But after all this posturing as a top, something wasn't right. I felt like a fraud, like a woman trying to deny my own nature. I realized that, when I stopped thinking about it so much, sex was my way of letting go and feeling free. I was tired of making all the decisions and doing all the planning; when I get naked, I want someone else to do it for me. I like having the guy plan the date. Pay for it. Undress me. Push me up against a wall, bend me over and spank me. As it turns out, I am a total bottom in the bedroom.
What do you do when your man doesn't know how to treat you the way you want to be treated in bed?
What do you do when your man doesn't know how to treat you the way you want to be treated in bed? In this week's Savage Love, a young woman writes to Dan Savage about her desire for rough sex and her new boyfriend's seeming inability to give it to her. In order to remedy the situation, the woman has hatched a scheme: have a threesome with her new boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend, so that the new boyfriend can learn the basics of bondage, rape fantasies, etc. The new boyfriend, she tells Dan, is totally on board with the plan. Nonetheless, she can't help but wonder: "Am I being a selfish bitch?" and "Is it a bad sign that he's not satisfying me sexually after three months?"
8 tips straight men can learn from gay porn (without watching it).
I've tried to get my boyfriends to watch guy-on-guy porn with me. They're game to watch pseudo-lesbians paw each other, but they draw the line at man love. But there's a lot a guy could learn about sex by watching two dudes go at it. So, I've decided to give guys the cheat sheet on what they could learn from gay porn.
