Digital connections, like Facebook and Instagram can keep you wrapped up in unhealthy attachments to former partners. So do old habits, like picking the same "type" all the time — even though it never works out. We want you move on and (eventually) find new love, so we're devoting two weeks to helping you cut ties for good.
BREAK UP AND DIVORCE
When a couple goes through a divorce process, many times there is the assumption by various divorce professionals involved with them that they are seeking a divorce. While on some level that may be true, it is frequently far from being their main goal. Quite often the true agenda is hidden, disguised, or not clearly stated. In my experience these agendas represent 80% of the divorce process, while the actual tasks are no more than 20% of work.
Letting go after a divorce is hard. You feel as if you are on an emotional rollercoaster and do not know how to get off. You feel confused and are constantly thinking of "If only," "What if," "I could've,” and "I should've." You are spending most of your waking day with these thoughts. You just do not understand the unfairness of it all. You thought marriage was for life. You cannot believe that this is really happening to you.
It wasn’t too long ago that my phone rang and my good friend shared with me that one of the fathers in our town; the father of one our kids’ friends has been having an affair. She was almost breathless with excitement as she shared the story with me and I became increasingly uncomfortable hearing about the crumbling of this marriage taking place in the fishbowl of our suburban community.
So, what is it? Have you been Naughty or Nice this year? The journey of divorce will undoubtedly bring out our Naughty, Nice and everything in between sides. As I reflect back on my year, although I am Jewish and Santa doesn’t exist in my world, I am careful to be honest about whether or not I have been naughty…or nice. The first year or two after divorce, the pull towards Naughty was really strong.
If you are in the process of divorcing, the grief can be overwhelming. So, what is the best way to deal with the seemingly never ending assaults? The answer may surprise you.
Breaking up, separating or divorcing is devastating at any time of the year but can feels especially horrible when it happens during the holiday season. This time of year is filled with images of happy families and joyful, loving couples exchanging meaningful gifts and sharing loving moments. The juxtaposition of these images and your reality is jarring. There is also the expectation for you to attend all the holiday events and join in the celebrations. All of this can leave you feeling overwhelmed and exhausted.
It is estimated that there are over 800 million active Facebook accounts worldwide and in 2011 alone 200 million accounts were created. Of this number 50% are daily users of the site and approximately 30 billion different bits of information pass through Facebook accounts every month. It is interesting to note that 250 million people use their mobile phone to access their Facebook page.
This morning, as I was driving around trying to find a gas station that was both open and didn't have a three-hour long line, I started thinking about Hurricane Sandy and the devastation left in her wake. Normally, I only see natural disasters on the news, but this time, I had to look no further than outside the window of my home to witness Sandy's impact first-hand.
So you think you have found the woman of your dreams. All is going well. . .or is it? What are the signs that your woman might be cheating? Read on to learn about some things you can look for, or have already seen and have been ignoring or brushing aside. 1. Phone Calls Has she been getting more private phone calls lately? Does she leave the room to talk on the phone more than before? When you ask her about a call, does her response seem genuine, or does it seem that she is not being truthful about who is on the other end?
So you have been married for many years and you now find yourself in your late 40s and 50s in the unexpected situation of getting a divorce. When you got married you probably thought that this would be forever, and now you probably find yourself, hurt, angry and probably a bit stunned. I have a couple of clients in at this age who find themselves somewhat lost, somewhat bewildered - with their dreams of a perceived “stable” future as a pipe dream.
TO “D” OR NOT TO “D” It takes balls to make the decision to divorce. Big ones. Balls of steel. And it’s an especially brave thing to do when you were born with lady parts that don’t include the aforementioned equipment because, believe me, at a time like this, you could really use them. If you’re a people pleaser like me, ending your marriage will probably go against the grain of everything you were raised to believe in, like pleasing others, for instance.
You would be surprised how many women going through divorces tell me they knew they were making a mistake when they walked down the aisle — in more recent headlines, Kim Kardashian even shared this similar sentiment. Below are five warning signs you may want to consider before saying "I do."
One of the hardest things to do in any relationship after a breakup or divorce is to say good-bye and accept that it has ended. Moving on is something that you have to do, but when the pain and heartache is fresh, it's hard to know how to handle a breakup or divorce. Your brain is foggy from the shock and you can't see past the feelings of rejection you are swimming in. So what steps can you take to ease your pain?