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How to get through a scandal you created?

How to get through a scandal you created?

In the immortal words of famed rapper Jay-Z, No matter where you go, you are who you are player!  Whether the scandal is going on in your community or within; what happens in the dark will come to light.  Mama’s all over the world, including my own, are fond of warning their children to be conscious and aware that anything that they do in private, it could possibly get out to the public.  Remember, each thought and action is planting a seed and what you plant now will determine what you will reap later.  Stop telling yourself that the drama you create

History Lesson: The Germani vs Britons

History Lesson: The Germani vs Britons

Sex behaviors of warriors in Julius Caesar's time

I usually catch up on my leisure reading when I travel. Lately I’ve indulged in books about the history of sex, but it’s even more rewarding to find sexy history in non-sexy books.   The History of White People by Nell Irvin Painter is fascinating. Not that I’m a history buff At. All., but it would appear that she’s a super thorough researcher. For example, this tidbit struck me….

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What are your boundaries?

The Importance Of Boundaries In Romantic Relationships

Without boundaries, there can be no respect.

The simplest way to think of boundaries is with this question: At what point do you stand up and let someone know you are not okay with something he/she is doing?

Boundaries: From Fear or Love?

Boundaries: From Fear or Love?

Boundaries are important, but when they come from fear, they are controlling rather than loving.

We know that one very important aspect of taking loving care of ourselves is to set loving boundaries for ourselves. Whether or not a boundary is loving depends upon which aspect of you is setting the boundary — your ego wounded self or your loving Adult.

Being Assertive- Better Than Fight Or Flight (EXPERT)

Being Assertive- Better Than Fight Or Flight (EXPERT)

In any conflict we are used to fight or flight, but there is another way. Choose to be assertive.

Assertiveness-Getting What You Want In the world today we are faced with many choices. We are all built with the instinct for fight or flight when faced with confrontation. But there is a third way--it is to speak up with an assertative voice about what we really want and need in life.

Setting Boundaries With Teasing & Bullying (EXPERT)

Setting Boundaries With Teasing & Bullying (EXPERT)

Sometimes it is a thin line between teasing & bullying. Empower your kids to be assertive & speak up

Setting boundaries in relationships can be difficult for adults.Understanding what teasing is fun and which is hurtful is hard for everyone. It is even more difficult for children to comphrend. One of the main goals of a child is to fit in and be well liked by their peers. Sometimes a message the child is receiving can have a barbed edge or be a subtle put-down by what your child believes is a friend. What is Teasing

How to Understand Men: The Truth Is Simpler than You Think

How to Understand Men: The Truth Is Simpler than You Think

When it comes to understanding men, you have to get to the core of what they want from a woman.

It could be possibly the biggest question in the history of dating. As a smart, successful and independent woman, how do we better understand men? Sometimes it doesn’t matter how many classes we take or issues of Cosmo we read; it really is like they’re from another planet altogether! (They did say they were from Mars, right?)

Setting Boundaries in Relationships

Setting Boundaries in Relationships

Setting boundaries in relationships is the key in relationships, but you’ll need to stick to them—wh

The key to dating with dignity has everything to do with setting boundaries in relationships. You’ll not only have to set the boundaries, but you’ll also need to stick to them–which can be the hard part. We tell clients all the time, “It’s all fun and games when we’re talking about theory, a new idea, or an ah-ha moment. But it’s somewhat meaningless until you put your new behaviors into action!”

3 Tips To Keep Your Loyalty From Digging Your Grave

3 Tips To Keep Your Loyalty From Digging Your Grave

Is your extreme loyalty making you feel drained, overwhelmed and taken advantage of?

As a positive woman, I was always a happy and loyal supporter of others doing good deeds - that is until I felt myself digging my own grave. I found loyalty to have several elements and then I separated doing good deeds from being a good person. Let me explain because I think this may assist you in becoming and remaining a positive woman without selling yourself out through loyalty to a draining cause or person.

Failure To Set Personal Boundaries Gives Our Power Away

Failure To Set Personal Boundaries Gives Our Power Away

Learn the most avoided yet most powerful skill you can develop to protect and empower yourself.

Workplaces, public establishments, governments, schools, and almost everything else we can think of have policies; but as women, one of the mistakes we make that give our power away is failing to establish and enforce our own personal policies called personal boundaries. Personal boundaries have a great deal to do with locating and protecting our inner power - the very thing that fuels women but is so often missing due to the mistakes we make that give this power away.

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Even the happiest couples need time apart to keep the relationship healthy.

Most People Crave Space In Their Relationship: How To Ask For It

Research says 60% of people in romantic relationships crave more personal space than they receive.

Research indicates the majority of people crave more space from their significant other. Here's how to give and get some much-needed "me" time.