Are your love handles ruining your love life?
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Are your love handles ruining your love life?

I got a question from a woman today who wanted to know what men think about during intimacy. Specifically, she wanted to know if men “think about the love handles or the Jelly belly or all the other imperfections that are just staring at (them)?” Of course, we can assume this question applies to any other perceived “imperfection” which is ironic when you consider that “perfection” is a mental construct anyway that varies anyway both person-to-person and over time. But let’s address the specifics...

Good God You're Beautiful! Aren't You?
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Good God You're Beautiful! Aren't You?

If you read my email newsletters, one of the things you’ll hear me talk about a lot is how beautiful you are as a woman. But what is the real definition of beauty, and how does it affect you? Most would say the saying, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is a cliché, but it’s true. What one man thinks is beautiful, another man won’t. I might see a woman as the most beautiful creature on the planet, another man might not find her remotely attractive.

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Love your kids? Love your body.
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Your Bad Body Image & Your Kids: A Dangerous Combination

In all my years as a parent educator, I have never met parents who earnestly wanted to hurt their children. Most parents sincerely want to encourage and empower their children to lead strong, successful lives. However, it is their lack of mindfulness that defaults into old patterns and belief systems that teach their children harmful messages rather accidently.

Do We Love To Hate Our Bodies?
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Do We Love To Hate Our Bodies?

The other day, I was talking with a client who has lost about thirty pounds towards her goal of fifty. She even found this remarkable when she realized that the thirty-pound bags of soil she was dragging around her yard were the equivalent of what she had lost and had been carrying around every moment of every day. Yet, rather than being ecstatic about how well she’s doing, she was more bothered by the wrinkles that were showing up on her thinner face and the new bat wings on her slender arms.

Help, I hate my body!
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Help, I hate my body!

I attended the International Society for the study of Women’s Sexual Health this past week. This is one of the greatest meetings I go to during the year, and this one in particular was phenomenal. One of the lectures was about sexual desire and women. The lecture touched on many different components to female sexual desire, the awareness that sexual desire alone does not lead to sex for women. When men have sexual desire they seek out sex because it is a positive experience.