Much of how we do family is learned and passed down through the generations. Each generation either adopts what their family did, or goes to the other extreme vowing to do family vastly different than the previous generation. Either way, your past influences your present. And your present will influence your kids future. Creating a happy family involves maintaining a happy marriage. Here are six tips to follow. How great would it be to pass along a simple, loving, passionate, adventurous marriage to your future generations? It can be done, and it's easier than you think.
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This week was Valentine's week, and while we know you are so over it (so are we), the emphasis on love lingers and some of our favorite posts this week were Valentine's day posts. Although, we promise, there will be no mention of lingerie, chocolate or flowers, nor anything too adorable...well, besides Justin Bieber. Don't you just want to pinch his little cheeks?
This particular Orange County church was jam-packed every Sunday with twentysomething women who were young and tan and often sporting hip-hugger jeans. As all who wear them know, hip-hugger jeans can often result in precarious situations whereby a woman's unmentionables (i.e. thong underwear) have a tendency to creep out above the back waste line whenever she sits down. These unlawful appearances happened rather frequently during church services, and they did not go unnoticed by the young, twentysomething men who attended each week.
What do you do when your spouse and you have a different idea of how to practice religion? Sometimes it takes trial and error to get it right.
Before we got married, my father in law paid for my husband and I to attend a marriage conference. This guesture was made purely out of love for us and out of a desire to have our marriage start on the best foot possible. But at the end of the conference, Dave and I had decided that the best part about the conference was eating at a steakhouse a few blocks away from the conference hotel. When you enter into marriage people are full of well-meaning advice. Friends, family, that nice lady at Target helping you with your registry. All of which we ignored and we don't regret it for a moment. Here are the top five peices of advice that we are glad we forgot.
The look, size and color were just right. I was excited. But the conversation we had about the upcoming love holiday made me rethink what I thought was a loving gesture.
For every fisical problem we face as a couple, my husband has a spreadsheet to cover us. We have spreadsheets for cell phones, Halloween candy and when we found out we were going to have a child, he made spreadsheets that planned out alternate fiscal scenarios: me becoming a stay-at-home-mom (not happening), twins, him losing his job. So, when I heard about the book Spousonomics, it made perfect sense to me. The one, surefire way that I can show my husband I love him is by not going over on the grocery budget. But the book covers more than just the money in a relationship, it talks about sex in terms of supply and demand, which sounds super sexy.
When Jennifer and Matt meet with their architect, Jennifer realizes what Matt is asking for is adult only spaces. Can you have a place that serves as a remembrance of who you were before you had children? Or, once you have children, are those lines permanently blurred?
In the beginning, when you are in love, it's easy to be insular and believe that you and your partner have everything figured out, that nothing can ever shake you, that you will never fight and nothing so stupid as socks on the floor could ever make you raise your voice at that adorable face. I don't mean to be condescending about this. It's a great time. Every couple has it and it is my sincere wish that it last as long as possible. But it doesn't. At some point, in every marriage, you find yourself sobbing into your pillow over toothpaste caps and if you don't you are a Stepford Wife.
As we wind down the first month of 2011, it appears that the biggest news in marriage is the celeb marriage tango. This week, Jesse James announced his enagement to everyone's favorite tattooed lady, Kat Von D, and Troy Aikman announced the end of his 10 year marriage. But don't worry, it's not all celebs. This week's round up has lingere, the history of marriage and yes, more celebs.