Despite my best intentions, my marriage isn’t new or hip or trendy. I cook and clean. He does the lawn and the taxes. I sew curtains and decorate. He watches the budget and fixes the garbage disposal. It’s not that way because I am trying to reverse the women’s movement, it’s just that our marriage works better that way. I am a better cook. He’s a whiz at taxes. I really enjoy a nicely swiffered floor. He loves multiple trips to Home Depot. Call it genetics. Call it culture. It’s who we are.
How much does your religion guide your attitudes towards the opposite sex and your decisions on your choice of a partner? As a South Asian Muslim, my faith has shaped my attitudes towards men, dating and marriage from a young age. Since I was ten years old living in Westchester County, NY my mom has been drilling this mantra into my head, “You are a Muslim and you will not date.”
We can't fight poverty without changing the culture that feeds our growing poverty rate. That's why traditional values matter. They're not about enforcing some ancient and outdated cultural view on everyone, they are about making sure that we have a society that leaves a better world for the next generation. If our society valued marriage more highly, we would have fewer children born into poverty. We would have less crime and less violence on our streets. Our schools, communities, and nation would all be stronger.
Every Friday, we here at Traditional Love round up the best traditional love news from around the web and bring it to you. That’s what we call service. You are most welcome. This week, Alisa at Project Happily Ever After profiled her grandparents 70-year marriage (awe.some) and readers responded to Newsweek's article questioning whether marriage was truly dead. (If marriage is dead, don't tell my husband.) Their responses ranged from benign acceptance to outright outrage. What do you think? Here are our top five links about love and marriage for the week.
While there is a lot of noise about the death knell of marriage, statistics show that rates of divorce are declining and according to an AskMen.com poll, 75% of men and 63% 18- to 34-years say they believe in marriage and hope to be married some day. The Traditional Love blog returns to the core of what marriage means, examining the traditions of love from the inside out. Traditional Love will look at love, marriage and family, through the lens of faith and politics, exploring what it truly means to have a long-lasting relationship in the 21st century.
I believe that my husband is the head of the house and I respect his leadership role. This isn't hard to do . I am fortunate to have a husband who "loves his wife as Christ loved the church," which is part of a verse from the Bible (Ephesians5:21-32) that instructs husbands to care for their wives an so yes...submission for me is not so hard. In fact, the life of a submissive wife is a daily reality for many Christian couples. And I wouldn't exchange roles for anything. In fact, our traditional roles and Christian values have lead to a great sex life.
Being close to 4th of July, I think about America, and the "American Dream". Images come to mind of people making a way for themselves, conquering the Wild West, unknown uncharted territories... Somehow it seems that we miss part of the American Dream today. The adventure of a great marriage – the building of that relationship, and not knowing whats around the bend... As soon as we hit a rough patch – it seems that the easiest thing to do is cut and run. But I want that American Dream. I want to celebrate 40 years of love and life with the woman I married. I want my grandchildren to show up at my 63rd anniversary with their kids. I believe its possible.
Love and marriage on the best of days they go together like a horse and carriage. On other days, lets just say they work together as well as cream cheese and Cheetos. But through it all, many marriages have thrived. In fact, the average American marriage is lasting longer and despite what Tiger Woods would have us believe, divorce rates are falling. In celebration of marriage and all things love, YourTango has a round up of the top 10 stories and advice about and for your marriage.