Why was I getting married? With the exception of my cousin, all the women in my family had been married and/or engaged by 19. Most of them had already had children by the time they were 22. So, in the context of my family, holding out for marriage until I finished college seemed like a radical move. Still, none of my friends were getting married. They were all going to grad school, joining the Peace Corps or getting hired at exciting jobs. Here I was, fussing over how "poofy" my veil should be and crying over response cards. I felt silly.
For many Orthodox Jews, the concept of not touching—known in Hebrew as Shomer Negiah, literally translated as "observant of the laws of touching"—is nothing new. The idea behind Shomer Negiah is that sex should be kept as something special that happens between a husband and a wife. Sex outside of marriage is a no-no. Anything that could possibly lead to sex outside of marriage is also a no-no. Think of it as an attempt to avoid any possible slippery slopes. No pun intended.
Every girl has her dream proposal and her nightmare scenario. "Will you marry me?" Asked entirely in belches. That actually sounds awesome. But I bet no woman thought about the Old Spice Guy. This week, The Old Spice Guy proposed on YouTube on behalf of a fan.
The "happiest place on earth" isn't Disney World, it's a family where mom and dad are intentional about nurturing their marriage, including their sexual intimacy. Yet, many couples plan the family vacation without making room for sex. Yes, I realize you are cramming people into a hotel room, a tent, a camper or Aunt Edna's spare bedroom. On vacation, privacy becomes limited at best and non-existent at worst. However, completely losing sight of healthy sexual intimacy is only going to add to the stress. Sure, it's important to remember the swimsuits and sunscreen, but don't forget the sex. Here are 5 tips for making sex a part of your family summer vacation.
What does a stable marriage look like? Steadfast, enduring, permanent? In today's marriage climate, those words don't seem to reflect many marriages I know. Couples are cheating, divorcing and falling apart and that's not even counting the celebrity marriages. When I said "I do", I said it hoping my marriage would endure, but the longer I've been married the more I see how easy it is to loose your footing on the foundations of your marriage. After being married for seven years, here are 6 ways I know marriages can stumble. And I know, because I've done it.
Despite the headaches, ruffles and frosting, Sandy over at She Just Got Married argues that weddings (and marriages) should actually be fun. And if you aren't having fun, something is wrong. She is right of course. A marriage and a wedding that takes itself too seriously is doomed to, if not failure, then a lot of anxiety attacks. Check out what Sandy has to say here. And check out our other links of the week below.
Links We Love: 11 must-click links about Twilight and whether having a child will ruin your marriage.
Despite my best intentions, my marriage isn’t new or hip or trendy. I cook and clean. He does the lawn and the taxes. I sew curtains and decorate. He watches the budget and fixes the garbage disposal. It’s not that way because I am trying to reverse the women’s movement, it’s just that our marriage works better that way. I am a better cook. He’s a whiz at taxes. I really enjoy a nicely swiffered floor. He loves multiple trips to Home Depot. Call it genetics. Call it culture. It’s who we are.
How much does your religion guide your attitudes towards the opposite sex and your decisions on your choice of a partner? As a South Asian Muslim, my faith has shaped my attitudes towards men, dating and marriage from a young age. Since I was ten years old living in Westchester County, NY my mom has been drilling this mantra into my head, “You are a Muslim and you will not date.”
We can't fight poverty without changing the culture that feeds our growing poverty rate. That's why traditional values matter. They're not about enforcing some ancient and outdated cultural view on everyone, they are about making sure that we have a society that leaves a better world for the next generation. If our society valued marriage more highly, we would have fewer children born into poverty. We would have less crime and less violence on our streets. Our schools, communities, and nation would all be stronger.