Is loyalty love's friend or its enemy? Does love bring us together or rip us apart? We face what Love in the Western World author Denis De Rougemont called "the passion-fidelity dilemma." We want love that lasts, but we also want passionate intensity, and we suspect that we will at some point have to choose which love is worth having, the epic but brief romance, or the companionship that goes the distance. We suspect that passion is like ripe peaches -- short-lived, but much to be preferred over fruit canned in cloying syrup. Love isn't shelf-stable.
Congratulations, you're engaged! If you plan to have a wedding, even a small one, here comes the next part: planning the biggest party of your life. But when do you mail the invitations? How should you style your hair? Do you have to give out favors? There are tons of choices when it comes to weddings and tons of books, blogs and websites to help brides with those choices. But wading through so much information could easily send you into wedding overload, so we did the work for you and selected our 10 favorite resources for all things wedding.
Have you ever tried to talk to your father about a recent breakup, only to have him change the subject? Have you ever started crying to your dad and received a totally blank response? In her new book, "Our Fathers, Ourselves," Dr. Peggy Drexler explains that fathers often feel "powerless" when they witness their daughters show strong emotion.
I've judged people by the books they're reading. This happens a lot while riding the NYC subway. Books are that rare life accessory that says a lot about who we are. If you're reading a popular emotional porno like Something Borrowed, it means that you believe in the power of hunky men who'll use their hospital residency off-hours painting your living room lavender while baking a soufflé. There was the dude I saw with the hipster beard, which is defined as a heavily shampooed and conditioned lumberjack beard that DJs Sunday nights, who was reading a dog-eared copy of Tolstoy's War and Peace. That communicated to me that he enjoyed iconic 19th Century literature about the merciless tumult of history, and also he drinks Jameson's watered down with too much ice and will sleep with you if you're a fashion urchin interested in lame literary poses.
Catalonia's festival of St. Jordi is like Valentine's Day, but cooler. Forget February 14th. The most romantic day of the year is April 23rd... at least, it is if you're in Catalonia, Spain. This Saturday, Catalonian lovers will celebrate the lovey-doviest day of the year on the festival of Sant Jordi. In Catalonian culture, the festival is marked by an appealing tradition: men give women roses, and women give men books. Hey, there's nothing sexier than a man who reads.
Author Kay Hymowitz has a provocative new book that asks whether the rise of powerful women have turned men into boys. In Manning Up, Hymowitz argues that men today are free from the traditional tests of manhood—marrying and providing for children, and this freedom comes at a price: an increasing number of men are stuck in a state of permanent adolescence.
Is your sex life steamy, or could you stand to turn it up? A lot of couples fall into the latter category. It's easy to get in a rut in the bedroom. If both partners don't communicate what they want, sex loses its luster and can become, well… boring. And no one wants that. Maybe you know your sexy time is in need of a serious pick-me-up, but are feeling a little tentative about opening that "Let's turn up the heat" discussion with your S.O. Well, no more! We've found just what you need to start chatting it up about "glazed donuts" and "money shots." Infuse a healthy dose of fun and games into your love life, all aimed at communication and discovery, with a great read from authors Christi Smith Scofield and Ted Scofield. Sexy Slang's Bedroom Challenges: 69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life will help you along, and put the playfulness back into your intimacy.
Looking to liven up your New Year's Eve? Why not ring in the new year with a sexy gift for that special someone? We've pulled together our favorite sex toys, books and more, so you can make sure 2011 is sexier than ever.
They say you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover. But is it a good idea to choose a date by the books he or she reads? Apparently, someone thinks so. The new dating site—Alikewise.com—launched in July and pairs people according to their taste in books. Sure, it sounds good on paper, but I'm not convinced.
If your partner calls you "pookie," beware: a new book claims that mushy pet names actually indicate relationship problems. In Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having Sex, authors Maggie Arana and Julienne Davis elaborate on a number of couple habits that ruin relationships by eroding sexual attraction. Besides the use of cute nicknames, these practices include sharing hygiene habits and having sex on the kitchen table to revive an interest in sex itself.
Every week, Traditional Love rounds up the best links and thought provoking articles on love and marriage. This week, we are talking about the new marriage and divorce rates and what exactly do they say (or not say) about the current state of love in America? Also, October marks the beginning of YourTango's 31 Day Sex Challenge, which challenges you to make your love life better this month. Find out what you can do to your sex life in 31 days.
From "don't sleep together too soon" to "sow your wild oats before settling down," society is full of mixed messages about sex, love, dating and the intersection of the three. To get help deciding which advice to heed and which to skip, I asked scientists to explain some of their discoveries about human sexual behavior (yes, scientists do study such things). It turns out that their findings are often the exact opposite of what we tend to believe. Here are 7 surprising sex facts everyone should know.
Choosing to marry someone is one of the biggest decisions you'll ever make, which is why we've previously let you in on the 9 secrets a healthy couple shouldn't keep from each other if they plan to commit themselves to a lifelong relationship. These are the things you should share with each other in order to determine compatibility... things like faith, attitudes about money and the desire (or non-desire) to have kids. But what happens after you say "I do"? Do you have any clue what you're in for?
How do you react when your mother gives you advice about your relationship? Kate Reardon set up TopTips.com TopTips.com so that we could all benefit from mothers' advice, even if those mothers are not our actual relations. The second book of tips from the site is called Your Mother Was Right: All The Great Advice You Tried To Forget, here are a few Reardon's favorite relationship tips: