For every fisical problem we face as a couple, my husband has a spreadsheet to cover us. We have spreadsheets for cell phones, Halloween candy and when we found out we were going to have a child, he made spreadsheets that planned out alternate fiscal scenarios: me becoming a stay-at-home-mom (not happening), twins, him losing his job. So, when I heard about the book Spousonomics, it made perfect sense to me. The one, surefire way that I can show my husband I love him is by not going over on the grocery budget. But the book covers more than just the money in a relationship, it talks about sex in terms of supply and demand, which sounds super sexy.
When Jennifer and Matt meet with their architect, Jennifer realizes what Matt is asking for is adult only spaces. Can you have a place that serves as a remembrance of who you were before you had children? Or, once you have children, are those lines permanently blurred?
In the beginning, when you are in love, it's easy to be insular and believe that you and your partner have everything figured out, that nothing can ever shake you, that you will never fight and nothing so stupid as socks on the floor could ever make you raise your voice at that adorable face. I don't mean to be condescending about this. It's a great time. Every couple has it and it is my sincere wish that it last as long as possible. But it doesn't. At some point, in every marriage, you find yourself sobbing into your pillow over toothpaste caps and if you don't you are a Stepford Wife.
As we wind down the first month of 2011, it appears that the biggest news in marriage is the celeb marriage tango. This week, Jesse James announced his enagement to everyone's favorite tattooed lady, Kat Von D, and Troy Aikman announced the end of his 10 year marriage. But don't worry, it's not all celebs. This week's round up has lingere, the history of marriage and yes, more celebs.
As a single, Christian woman living in New York City, dating can come with its fair share of challenges, but finding quality men isn’t always one of them. On the contrary, I have met several guys who are funny, smart, successful, and attractive. Sometimes I really, really want to go out with them, but the problem is this: they don’t share my faith. It’s a bit of a dilemma.
Do you enjoy the things your spouse does? You don't have to like them all, but pick a couple to enjoy together. It will help your marriage grow as you connect in more ways than just the bedroom. The Superbowl is one way that you can make a connection as a couple to deepen your relationship.
I have to admit, I wasn't shocked this week to learn that 30 percent of people hide money from their spouse. I'm just suprised the number isn't higher. And yes, I am in that 30 percent. Although, I do use the money to buy little things for the house, so it works, right? RIGHT?! Plus, he knows about the money. But am I just rationalizing? Will this behavior lead to worse behavior down the road? What do you think?
Have you ever wondered if Twitter could improve things at home? Or with your kids? With the addition of social networks in the past few years, it's amazing how easy it has become to stay "connected" to other people. Yet even with the connectedness these tools offer, many people are still more disconnected than ever. Especially at home. So could these tools be used to enhance marriage? Sure.
If you haven't played games with your spouse (I'm talking board games here, not head games or sex games. We'll save those for a different post.), I suggest you blow the dust off Yahtzee and give it a try. And I'll even give you five solid reasons board games are good for your marriage.
Every week that we can manage, Traditional Love brings you a round up of the best articles about love, traditional style. This week we're talking about your brain on marriage, party ideas for your lover, erasing your marriage past and so much more.