romantic it was to sip wine at sunset, had been running through my mind for weeks. My brief fling with him had been the most fun I'd had in years!
Since February 1, we've been offering great tips and advice during our second annual Break Up With Your Ex campaign. Our mission is to encourage the seventy-one percent of our readers who think about their ex "too much" ex to cut the cord and finally move on, and we've dubbed Monday, February 13, the perfect day to do so!
For the past week, we’ve been collecting all the reasons you need to break up with your ex, in 10 words or less! We are beyond impressed with some of the entries we’ve received. But there is still time to wow us even more!
We get it. Breaking up with your ex and moving forward with your love life is easier said than done. That’s why, we are here to tell you how to perform an “ex-orcism” on yourself. Read on and we assure you that you will feel more confident and ready to finally stop obsessing over someone who is holding you back from finding the man you deserve.
An accomplished, smart and beautiful woman sits across from me in my office. She tells me about her relationship; the one she appears to be in but her boyfriend doesn't. She has tried to leave him, she assures me (and herself), but every time she manages to walk out that door, he gets to her. She turns around and walks right back in again. Once she's back, he acts like a jerk. Again. Leave. Get sucked back in. Repeat. Who can't relate to this scenario?
YourTango has declared February 13th as National 'Break Up With Your Ex Day'! It's the day we challenge all of our readers to finally cut ties emotionally, physically and digitally from their ex with the help of the insightful articles, expert advice, survey results and more that we've provided since February 1st. We're excited for you to move on from your past love and on to a better, healthier, sexier you, so we're throwing a fun party on Twitter, and you're invited!
When it comes to bad break ups, we've all been there—curled up on the couch with a bottle of wine, crying while we look through internet pictures of our ex, seemingly happier without us. The internet, for the most part, sucks for the broken-hearted. Facebook, twitter, and blogs provide an all-too-tempting outlet to obsess over pictures of your ex and desperately scan his status updates for any sign that he is missing you.
The time before, during and after a break is excruciating. Your mind dwells constantly on your ex, keeping you locked into feelings of sadness, despair and anger. Replaying the series of events keeps you in the past and unable to see a bright future. Break the cycle of replay by becoming aware of the moment you start thinking about your ex.
On February 1st, we polled our readers to determine which celebrity needed to break up with their ex the most. We gave them a choice between 5 celebrity exes who have remained friends with one another despite bad breakups, infidelity, divorce and even assault.
A while back I was dating a guy that I was really into. In hindsight, the relationship was ridiculous… but I was transported by what seemed like some of the best between-the-sheets I've ever had, and I besotted myself into some idea that we had a future. So I was devastated when I was dumped, over email.
Here's a hard truth; are you ready? There are parts of you that guarantee you will never get what you want most. Ever said something like, "Part of me is ready to move on from my ex, but part of me can’t stop obsessing about him or her," or “Part of me is ready for a great relationship, but part of me thinks I don't deserve it yet?” If so, it's because you actually have a lot of "Parts" inside you. Some that are designed to get you what you want most, and others that are designed to stop you from getting those things. You’ve got a myriad of Parts within you. Parts are like worker bees to your queen bee. Each Part works diligently for you, yet each one carries out a differing intention or belief of yours and thus they can be at odds with each other. This very human phenomenon is called a “Parts Conflict.”
If only "washing a man out of our hair" were as simple as a wash, rinse and repeat cycle. In reality, breaking off attachment to an ex is hard—but not impossible—work. Here are 10 easy-to-follow tips for washing a hard-to-forget ex from your life: 1. Indulge In A "Pity Diet"
In YourTango's recent breakup survey of 1,329 people polled between December 21, 2011 - January 9, 2012, the #1 most popular activity people recommend to someone getting over a breakup is to "spend time with friends". For someone in the midst of a breakup, here are 5 healing ways to interact with your friends to shake off your Ex and get over your loss.