A breakup is always a painful thing, but if you find yourself in these situations, it's time to accept the inevitable. You two just aren't a good fit anymore.
BREAK UP SIGNS
It can be devastating when a guy leaves you and you don't know why. You can spend months sometimes even years trying to figure it out. This can be even worse than the guy leaving you because it can keep you bonded to him and keep you from meeting someone else. Here are 3 secrets to consider. One
After reading this, you will know the reason I wrote this blog! People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do with your life. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, and to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Are you unhappy with work, where you live, your lifestyle or love life? And you just don’t know who to turn to? Do you really understand how to make choices that fulfill you? Are you harnessing the intelligence within you to guide you to be the fullest expression of yourself? If you don’t understand what gives YOU inner peace and fulfillment you will be making choices that leave you empty, unfulfilled and confused.
Are you debating on a break-up? Are your wishing your relationship was better than it is? Are you feeling just, generally, unfulfilled? Don’t worry I’ve been there enough times and, to top it off, regardless of how unfulfilled I was I often felt so bad over the idea of breaking up someone that I stuck it out longer than I should have. There was this idealistic part of me that kept thinking “Maybe if we just work on X, Y, and Z this will all be okay”.
It can be confusing to sort out your feelings for someone, especially if you've been in a committed relationship with them for a long time. We make up all kinds of crazy reasons to stick together rather than break up, but just because you've been together a long time, that doesn't mean it's healthy for you. There are lots of obvious reasons to break up, but the ones on this list disguise themselves as reasons to stay together.
If your relationship is important to you, the thought of changing your status back to "single" is probably sad, stressful and upsetting. You're not so worried about what others would think; you just don't want to lose the one you love.
I went to see the new Disney movie, Oz the Great and Powerful, as soon as it came out. I wanted to see it for all the reasons that the millions of people – who paid over $80 million the opening weekend – wanted to see it. But I wanted to see it for personal reasons as well. I wrote a book on the Wizard of Oz (entitled Follow the Yellow Brick Road: How to Change for the Better When Life Gives You Its Worst) and I wanted to see how the Wizard that I wrote about compared to Wizard in the movie … and I did (See Article entitled, Oz the Great and Powerful Relationship
No, this is not some article giving financially frivolous advice to anyone that puts money above love. The type of bank account I am referring to is your emotional bank account. Now before you close this article, I think you may find interesting what I have to say. When it comes to relationships, our mind is like a bank. Do a good deed, make a love coin deposit. A kiss - perhaps five love coins. A massage - 20 love coins. Making love - 100 love coins.
Over the course of a year, I see hundreds of people. Still, some of the stories I hear have touched me deeply. Such was the case with a couple that asked to see me after hearing me speak in Hawaii.
What if you could identify the biggest indicators of a troubled marriage before it was too late? What if you had the chance to turn it all around? Would you seize the moment, even if it meant taking an unpleasant look at the reality of your relationship and digging in to repair the damage?