I love Christmas. Its a great time of year for family, getting together, Peppermint Mocha from Starbucks, and gifts. Gifts rock. I like getting them. My wife and I differ on gift giving - she is one who likes to give ‘experiences’ not ‘stuff’. A trip together would be a better gift, in her mind, than say, diamond earrings. I'm the opposite, I like getting 'stuff'. I don't connect with ‘experience’ as much as I do a physical ‘gift’. No matter what your gift giving style is, this time of year is a great reminder of the gifts we should be giving throughout the year, and if it takes this particular season to help us remember what we need to be doing more often, that's a good thing.
In any other sense of the word, I wouldn't tolerate using someone or being used. I won't date someone for his social status, befriend someone for the simple goal of getting ahead professionally, and I most certainly wouldn't sleep with an older man in exchange for being taken care of. But here I was sleeping with people because they were there, because my body had an urge, one that I clearly didn't feel the need to examine.
Traditional Love was nominated as a finalist, in The Marry Blogger's Top-Ten Marriage Blog awards. So head on over to The Marry Blog and vote for us. We are among some pretty awesome contenders, so this week's link round-up includes some of the best posts from the finalists and of course some zany marriage news, that I know you need.
It's easy to get caught up in the holiday rush and lose sight of what really matters. No wonder so many people feel so stressed during what should be one of the best times of the year. But ultimately, what matters most isn't getting the best deal, it's taking time out from our busy lives and celebrating with friends and family. So, while it may be a cliche, it's still true. The holidays aren't about commercialism, they're about being thankful for what we have. This is a season for miracles, big and small--the birth of a savior, an oil lamp that burned for eight days, and the love of family. And the best part is that those things don't require you to stand in line in the cold at three in the morning on a Friday.
Because homes, Sarah Susanka writes in The Not So Big House, require both private and open spaces. "Sometimes we feel like being with others, and other times we need solitude." Our home lacked a private place where we could cocoon ourselves to repair after a stressful day. Even our master bath, without a door to close off the toilet, had become a sort of public gathering spot. And not a very sanitary one. How can you sort through what you feel when there's no separation?
Thanksgiving seems to have become "Thanksmas" in our culture. What if we took the time to really nurture Thanksgiving? I would argue that it would be good for you and your marriage. Giving thanks, even when times are tough, is good for us as human beings. Here are some 6 ideas to put Thanksgiving back on your radar.
While the Pew Research data had many people ringing the death knell for marriage, those headlines don't tell the whole story. Dr. Corey Allan, family and marriage therapist and Traditional Love blogger noted, "The recent reporting of the Pew Research doesn't share the whole story when it comes to marriage. If you simply report the reverse of what was actually reported you'll read that six in 10 people believe marriage is not obsolete. And you'll read that 70% are optimistic about marriage and family life.
Each week, Traditional Love rounds up the best (and worst) marriage news from the week. And this week, has plenty of both. Not only are we all in a tizzy over the next royal wedding, but apparently, all this fuss over the dress is just fluff (of the tulle variety). According to a Pew Research poll, 40% of Americans think marriage is obsolete. So, why do we care so much about Kate and Will's fairytale romance?
Not everyone has the blessing of good in-laws. Many spouses still may feel like they must compete against their in-laws for the time and attention of their spouse. This is especially true during the first few years of marriage. Fortunately, I’ve been blessed with great in-laws. But this didn’t just happen by chance. They had to learn this skill, as did I. Like it or not, the in-laws are part of your life. And the holidays are often one of the most difficult times to navigate the in-law waters
At home with two children, I’d learned a home could make you lonely and therefore unhappy. But could a home make you happy, and thereby improve your marriage? Or are you who you are, regardless of the space you inhabit?