Some women love to pick at their boyfriend's or husband's pimples. Why? It might go back to our roots as primates, for whom grooming is a normal part of intimacy. And, surprisingly, the author of this story found a sorority of 'pickers' who are as enthusiastic about the practice as she is.
Certain words I dread ("We need to schedule two more dental appointments") while others I would kill to hear ("Ann Coulter's physician confirms sex-change operation"). And then there are statements that defy imagination, such as; "My husband gave me the greatest birthday present last night—a public flogging." I actually overheard one of my exotic dance students say these exact words last week. Now, I'm not exactly unfamiliar with the BDSM scene.
If you are tired of your relationship and want to take a break, sit down with your partner and work out the rules. Clearly communicate the goal of the separation and the expectations. Can he have sex? Can you? Should you have sex with one another? Will you go out on dates? All of these are key questions that should be decided upon before you leave the relationship. The author outlines six simple rules for a separation and how do decide the limits in order to make your separation successful. Pick a clear starting and end date. Decide on clear boundaries. Communicate with one another. Figure out the finances. Should you have sex? Make your separation a clean break.
An OB-GYN in British Columbia was recently suspended for asking out a patient- an ethical no-no according to the British Columbia College of Physicians and Surgeons' annual report, which dually notes its recent review of the 28 sexual misconduct allegations of 24 different physicians in 2007. The report vaguely recounts the telltale signs of inappropriate conduct -as if there is any question whether sexual intercourse may be inappropriate during a typical pelvic exam. Also far from surprising: "sexualized touching" appears on the list.
Sure all good couples are too close but is there such thing as too close for comfort? There sure is. Everyone needs breathing space from time to time. So it's best to set healthy boundaries and try to abide by them. So, what about your boundaries? Are they permeable (which encourages closeness and intimacy) or are they flexible (which can promote lack of trust and stifle intimacy)? Find out.