Setting personal boundaries can be difficult, but without boundaries sticky situations can arise. Avoid awkward encounters and unwanted attention by setting limitations at the beginning of a relationship.
I don't normally write about this type of thing, but I am on this dirty delicious Sex And The City marathon right now, and it is inspiring dirty and delicious topics of discussion. In season one Charlotte's boyfriend tells her he wants to do anal sex, awww yeah. The discussion and comedy that ensues as a result of this proposition is amazing. It's my all time favorite scene in the show's entire run. They all jump in the back of a cab and give their perspectives on the matter.
Here's some relationship advice for women: there's freedom in boundaries. That is, as long as you continue to march to the beat of your own drummer.
We talk a lot about boundaries but defining them is a little trickier. They are an essential element of a healthy relationship.The first challenge is defining what those boundaries are; what we will and will not tolerate in our relationships. We don’t always start off knowing. At first we may not mind when our husband stays out late with his friends. If our girlfriend blows up occasionally and has a hot temper it doesn’t seem so bad in the beginning when we can laugh about it later. We may not object too much if they sometimes drink too much and act sloppy.
In the immortal words of famed rapper Jay-Z, No matter where you go, you are who you are player! Whether the scandal is going on in your community or within; what happens in the dark will come to light. Mama’s all over the world, including my own, are fond of warning their children to be conscious and aware that anything that they do in private, it could possibly get out to the public. Remember, each thought and action is planting a seed and what you plant now will determine what you will reap later. Stop telling yourself that the drama you create
I usually catch up on my leisure reading when I travel. Lately I’ve indulged in books about the history of sex, but it’s even more rewarding to find sexy history in non-sexy books. The History of White People by Nell Irvin Painter is fascinating. Not that I’m a history buff At. All., but it would appear that she’s a super thorough researcher. For example, this tidbit struck me….
The simplest way to think of boundaries is with this question: At what point do you stand up and let someone know you are not okay with something he/she is doing?
Assertiveness-Getting What You Want In the world today we are faced with many choices. We are all built with the instinct for fight or flight when faced with confrontation. But there is a third way--it is to speak up with an assertative voice about what we really want and need in life.
Setting boundaries in relationships can be difficult for adults.Understanding what teasing is fun and which is hurtful is hard for everyone. It is even more difficult for children to comphrend. One of the main goals of a child is to fit in and be well liked by their peers. Sometimes a message the child is receiving can have a barbed edge or be a subtle put-down by what your child believes is a friend. What is Teasing
It could be possibly the biggest question in the history of dating. As a smart, successful and independent woman, how do we better understand men? Sometimes it doesn’t matter how many classes we take or issues of Cosmo we read; it really is like they’re from another planet altogether! (They did say they were from Mars, right?)
The key to dating with dignity has everything to do with setting boundaries in relationships. You’ll not only have to set the boundaries, but you’ll also need to stick to them–which can be the hard part. We tell clients all the time, “It’s all fun and games when we’re talking about theory, a new idea, or an ah-ha moment. But it’s somewhat meaningless until you put your new behaviors into action!”
As a positive woman, I was always a happy and loyal supporter of others doing good deeds - that is until I felt myself digging my own grave. I found loyalty to have several elements and then I separated doing good deeds from being a good person. Let me explain because I think this may assist you in becoming and remaining a positive woman without selling yourself out through loyalty to a draining cause or person.
Research indicates the majority of people crave more space from their significant other. Here's how to give and get some much-needed "me" time.
“I’ll be there for you (when the rain starts to pour), I’ll be there for you (like I’ve always been before), I’ll be there for you (because you’re there for me too).” The chorus to the theme song of the hit TV series ‘Friends’ is indelibly marked in my brain forever. The closeness, loyalty, and trust these six friends had was one of my secret addictions and yet ten years later the show is over and the friends and I have moved on.
So after years of being happily single, you find yourself falling in love again. You didn’t plan it… It just happened. What started out as casual date has turned into something much deeper and you are thinking about settling down. One of my friends asked the question: When you have been single for years, how do you transition from the “selfish me” mindset into a “we” oriented relationship?
Some people are good at relationships. The people they encounter are emotionally available and commitment-ready, and they sail smoothly into monogamous relationships as if on command. And then there are those who are more relationship challenged. Mystified by how to transform a Match.com profile into a boyfriend or how to meet a guy who's not a total commitmentphobe.