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Is He Afraid Of Commitment, Or Just Afraid Of A Wrong Decision?

A man's issues with commitment may have nothing to do with you.

Are men afraid of commitment? Or are they more afraid of getting it wrong? With a high divorce rate and the Yen and dollar fluctuating the way it is, can you ever be sure? The goal is to avoid buyer's remorse by not making the panic purchase.

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Is The Problem With Condoms The Cost?

New York's latest STI-fighting effort involves an app that helps you find free prophylactics.

The city of New York has a major STD awareness campaign in full swing. And any responsible STD awareness campaign also includes solutions. In this case, the city is giving away free condoms. In addition the city is giving away a treasure map to these free condoms in the form of a smart phone app that leads safe sex-conscious folks to the free condom distribution centers. Will free condoms help? What about an app for finding them? Are these places open all night?

Valentine's Day Nerd

Best Of The Web: V-Day & Break Up With Your Ex

Plus cheating and Owen Wilson movies.

Is the Hall Pass anti-marriage. Are men programmed to cheat? Do guys have painful sex? Bedroom etiquette. Avoiding Valentine's Day cliches. Common mistakes men make on V-Day. How to avoid Valentine's Day entirely. What other places turn a man on? Playing hard to get works? How gay marriage will lead to robot marriage. And it's time to break up with your ex, y'all.

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Dang. Is Porn To Blame For All This ED?

Is porn to blame for lackluster sex? Or is that just a poor excuse?

A couple of weeks ago, a fellow by the name of Davy Rothbart wrote a piece for New York Magazine that was one part confessional and one part trend piece about dudes being unable to do the deed with a real life lady because of the amount of porn they've consumed. Is porn really the villain?

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We Could All Use A Makeover Now And Again

Everyone feels better after a little makeover.

As part of our Love Life Makeover series, we gave a recently jilted woman an actual makeover. It's amazing what a little shopping spree and a new hairdo will do for a lady's self-esteem. Enjoy Dr. Diana Kirschner's advice on how prepare for a great new you.

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Maybe You Should Try This Anti-Dating Site

Would you use a dating site that's partially a parody?

For the most part, there are two strategies with online dating: it's either a number's game or a matter of niche. But is it possible to be too niche? For instance, Impersonals.net is in many ways a homage to traditional dating sites, but it's also a parody. While its features and first-person accounts are funny, will people tuse a site that makes a joke of the whole dating experience?

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10 Signs You Might Need To Break Up With Your Ex

A little advice, Jeff Foxworthy-style, about breakups.

February 13th is the day to Break Up With Your Ex. And given Jeff Foxworthy's immense popularity in past decades, we thought we'd break it down with 10 signs you really need to sever your digital and social media ties to your ex.

Emotional Vampire

Best Of The Web: Emotional Vampires & Hitting On Dudes

Plus why dudes don't initiate divorces and how not to hit on a man at a bar.

Why men don't initiate divorces. Put a little wiggle back in your relationship. How to get rid of an emotional vampire. How not to hit on a dude at a bar. When you realize your relationship is just an extended booty call. Eye-contact during sex? Can virgins date non-virgins. Sex And The City ruined everything. Did you know young dudes are more apt to settle down? Engagement ultimatums just don't work. What if your boyfriend still has a dating profile? Ten goofy Valentine's Day promotions. And how to make your V-Day not terrible.

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Do Naked Ladies Improve The Super Bowl?

Does Super Bowl XLV need more sexiness?

For decades, cheerleaders were enough sexiness to offset the violence of football. But now, it looks like that's not enough. From Janet Jackson to the Lingerie Bowl to Dallas' stripper deficiency to Ryan Pickett's anti-Internet porn stance, has the game gotten full of too many sex images?

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Don't Make Out At This Hindu Temple

PDA will not be tolerated at the Pashupati temple.

In a spot of weird news, a Kathmandu Hindu temple is outlawing PDA. Evidently, courting young lovers use the temple's grounds of canoodling and the pandits think they should take it more seriously. To whit, anyone found courting will be hit with a fine that amounts to about $7. Take that, young libertines.