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Swedish Crown Princess Victoria and Daniel Westling

Creating A Gender-Neutral Fairy Tale For My Family

On June 19, Swedish Crown Princess Victoria will marry Daniel Westling, a commoner and personal trainer turned, literally, into a prince. This marriage is a fairy tale that everyone I know—my very egalitarian wife included—has embraced. So why am I so turned off?

couple watching their baby from the couch

How To Buy A House With A Family In Mind

For four years, our one-bedroom condo felt tight. Now, with plans to start a family, we're finally planning that long-awaited upgrade. We've been dreaming about the perfect home for years but, with plans to procreate, it's not just about us anymore.

couple jogging together

Taking Off The Baby Weight Together

I had a lot of sympathy for my wife when she was pregnant. And I proved it at the dinner table, at the lunch buffet and at Sunday brunch. I like to tell people that I gained sympathy weight during these times, though I suspect it was actually just "feeling justified to eat as much crap as I want" weight. But after we had our second kid, the time came to face the scales and take off the baby weight, together.

father and daughter playing video games

Parenting Conflict? Make Sure Your Kid Wins

Not having to win is a pretty good quality when one is part of a couple, especially when that couple has to parent together and, by the way, also wants to stay in love. We've disagreed plenty over the years about child-rearing issues—and still do. Yet we usually manage to be sure that it's the kids who win in the end.

small home sitting on money

When Family Grows Faster Than Your Bank Account

My wife is addicted to porn—real estate porn. See, we live in less than 500 square feet. With a toddler and a baby, both of whom are growing rapidly, alongside their also-growing piles of stuff. We have a north-facing balcony that gets no sun until late afternoon, if at all. Plus, we live on the first floor, and have to deal with crowds from the Swedish national soccer stadium down the street. So she dreams a bit. Fantasizes. And the big newspaper here in Sweden gives her all the real estate porn she needs.

unhappy couple in bed

How To Get Pregnant When Your Sex Life Is Sub-Par

We've all heard how sex lives can suffer once you have kids. First, because of the damage that occurs to a woman's nether regions during childbirth. Then, because of the tenderness of a woman's vaginal lining—in addition to hormonal fluctuations—in the months after childbirth. And then? Well, there's the lack of time, and the exhaustion that comes from being a parent (and a spouse, and a fully functioning individual). There's the magnification of the madonna/whore complex that can occur after you pop one out. There's the reshuffling of your affections, and the sometimes attendant resentments that can result from this. This doesn't worry me. After all, our sex life already sucks.

couple on couch drinking coffee and reading newspaper

3 Zen Ways To Keep Connected After Having Kids

When you have small children, you have little control over your life. My wife and I feel this as much as anyone. We live in less than 500 square feet with a 3-year-old and a 15-month-old. We've moved across the Atlantic twice since we got married five years ago. We've endured serious health issues and two kids who just refuse to sleep. And yet we are (barely) sane. Here are 3 slightly counterintuitive, Zen-inspired reasons why.