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Was Jesus Really Married? Christian Experts Sound In
Will we ever know for sure if Jesus was married or not?

Was Jesus Really Married? Christian Experts Sound In

A Christian writer explores the plausibility that Jesus was married to a "mortal."

When I first heard that a professor at Harvard Divinity School found a piece of ancient papyrus indicating that Jesus had a wife, my initial reaction was one of skepticism and eye rolling. But, in the spirit of speculative fun, I thought I might do a little research. What if Jesus had been married? Would people have thought he loved his wife more than anyone else? Would it mean the God of the universe had sex with a mere mortal—much the way Zeus was rumored to do in ancient Greek mythology?

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Do you have enough couple friends in your life? Make them young.

One Person Doesn't Really "Complete You" Or Your Marriage

After her husband's cancer diagnosis, one writer reflects on the importance of her longtime friends.

If I could offer any advice to young couples today it would be to find friends like we are blessed to have. Find friends who share or honor your faith. Find friends who are committed to their marriages and families. Find friends who are brave enough to keep you accountable. Find friends who accept you, believe in you, and build you up. Find friends who want to have fun.

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Do you keep score in your marriage? Stop.

Striving For An Equal Marriage? That May Be Why It's Failing

Why keeping a scorecard is the worst thing for your marriage—and how to put it away.

What is the fruit of half a century of self-absorption? Whereas one researcher points to issues such as a reduction in civic responsibility and community service, and a lack of concern over broader societal issues, I see implications for marriage… and they are that are not good.

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Do you have an extensive checklist for your dating life?

Please, Put Down Your Dating Checklist Already

A Christian woman discusses how to keep from settling, yet still be open minded.

Lists: we all have them. Many relationship experts and dating websites advise people to make lists so they might understand exactly what they are looking for in a mate. The goal, perhaps, is to add a bit of logic to an otherwise illogical process of falling for someone, and a little logic never hurt anyone, right?

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Don't lose the spark after your kids are grown.

3 Ways To Avoid "Gray Divorce"

One writer reveals how to beat the rising trend in divorce amongst older couples.

The good news is that the overall rate of divorce in the US is declining. The bad news is that among those fifty years of age and older, the rate of divorce has doubled over the last two decades. In 1990, married couples in this age group accounted for just one in ten divorces. In 2009, that number jumped to nearly one in four. The study also found that the divorce rate was 2.5 times higher for those in this age group who had previous marriages.

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Resentment is normal. You just have to learn to work it out and work through it.

Do You Secretly Resent Your Spouse?

One writer reflects on the object of resentment in her marriage—which saved her husband's life.

My husband joined a gym. He lost ten pounds. In a matter of months, he started to look like Popeye. And to my embarrassment, I resented that.

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Have Women Defined Their Freedom In Sexual Liberation?

After seeing 'Magic Mike,' one writer wonders if women have fallen into a cultural trap.

Out of the many themes explored in Magic Mike—themes, such as, capitalism, gender roles, and sexual ethics—the most compelling of all was an exploration of what it means to be liberated. How does our society define liberation? How do we obtain it?

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Is your guy this tight with his mom?

4 Ways A Mother-Son Relationship Can Affect Your Marriage

Whether it's strained or he's a mama's boy, your man's bond with his mother will explain a lot.

A mother and son's relationship directly affects yours and your partner's relationship, too; the way you handle certain situations as a couple, the way you make decisions, the way you manage your household.

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Are you still focused on the past? Which way will you be taking your marriage?

"Why After 30 Years Of Marriage, The Best Is Yet To Come"

As he celebrates his 30th anniversary, one writer reveals how to keep marriage bliss still ahead.

My lovely wife and I will be celebrating 30 years of marriage this week. We are continually amazed at how each year finds us closer and more in love than the year before, and although it is hard to imagine, we both feel that the best years of our marriage are yet to come. That's how I think it should be. Sadly, I often see marriage portrayed as all downhill after the honeymoon. So is less sex, more fights, poorer communication and drifting apart really the inevitable? With a nod to the movie 'Date Night,' is it really just a matter of time before couples settle for becoming just "excellent roommates?" I say no!

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Have you ever tried playing Cupid?

The Rules Of Playing Matchmaker For Your Friends

One writer plays Cupid to her two good friends, and talks about the boundaries she will not cross.

Matchmaking is an old practice. On the frontier, because farms were far apart and it was hard to meet other eligible singles, families used dances to set up their children. In medieval times, Catholic clergymen and Jewish rabbis played Cupid within their communities. For centuries, European royalty consistently matched up their heirs-to-the-throne with heirs from other countries for diplomatic alliances. So this matchmaking business? It's not a new thing.