My idea for today's post came from a seminar I hosted last week called "Making Sense of Men." It was co-led by a trainer for PAX Programs International, which is in the business of educating women about men. If you haven't familiarized yourself with PAX, which is the brilliant work of Alison Armstrong, I can't recommend it enough. I attended my first course with them 10 years ago, and it was a life-changing experience.
We've all been in relationships where, at times, we've felt more like a mom or a secretary than a significant other. While we understand that healthy relationships require compromises, we've compiled a list of favors that good boyfriends know better than to consistently request. If you're constantly taking on any of the items on this list (especially with any hint of resentment), it's time to get your guy to lend a hand.
You've been having a great time with this guy, and you know you've fallen for him hard. You want to take the relationship to the next level, but he doesn't seem up for it... at all. What's his deal? 5 Facts That Prove Men Aren't All Commitment-Phobes In this video, Relationship Coach and YourTango expert Kat Knecht points out the red flags he's been sending you all along that he's not ready for commitment.
The beginning of a relationship is never boring. You're either excited to see the person, or anxiety-ridden because they've taken too long to text back. But once you're actually in a happy, stable relationship, it's pretty common to start doing some stupid things for fear of losing it. Like these.
I'm in a long distance relationship, and my boyfriend is nice and sweet and we connect really well. We had been friends for several years before we started dating, and back when we first became friends, he had the hots for another (super hot) friend of mine. Now, the thing is, even though other aspects of this relationship are going well he has said, more than once, that: a) he doesn't find me hot; and b) that friend of mine is getting hotter each day.
I'm all for difference in opinion, opposite views always make for entertaining debate. As a woman who was once told I will never be a wife by a man so bold (or more appropriately, stupid) due to the fact that I am 'damaged goods' and already 'been had' (via result of having one failed marriage under my shameful belt), I have often wondered if he was, dare I say it, right? According to writer Ian MacKenzie, I fall under the label of a Cheesecake. Cute; until I read over his explaination and felt like shoving some of his own condescending simile down his throat.
"Does he call you less than when you first started dating?" "Does he make an effort to get to know you?" "When you think of him, do you smile or want to grab the vodka?" I'm being bombarded with questions about the guy I'm currently seeing — important ones that I should be answering honestly—but they're not coming from my best friend (or my mom, who's always been my own personal relationship guru).
Over the years, I've read many of the popular books on dating. I've read books that teach women the rules, why I should be a bitch, and how to be married in 365 days. (Really? Should that be my goal?) Books that teach me how to send a flirty text (I don't know what revolutionary ideas I thought I'd find there), how to think and date like a man, and books telling me why I'm still single. I found some tips to be valuable, and I incorporated what I learned into my dating life. But I wasn't any happier with how things were going.
Sure, he's just a "Baby" to a lot of us, but Justin Bieber is wise beyond his years when it comes to relationships. From the looks of things, his romance with 19-year-old Selena Gomez may not just be the stuff of teen puppy love. Every day, it seems they're proving they're so NOT the Justin Timberlake and Britney Spears of today!
I had been in a relationship for a year with a good man. I went back and forth trying to figure out if I was in love with him and it sort of drove me crazy. I like to analyze a lot and I think that drove him crazy. Anyway, I liked him and I liked being part of a couple and I thought our love would grow. When we first met, I was pretty sure he was smitten. Then I became smitten and he backed off. And thus that was how the year of our relationship went. We generally liked each other, but the love never fully manifested for either one of us.
You're already best buds. But when you look at him, you want something more. So how do you turn that BFF into a BF — and go from gal pal to girlfriend? We asked Galtime Dating Coach Dr. Jenn Oikle, Ph.D. of My Soulmate Solution for some pointers. First up — how do you know if your guy pal may be looking for more?
I have the greatest boyfriend in the entire world. Sure, every girl on her journey to becoming a woman who is lucky enough to have found love would say that. But I honestly do mean it. I've never ever been loved the way that man loves me, not just physically, mentally, spiritually, intellectually. It just seems that we're a perfect fit. He's always there when I need him, he's a gentleman and he's always making me smile. We're a good team. He fills in my blanks (which I have a lot of) and he fills in mine.
As the threat of Hurricane Irene continues to loom over the East Coast, many, especially New Yorkers, are trying to figure out if it would be best to stay or to leave. In case our hurricane-sex talk (it really is hotter, the vast majority says!) wasn't enough to convince you that being stuck inside during a storm isn't so bad, the Village Voice's brilliant "How to Find Your Hurricane Boyfriend" will be.
Divorce rates are finally dropping, but that doesn't mean people are forging stronger family units. With fewer people getting married these days, the number of kids living in households with two unmarried parents is on the rise. And, according to new research released today by the National Marriage Project and the Institute for American Values, that may be as bad for kids as dealing with a parent's divorce.
Do you daydream about reconnecting with a boyfriend from the past? Do you search Facebook and the internet looking for any piece of information you can find out about him? Are you obsessed with the idea of meeting him again and rekindling your love? It can be painful and frustrating to long for some one who isn’t there with you and it can make you feel depressed and unhappy with your life.