As judge DioGuardi discovered, as a woman, it's hard to criticize another good-looking woman without seeming jealous or vengeful. In DioGuardi's defense, she was trying to keep the judges' decisions from focusing on Darrell's hot bod instead of her mediocre voice. But, really, why shouldn't regular folks be a little bit angry at the beautiful people of the world? Studies show that things—like jobs and free cab rides—come easier to those with good looks. Men, in particular, can't help falling for physical beauty, but a great set of eyes or abs are not lost on ladies, either. (Did Obama's good looks help him get elected?)
"What kind of woman has boobs like that?" I remember wondering as I stared at a detailed breastfeeding diagram in a thick baby care book during the early stages of pregnancy with my first child. The woman's breast sloped and sagged into a shape resembling a popped balloon. The deflated boobs looked nothing like my small, perky breasts.
If you've ever felt an attraction to someone whom you've only heard and never actually seen, it may be because our senses are trained to pick up a potential mate's genetic health and reproductive fitness reflected in the symmetry of one's body via the sound of his/her voice. In a recent study, published in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior, participants listened to previously recorded voices and rated their levels of attractiveness according to nine traits, including approachability, intelligence, sexiness and warmth. The group concluded that men whose voices ranked as most approachable, intelligent, sexy and warm and women whose voices were deemed most approachable, sexy and as most likely to get dates were the most attractive overall.
Last month during an intimate girls' night in, I publicly posed the question that many overweight women wonder but never say aloud: "Is someone only going to marry me to get US citizenship?" I don't mean to knock cross-cultural love, but the fear I'd always had confronted me a few days before. A woman I knew, a good-looking gal with a great job and also about a hundred excess pounds, just got engaged to a weird-looking guy who I don't think speaks English. And, apparently, my fears are pretty commonplace among bigger gals.
Women are plagued by physical imperfections or a negative body image that go virtually unnoticed by the object of their affection. Is it possible for us to find beauty in our flaws? "Many women swagger confidently through business meetings and cocktail parties. But once they shed the armor of Diane von Furstenberg and True Religion they become flustered schoolgirls, ashamed of everything from scars and birthmarks to stretch marks and small breasts. n an age when many women yearn for the airbrushed perfection of Beyoncé and Jennifer Aniston, it's easy to assume that men do, too."
Can sex be considered an expression of spirituality? Thomas Moore unravels truth about sexuality and religion, tying together the concept of body and soul. From ancient mythology to present day beliefs, sex has played an important role and evolved through time.
Sex is not the only wonderful, wordless way to communicate. Most people reserve touching for only five percent of the body but massage is a great way to create a sense of intimacy with your partner. Author of The New Sensual Massage, Gordon Inkeles, shares some tips.